I have problem with fiancee about looking at girl. Wherever we go, he is looking at girl. We argued many times and talked but didn't work. We had same problem yesterday and he was like "you have low self-esteem and I was just looking, I didn't do anything wrong" .
I am worried about future. If we argue about this, we will not be happy. Do you guy think I am so sensetive?
2007-03-14 07:18:33 · 20 answers · asked by BBABO 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Been there, done that!!!... You want to know what worked for me? I looked at men too!!! HAHAHA I mentioned this issue to my finance once... only once... he didn't acknowledge how disrespectful that was to me... So I never brought it up again, but payback is a biatch... I said to myself "if he can look why can't I?" so I started looking - HEY there is a LOT of hot men out there. And his ego went to hell, he went nuts about it, and I gave him the "HEY I AM JUST LOOKING" crap... He then decided that it was disrespectful and that neither of us should do it... Regardless of what is out there, your man should feel lucky and be great full of what he has, so he should give you the respect you deserve or someone else will. Good luck.
2007-03-14 07:30:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You pretty much answered your own question when you first asked it. This whole ordeal is "your" problem. So stop being overly sensitive and get over it. Your fiancee will always look at other women. He has eyes and that's what they're meant for....to look. If he's marrying you, then you already have him by the balls. Quit trying to take the poor man's eyes too. There is no harm in looking as I'm sure you well know since you must look at other guys.
2007-03-14 07:29:50 · answer #2 · answered by Gunner For Life! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actual, your ending advice, on a similar time as tongue in cheek, is especially close to to the mark. you have tried each and every thing you will possibly be able to desire to to handle her, to delight her, to be what you think of she needs...and she or he's lost all admire for you. you have 2 selections: a million. go away her. this could be an proper determination in the previous she will rob you of a million/2 your stuff once you get married. 2. remedy the subject. end being a wuss and arise for your self. If she starts off drama, tell her to end it. as quickly as. If she keeps doing it, go away the room or kick her out. do no longer play her video games. Refuse to bend whilst it rather is important to you, and don't brook any form of BS from her. quickly, be a guy. it sort of feels actual insane that females might want to be taken care of like this, yet I promise you that it works. She does not want to be your "equivalent"; she needs you to take can charge. in case you sink to her point, she'll only proceed to pull you down.
2016-10-18 09:15:12 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that you are sensitive at all and it doesnt mean that your lacking self esteem. First of all I think that its very disrecpectful that he is with you and looking at other girls. Maybe you should try doing the same and see how he reacts and if he doesnt react in any way then I dont know what else to tell you. Good luck
2007-03-14 07:23:06 · answer #4 · answered by Star 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might need to actually work on your issues before the marriage. A man is gonna look. Thats just all there is to it. If he never has given you a reason to not trust him dont worry about the looking. After all who is he marrying?
2007-03-14 07:24:01 · answer #5 · answered by michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not to sensitive, if he is engaged to you then he should be totally in love and only wanting you. Anyway he can look and not make it so obvious that he is looking,he really don't care about your feelings. You should be engaged to a man who is only into you and no one else. This should work like wise, you should only want him and not have a wondering eye - good luck
2007-03-14 08:55:42 · answer #6 · answered by Rosie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should try talkign to your man instead of fighting with him. Tell him that you find it very disrepectful when he checks out other girls directly in front of you. He should love and respect you enough to not do that. He's eventually going to look at another woman, but I do agree that he doesn't need to disrespect you like that. Ya'll need to sit down and you need to vioce your concerns about how it makes you feel. I'm sure you are jealous.
2007-03-14 07:23:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with looking..when you show guys you care then they'll do it more often or do it on purpose to see you jealous..that makes them feel more machos!! so act like you dont care and dont worry about it...as long as there no touching or flirting its ok...learn to trust you need that in a relationship!!
2007-03-14 07:22:43 · answer #8 · answered by Alejandra2008 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just like any other guys. The worst thing is, some guys actually look and fantasize. That's how sick men are. What you could do is let him realize you could look at men too. Why don't you start looking at some other guys too. Let him be jealous.
2007-03-14 07:26:20 · answer #9 · answered by Inquirer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can get through your problem and work them out together than I think you guys will be just fine.If you both have a hard time working things out than I would give it time before you start thinking about marriage.
2007-03-14 07:23:38 · answer #10 · answered by cynomynG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋