ok so I'm not gonna say that i'm in love with my current boyfriend but I have DEEP feelings for him anyway, my boyfriend is Black and i'm White and I live with my mom who doesn't care who i date as long as they put a smile on my face and treat me with respect we are good BUT my dad on the other hand is totally against it and so is my brother. But my brother and my dad don't see me when I'm not with my boyfriend and they don't see how happy I am with him. But they don't care about that because he is black it is wrong. and it is soo unfair because like ok my dad is like black people are low but my thing is there are ALOT of low white boys too but my dad or brother doesn't see that. And what is really bad is my dad has already disowned me and "Kicked" me out of his family because i have dated a black guy before and I Love My dad but at the same time I'm just like whatever if he really loved me it wouldn't matter the color of his skin. What should I do?Should I break up w/him B/C of dad?
2007-03-14 07:14:12 · 10 answers · asked by NavyBaby09 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay so I took the advice and i am still with my boyfriend and we are very happy but this weekend is St. Patty's day and my brother is coming down and my boyfriend and him don't get along very well because my brother(older) thinks EVERY guy I hang out with is going to take advantage of me and my boyfriend is NOTHING like that. He is a true gentleman. But I invited my boyfriend over Saturday night to watch a movie but my brother is coming down this weekend and wants to hang out Saturday night and get drunk and i don't really drink I have never been drunk and I have only really had a shot of captain in a can of coke so I'm not a drinker but my brother is and he wants me to get drunk with him and like I LOVE hanging out with my brother but I also rather hang out with my boyfriend. My mom doesn't want me to go to hand out with my brother and i totally agree with her. But it also is my brother. What should I do?
2007-03-16 07:32:59 · update #1
Your case is very difficult - love versus family (dad). I can fully understand you, because my dad, whom I really respect, is also like yours. I guess you're right by saying - if he loves you and he sees your boyfriend makes you smile and respects you, he should respect your decision and be happy of the fact that his little girl is really happy. I would advise you to speak with your dad, but don't start with arguments, just listen to him and then ask him to listen to you. Maybe such a calm discussion would 'open his eyes' on other things, like even someone is black it doesn't need to equal sth bad. There is plenty of uneducated, low white boys that would only make you cry... Try to speak with your dad!
Good luck.
2007-03-14 07:24:01 · answer #1 · answered by scorpius_dragon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old r u???
Does his guy know what is happening in Ur house with Ur family?
Is he really into u??? How does his family feel about u????
No one can tell u what to do all they can do is guide u.
I was in the same situation I am Latina he is Jamaican.
My family did not like him from the get go. I told him that I was willing to fight for us and if he would be here I would try to do every in my power to show my family that they were wrong about him. We were together for 5 years we had a child. 6 months ago we broke up. He did feel as strongly as I did so now I hear it from my family " U put him first and defended him and Look at what he did to u he just used u!!!"
I am not saying that this will happen to u. I just want u to be shore that u and him r in the same page b4 u decided anything. Life is to short and if Ur family see that he is there for u in every seance of the word then they willing to except him. No matter what color he is. Good Luck.
2007-03-14 07:37:04 · answer #2 · answered by Natural 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-14 19:01:27 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your man then you should be with him. If he treats you right and respects you and your family then there should be no problems. If you say its ok to date a black then do it. Your dad can't be mad forever and you should just treat your dad as if nothing is going on when you see him. Show your dad that you are the same person and that you are not conpromising yourself to be with your guy.
2007-03-14 07:19:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only have one DAD, not that I'm saying he's right...he is NOT.
But again you only have one DAD. Maybe best way is to keep your family life and love life seperate. What your Dad doesn't know wont hurt him....
Its hard, but without giving up one or the other...only way.
Your most likely never gona change your Dad...if he's racist...he's not gona change.
But if your attracted to black guys yuo can't just stop that either.
2007-03-14 07:17:33 · answer #5 · answered by ste.phunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like your dad is a racist i would be careful though cus you need a place to live but i think your dad is so wrong on this one it doesn't matter the color of anyones skin i have seen a ton of really great white people and a ton of really great black people
i have seen bad people to with all different skin so you are right on this one so i dont know what you should do but i do know you are so my hero right now
2007-03-14 07:22:36 · answer #6 · answered by carmelfude2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u plan on spending the rest or ur life unhappy then do so. u don't have to please anybody but urself. prejudice is ignorance! do u want to marry ur dad? (i guess no) then his opinion dosent matter. i know it hurts that he is the way he is but thats life and if u talked to him about the situation and he is still being ignorant towards love then there's nothing more u can do but be true to urself. remember love conquers all!
2007-03-14 07:26:25 · answer #7 · answered by Ma Baby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should not break up with him for your dad. Your dad should be happy for you if your happy. That is very unfair of him..I would go on with my relationship and not let anyone sabotage it...good luck!
2007-03-14 07:17:52 · answer #8 · answered by Alejandra2008 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look **** ur dad i know u love her but its not ya dad whose gona look after u when u get old if u understand that bit then u know wat u have to do honey
u love him ok u dnt see if hes black or not but u see his love right so is money or property worth ur love i dnt think so
so if a dad realy love his girl he wud hav accepted u in anyway u r or u will b , ur dad is just being a ******** sorry
2007-03-14 07:35:44 · answer #9 · answered by antish_r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm not sure, maybe try sitting down and talking to your family about it and listen to what everyone has to say or maybe suggest that you all go out to dinner or something so you can show them what you're boyfriend is really like
2007-03-14 07:26:10 · answer #10 · answered by kes421 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋