a little while ago i asked a question about what i should do about my boyfiend wanting to join the army. Truth is i love him with all my heart and dont want to lose him, but his reason for joining is stupid his reason is to make my mom shut up about him, The real problem is that i lost someone that i cared about it the army and i dont want to lose him to. Im glad he wants to do this but i dont want him to go on the reason he has for going. I love him and dont want to lose him. what should i do about this?
2007-03-14 07:32:29 · 21 answers · asked by vixen63_babygirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your Mom should have shut up a long time ago. His motivation for going into the army does not serve himself, you, and the army well. It is OK for you to say you don't want him to get killed. You must tell him this and that if he chooses to go, it is the act of a patriot and not because of the caustic chatter of your Mom who can not leave well enough alone.
2007-03-14 07:47:01 · answer #1 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If hes doing things to impress your mom it wont work. She doesnt like him for a reason, and signing up for the army isnt going to change it. You might wanna start by letting him know he'd be in the army, doing what hes told when hes told for the amount of years hes under contract. Also that you could break up last month, and he'd still be in the army maybe being shot at in Iraq. If this is something he wants to do then you except it or move on.
2007-03-14 14:37:37 · answer #2 · answered by letthepartybeginnow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk to you mom, about what ever she said that has made him feel like this is the only way she will approve of him. She has made a strong impression somehow, probably said he would never be anything, and well the military is one way of being somebody. She needs to make him feel like he is good enough to her, because obviously her opinion matters to him. Dont' keep talking to him, it sounds like his mind is made up. Talk to your mom about how much this is hurting you that you might lose him if he were(and most likely will) called to war. He might not be hurt or killed over there, but he also may not come back the same person. TRUST ME.
You are not going to change his mind if you haven't already, if you want to make sure his reason is better than some comment your mom made, then she needs to talk to him.
2007-03-14 14:39:53 · answer #3 · answered by casady96 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him that this is his life and your life and you will never make your parents happy all the time. So if his reason is joining to make your mom shut up then he really needs to reconsider is your mom worth him losing his life or does he want to keep his life and be with you and not worry about what your mom thinks. Mom will eventually get over it and like him once she see's how he makes you happy.
2007-03-14 14:37:53 · answer #4 · answered by harleychickfatboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the real reason why you dont want him to join the army maybe then he will understand
2007-03-14 14:36:40 · answer #5 · answered by Brandi S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him how you feel and that you feel like this because you lost someone in the army and also let your mother know in a nice way that she is putting to much pressure on him and it's making him won't to do crazy things to prove his self to her
2007-03-14 14:39:54 · answer #6 · answered by netta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be supportive of him. I know the army is scary, but if you support his decisions and then become his wife, you'll have lots of great benefits that us civilians don't have and you'll have a husband you can be proud of. Let him do what he wants to do and say, "That's so great honey, I'm so proud of you". Be better than his nagging mother.
2007-03-14 14:36:19 · answer #7 · answered by Kyle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real thuth is he has a better chance over there than on the roads here. Keep a real man than try a safe one. Your love alone will keep him safe. Remember WW11 and know this is WW111 and know he is special.
2007-03-14 14:38:46 · answer #8 · answered by Scott B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well........if he wants 2 join the army then that's his decision.
But, do u want 2 take the risk of losing your love?
Talk it over and ifthis didn't help u,then let it be.
Sincerly,
Ashleigh
2007-03-14 14:38:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him EXACTLY what you just told us. If he can't respect that then maybe you two shouldn't be together...I know that it hurts...but if he can't take honesty....then that's not a good sign...What you are doing is not selfish, however it all depends on how serious you 2 are. You say boyfriend so I don't know what the commitment is like...
2007-03-14 14:35:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋