is it wrong for me to ask god to help me and my husband to conceive a baby?

Question

Here is my situation, me and my husband want a baby, but for some reason I can not conceive naturally. We cna afford to raise a child, however we can not afford to get fertility treatment, just to have a baby. Do you think that god did not plan for me to have children, or it is just not my time, I have been trying for 7 years. Is my faith in him not strong enough or what? I know that I am not supposed to ask him why certain things are the way they are, but sometimes I feel that I am loosing my faith in him, because the word said ask an ye shall receive, but I have been asking for a long time and still don't have a clue if I am even able to bear children, and it really is affceting my life, and at this point I am ready t o stop trying and take it as I will never have children. What is your inspiration, or feedback on this. This question is for beleivers in christ. thank you.

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Answer 1

no it is not wrong for this request

Answer 2

I am a very strong believer in Christ and I don't know the answer to your question just as much as you don't know it either,but i can say that if you truly believe and you keep your faith no matter what if you are meant to have a child you will,my first guess would be see your doctor and have him/her make sure you are even able to conceive, then go from there,there are all different kinds of test out there that show you when is the best time to conceive,and they are way less expensive as fertility drugs. Although in the end there is always adoption which can be just like having your own child,there are so many babies out there that need a loving home too. So I'm sorry all i have to offer is ideas and really no answers,but i will defiantly pray for the two of you and only time will tell. KEEP YOUR FAITH NO MATTER WHAT!! God does great things,even when you least expect it!!

Answer 3

Well, I am not a follower of Christ, but I am a religious Jew. Let me just share with you the words of Rabitzen (Rabbi's wife) Toby Katz, a teacher of Jewish History, on the matter. She has experienced the same problem that you have experienced and can best offer an incite into your situation.

There is prayer and there is prayer. The more trouble a person is in, the more intensely he turns to G-d. The Sages say that our Mothers, Sarah, Rivka and Rachel—all of whom were infertile—were given the trials they were given because G-d desired their prayers. They were already the most righteous women who ever lived, certainly on a much much higher level than you or me—yet it was precisely BECAUSE of their high level that G-d wanted them to pray even more. Their prayers become something like a permanent cosmic treasure, like a bank account from which all their children can continue to draw, down through the ages. The prayers of those who are closest to G-d are the most precious to Him. Human nature is what it is—even in the greatest, most spiritual people—and the fact is, when things are going along smoothly and we don’t particularly need anything, we tend not to pray with the same intensity.

God gives each and every person EXACTLY what he or she needs to perform his mission in the world. No one can be compared to anyone else. Each person is given the tools he needs to accomplish what God had in mind for HIM —and sometimes what a person needs to grow great—believe it or not—is challenges, hardships and difficulties! The greater the person, the more difficult the challenges he faces. Only at the end of a life is it possible to look back and see exactly why each thing had to be—what was the purpose, what was the mission? This is in the World to Come. In this world, we do not know God’s intentions but we do know that whatever He does is ultimately to our benefit.

I hope that her words will help you. These words have helped a friend of mine. He and his wife have been trying to have a baby for four years. On Dec., 5, 2006 a healthy baby boy was born.

I wish you all the luck.

Answer 4

No, you should absolutely ask God. There are certain blessing that will only come about if you ask for them. However, you must do all you can do. Now that doesn't mean go into debt to get the fertility treatments, but there are fertilitiy calendars out there that you can use, and if you can you can go to the doctor to see if you can physically/biologically have a child. That shouldn't cost too much (but I really don't know).
It could be that you need to adopt. I know of several couples who try and try and finally decide to adopt and by the time the adoption goes through, they're pregnant. It's like God was saying You and this little child need to be together. Don't loose faith. Some families aren't blessed to have their own biological children, but through adoption they can still have children in their home.
There are several couples at church that are having a hard time conceiving too. You are not alone. God loves you. And I don't pretend to know for sure, but He may want you to do something else, like be a Mother to children who are already in this world, or be one of the MUCH needed foster families. There are all kinds of things He may have in store for you and it MAY be contengent on not having biological children of your own.
But I do think you should try to see if you are able to have children. That would take away a lot of the suspense, I think. Keep praying, and consider a family fast for you and your husband. Dedicate the fast to knowing if you will give birth to your own children. Have you ever fasted before? It's a WONDERFUL way to draw closer to God. When you fast and search for answers during the fast with an honest heart, believing you will recieve an answer, it will come. Try fasting for 24 hours/two meals. It's easier if you do it say for Saturday supper, and Sunday breakfast, then break the fast with a simple meal on Sunday lunch. Be sure to pray before/at the beginning of the fast and at the end of the fast, as well as anyother time. There's just something about going without food and drink and coupling that with prayer and thanksgiving that just seems to answer prayers.

Answer 5

I think you can ask God to bring a child into your life - if your open to treatments or foster or adoption he will make it happen for you - maybe not in your ideal - but in his own way.

I believe just as there are people that cannot conceive - there are children born to women that do not or cannot keep them. I also believe that God helps those that help themselves. If you truly want a baby and believe that you would make a wonderful mother - then work towards a baby. I don't believe that in seven years, you haven't had the time to save up for some type of treatment - have you been fully examined? Has your husband? Are you of the appropriate age to conceive?

Have you looked into adoption? Do you have any idea how many children there are in foster care wishing and hoping and PRAYING for a mother to love them?
If you aren't interested in adopting a child then I don't think you are truly that desperate to be a mother. If your not than maybe you aren't as ready as you think...

Answer 6

My girlfriend thought that she could not get pregnant and she and her husband ended up adopting a baby. After they adopted the baby then she ended up pregnant. If your not able to get pregnant then try adopting. There are lots of unwanted children in this world and I am sure that you would both make wonderful parents to a beautiful child. Good Luck and have faith. I know that it's sometimes hard to understand why God does the things that he does but I always believe that there is a reason for everything happening the way that it does.

Answer 7

I could be mean and not answer your question as you specifically stated, "This question is for believers in Christ."
However, let's pretend you never wrote those words.

First of all, my first advice to you. Stop trying to have a baby! When you "try" to have a baby then you could make yourself have stress. When your body undergoes stress then that signals to your body not to release an egg! There are so many stories about women who gave up and the next thing they knew they were pregnant!

Secondly, are you having sex around your ovulation days? There are so many sites that explain this.

Third, maybe you can save money for fertility treatment?

I hope everything works out for you. Have you considered adoption? There are so many children that need a mommy and daddy. You don't need to be biological mother to be a parent to a child in need. Maybe God plans for you to be a mother to a child who needs parents? I will keep you in my prayers.

P.S. Never give up on your faith!

Answer 8

I am in the EXACT same situation as you!!! I have finally decided that God knows that I might not be able to handle having a baby then losing it or raising a child to a certain age and losing it, and maybe that is what would happen. So now I just pray that whatever happens is God's will because I know I could never deal with losing my child. It's hard to make sense of it though. Hang in there! (Someone once said that God does answer prayers, it's just that sometimes the answer is "no".)

Good luck. :)

Answer 9

There is a reason for everything even if we see no reason thee. it could be that God does not plan for you to have a baby, however he also may plan for you to adopt your baby or an older child.
Some of God's greatest gifts, are unanswered prayers. It may be just a son, but it has a lot of truth in it.
You may find that you'll be happier with an adopted baby than your own, knowing you helped a child that was already here that needed you.
We are in the process of home study to adopt. If you want some advice,let me know.
May God bless you. You sound like a good person, of which God will enlighten with joy. Pray and ask of what God has for you more than what you want for God. You may find an answer, you will receive.

Answer 10

I am going through the same situation. I have been trying for a year and a half to get preagnant and it hasnt worked. I started getting so pissed off at God and everything. I decided to start praying EVERY DAY ALL DAY but then i realized maybe we dont have enough money or maybe if i had a baby right now it wouldnt be healthy so i asked God to let me have one ONLY if it is the right time. I would rather have a healthy baby later in time then a sick baby NOW. It will happen for you!

Answer 11

Ohh Hun i know the pain your in! My husband and i were told we would not be able to have a child of our own... and i was so heart broken. We continued to pray for a baby for 2 years and started looking into adoption.
I even had my bible study class praying for us on the subject!
to make a long story short.. we had just about given up i started to think that having children was just not in God's plan for me..
i found out i was pregnant this past July and am due in 10 days!

Keep praying, ask others to pray for you.
Sometimes the answer is found in the "wait"
and something i had come to terms with was sometimes the answer is No.
Best of luck
Be Blessed
I will pray for you