how do I tell her I don't love her?

Answer 1

tell her...she deserves to know.
even if shes hurt, in time she'll get over it....but if you lead her on it will make it much worse for her.

Answer 2

Be honest and gentle. Those are hard words to hear especially if she loves you. The best way, (I think) is to have an adult conversation without distractions and just be as honest as you can. It will hurt, but she needs to know the truth. Even if you dont love her, it sounds like you at least care otherwise you would not tell her anything and just burn out, so just keep reminding yourself that loving someone and caring about them are different. Basically what I am saying is remember that you DO care while you telling her that you DON'T love her. If she is a good person, she will respect you more in the long run for being honest!

Answer 3

Just tell her. There is no way to sugar coat it. She will feel you don't love her no matter the excuse. If you tell her now you will be free and she will also be free to move on. It might hurt her at first but trust me she will move on and in a few months she might not even remember your name. I say this because I have been on both sides. I have been totally devestated, but now that I look back it was for the best and I can even laugh about it.

Answer 4

There is absolutely no easy way to tell her or let her down softly. You just have to do it quick. Don't beat around the bush, just come out and say it. Just say...."I don't know an easy way to say this, but I am just not in love with you". Just tell her shes a great person and that someone will be lucky to be with her, but you two aren't a match. Just tell her your personalities don't mesh. Good luck........and take tissues(for her of course).

Oh, and don't do it in a public place like a restaurant or something. Do it at your house or hers. That way she wont cry in front of a bunch of people and be embarrassed or humiliated.

Answer 5

Id think it over a lot more first. Wow, you have someone who really loves you, thats amazing. I tell you what though, you can meet your ideal woman, but youre always going to remember that girl, because she loved with all her heart. I guess you never know how much it huts until it has happened to you.

Answer 6

Don't go there unless she asks you in those words.
And anyway, if you care enough to want to put it in a decent way, then THAT is love.
Not lust, not attraction.
That's love.
Anytime we put another's feelings on our priority list, we show an act of love.
You just don't want the ROMance involved.
That's different.
Maybe that will help you put your words into perspective- you can be honest, and not say you outright don't love her.
Good luck to you both.

Answer 7

Straight up, face to face, like a man. Be prepared to get hit, or lend a hankie, or get laughed at. Once can never tell what's going to happen.

Remember, " Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned".

So don't scorn her, tell her frankly, and honestly ( she won't believe you, but be honest anyway, just not hurtful, like telling her she's ugly or a poor lover)

Answer 8

You come out and tell her the truth. I know it sounds stupid but its the best way to do it. If you make stuff up and beat around the bush it will never work. Go out with some honor. You will thank me for it later.

Answer 9

Just tell her, I know its hard, trust me. It's going to be really hard, Just don't tell her over the phone and don't tell her through text message and definately DON'T TELL HER THROUGH MYSPACE.

Just meet her in person and tell her straight up, but that you just didn't want to hurt her bad or anything.

Good Luck
-Kryistal

Answer 10

Tell her just that, no need to be mean. It happens with people. She would not want you to lie. You and she will get over it and move on, Good Luck

Answer 11

Not in words but in your actions. You will break her heart if you tell her. Instead, just extinguish her feelings for you by ignoring her and not even acknowledging her existence. After about a week or two, she will back off and move on.