My ex and I have seperated. He has moved on with his life. I have recently found out that I am pregnant with his child. I know that he does not want children. I suspect that his reaction would be "abortion." I desperately want this child - I have wanted motherhood for a long time now. Up to this point I have said nothing to him. How do I tell him? Should I tell him?
2007-03-14 07:42:24 · 17 answers · asked by Rainie 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You should deffinitly tell him. He has a right to know. Of course, since you are carring the baby, it is your decesion whether to keep the baby or not. If he does not want the baby, be ready to support yourself and the baby on your own.
Good luck!
2007-03-14 07:46:36 · answer #1 · answered by mangalangadude 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
This happened to me to .I had been told i never would have kids by a Dr so there was no way I wasn't going to have my little miracle.
You need to tell him and let him go. He will decide what he wants to do about the situation himself. Get him for child support its your babies right not yours and its not your right to refuse it even if he has nothing to do with the child.
For me it took a year for him to decide he was ready for children and then he started taking her regular and even would help me out by taking her when I had to work. After a while we decided to try things again(we honestly were not at a settle down point when I got pregnant) and after 3 years and a new son we got married December 31.2006. I don't mean this will happen for you but after living together for the better part of those three years I'm very that things went the way they did. I am also happy for the yea I was a single mom it was incredibly rewarding and it really made me stronger.
Good Luck with your little one and no matter what you can do it. Just make sure if you ever do get back with dad you do it because you want to not because you think you are trapped to.
2007-03-14 14:56:44 · answer #2 · answered by emmandal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not have a abortion bc of a bad realtionship. it will be tuff being a single mom, but you will be so happy the first time you feel a kick, the first time you hear the heart beat, the first time you see the baby move on a ultraound, and the day the baby is born and the doctors hold the baby to you..... oooo, just pray realy hard. if the lord did not want you to have this baby, then he would not have blessed you. but he did. this baby and you deserve happienest, and yall will get it.
dont worry about the X. he does need to know. but, it is not his dission. just let him know, and back off. dont let him know that it bothers you to walk away. he will first say you are lieing and you are jkust doing this to try and get him back. you look at him and smile, and say, "i just you should know".... just walk away, if he is a man than he will help you no matter what. if he is not a man, it is better to find out now!
good luck and say a prayer, GOD will no let you down.
2007-03-14 14:51:42 · answer #3 · answered by april 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your time!
First of all, he is out of your life - so this is your decision and yours alone. Take the time you need, to make your decision, whether or not you want this baby. Once you are sure, inform him of your decision (I think, he has a right to know, that he is becoming a father and there are some duties coming up for him, like child support) - but make it clear, that there is no room for discussion.
A simple old fashioned letter is probably the best way to inform your ex . That way you separate a bit the stress of having to inform him and formulating your announcement from the stress of receiving his answer.
2007-03-14 16:12:33 · answer #4 · answered by LGM 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is -
DO NOT have and abortion if you despratley want the child
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DO NOT feel guitly that you want to keep it and he doesnt.
I had an abortion because I love my friend so much I wanted to do what he wanted - even there was no pressure from him, I though I was doing the right thing.
I miss my baby so much and a part of me died that day
2007-03-14 14:50:03 · answer #5 · answered by Minxy m 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You definitely have to tell him, the sooner the better you don't want to carry that around with you the rest of your pregnancy. Just make sure what you want is a child, because if your doing it to get back with him that probably wont work. Good luck!!!
2007-03-14 14:51:27 · answer #6 · answered by Looking for the REAL answer! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you be with a person in the first place that did'nt want children, and you knew there was a chance you could become pregnant?
Of course you have to tell him, and he can't force you to abort.
2007-03-14 14:46:54 · answer #7 · answered by shadycaliber 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell him. Even if he wants you to get an abortion, it's ultimately your decision. If you want the child, have the child. You don't need him in your life to raise the child. Good luck!!
2007-03-14 14:46:18 · answer #8 · answered by tinktink20 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him you are pregnant, and that you are keeping the baby. If he chooses to not be a part of the child's life, then he can pay child support.
2007-03-14 14:45:24 · answer #9 · answered by MILF 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him. Don't expect him to be nice about it, but he does deserve to know. However, when you tell him, make it clear to him that abortion is NOT an option and that it's just something he's gonig to have to live with ~ after all it's your reality every minute of every day now.
I don't know much about his nature or how easy he is to anger, but you might want to have someone with you and tell him in a public place.
2007-03-14 14:51:55 · answer #10 · answered by bluegrass 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you definately should tell him because if he took part in the act he deserves to know, no matter what his opinion....
i say its your body, you decide...i had the same thing happen to me and my ex went right for abortion but i didnt want that...i decided to do what i wanted to do because he no longer controlled me since we were separated.
tell him that u know this is not going to be easy to take but that u are pregnant and just wanted him to know because you felt he had the right to know that he had created something beautiful with you and that theres no pressure on his part and he can decide to do whatever he wants, just as you too will be doing
2007-03-14 14:49:20 · answer #11 · answered by mixdupblondie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋