What do you do when you feel all alone? My Dad died and 5 months later my Mom died then 5 months later my older Brother died. After that I moped around and 5 months later I had a heart attack. I guess I was blessed as I came out of it only to worry more. I just do not like even facing the world as I have only ventured out of the house about 10 times in the last 2 years and then only to the bank and to the store. Suicide is not a option and neither is anti depressents. I should feel lucky as I have a wonderful wife but I just feel empty without my family. I do not dicuss it with my wife as I do not want to burden her with it. Counseling does not work as they are human to and have thier own problems and it cost allot of money for just thier opinion. I love life but just cant figure out why I was left here alone. I would give anything to be with my mom and dad and I am 51 years old I love them so very much and miss them dearly. I wonder will I just sit here and die alone to.
2007-03-14 07:34:52 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
you are not alone, you are married. Imagine what your wife went through when you were hospitalized for a heart attack and might die. That you lost all your family so close together like that, is indeed tragic, and I am sorry for your loss. Seems to me you need to give yourself time and permission to grieve their loss, and then some more time to grieve the loss of your health and positive self image. That your wife is understanding, and wants to help is a good thing, but she is not trained to be able to meet your needs. A therapist does not offer opinions, nor does a therapist offer answers. A therapists job is to assist you in finding your way out of your depression. So I suggest you stop finding reasons why you can't go to a therapist and find some reasons why you can. It would likely be helpful if you wife went with you as well.
2007-03-14 07:42:38 · answer #1 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear about your lose but everything happens for a reason and you can't live your last years depressed. You really need to get out and meet new people, people you can talk to. Its good sometimes to talk about your problems but sometimes you may need to try to talk about other things so you don't get down. I think you will be fine just start living for yourself your mom and dad would love to see you happy. Remember that are always in your heart and you will see them on the other side! Best wishes!
2007-03-14 14:42:46 · answer #2 · answered by Casey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know its hard but all u can do is live for yourself and your wife nothing you can do will bring them back and im sure they wouldnt want you do waste the rest of your life miserable, just kno that someday u will reunite but until then just get out and start doing things take your wife out somewhere nice, buy her a gift or flowers to show how much u love her for seeing u thru these rough times, let her kno thsat she is not 'alone' in this relationship, do something spontanius it will b nice trust me i know! my sons father committed suicide valentines day 1995 and it took me 10 years to get on with my life. and we have a son who is now 15, i wasted his years too with my depression. life is too precious dont waste anymore, be thankful u r not alone in this and talk to her, trust me, she is there for u and wants u to be happy, the better the communication the happier u will become! good luck
2007-03-14 14:44:35 · answer #3 · answered by shannonlee05@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try go to church and talk to god about your problems.. Praying does help.. i hope things go better for you.. Start writing all the positive things you have in your life too. Like your wife..If you have a pet that helps..Also remember you are never alone in this world..
2007-03-14 14:44:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so very sorry for your loss..... do you hang out w/ friends? go out to eat? enjoy your self and have a good time.... when i am down and sad it is hard to get the bad things out of your mind.... my mom always tells me to think of the good things in life like your wife for instance. most of the time it kind of takes my mind off of it.... i also play games or something just to keep the bad things off of your mind......
2007-03-14 14:42:21 · answer #5 · answered by bernie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not alone. You have your wife.
Do you belong to a Church or Temple? You might want to try connecting with your faith.
2007-03-14 14:38:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've lost both parents AND a sister.
Get off the cross, we need the wood.
2007-03-14 14:38:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
pray to god and have hope
email me if you want
2007-03-14 14:39:21 · answer #8 · answered by mkandfa4rever 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋