My dad died!?

Question

My dad died 10th july 2006, it really upset me cause i was at school when it happened. would could ido to get happy again and get on with my life. Plz help, thx if u do.

Answer 1

just think of the good times you had with your dad mate it will get easier don't be to worried you wasn't there when he passed he nows that you loved him notice i said nows because he is still here in spirit i to lost my dad october 17th 2006 after much suffering me and my mum were at his bedside in hospital he had lung cancer he was slipping away each day didn't recognise him when he finally slipped away i no its hard mate but hang in there the hurt will ease take care

Answer 2

Well, first, let me say I'm sorry you're having such a hard time getting over it. My father passed away too, when I was younger. He passed away a month and three days before my 13th birthday, and for a long time after, a cloud kind of hung around me around that time and I found it hard to celebrate my birthday. But I had to start looking at things a little differently. I just started thinking about how sad he would be to see me so upset, and that he would want me to remember him, but not be gloomy about it. One thing I did learn through this, and I'm 24 yrs. old now, is that the pain really never goes away, you just stop crying so much. I still cry when I think about certain things, but only once or twice a year. I can still remember him so strongly that sometimes, I just feel overwhelmed. I can remember his voice, the things he said to me, his smell. And I love it that I can still remember those things. I'm not sure if I helped you at all, But with something like this, there is very rarely going to be some insightful words that will help you, like I said, if you're anything like me, even more than ten years from the time you lost him, the pain won't go away, only the tears. Good luck. If you need anymore advice, feel free to email me. Oh, one more thing, don't feel bad you wasn't able to be there. If everyone knew the exact moment they would lose someone and they had a chance to be there, then a hundred people would always be with someone when they pass away. I wasn't there when my father passed away, I was out of school, and went to see him everyday he was in the hospital. I got to the hospital exactly eleven minutes after he passed away. I always wished I would have been just twenty minutes earlier, not taken the time to do this or that, to have woke up twenty minutes earlier, whatever. But there's no way you could know, or can know. I hope I helped you some with this, and hopefully later when you lose someone, you'll remember to keep this in mind as well.

Answer 3

Hi,

Firstly i am sorry for the loss of ur father, it the hardest thing being a child and losing a parent, (i lost my mum when i was ten).

Grieving takes a long time and i believe its not something that u can get over its simply that u move on from it and learn to adjust ur life without them.
For example my grief carried on for years on and off and i didn't really accept it untill 13 years after, just one random day i was peeling potatoes and i started crying realising that i no longer had a mother! But then the mist of saddness lifted and i was able to move on.

My point being ur will greive for a long time and some days will be worse than others thats only natural. The trick is to be happy for all the time u and ur father had together and see that u wud rather have those days and greive rather than not have any fond memories.

Take the greive as a sign u r slowly accepting and moving forward and eventually u will accept wot has happened and understand its the natural process of life!

Good Luck Rx

Answer 4

My Dad died in 2000 and it toke me a long time to move on with my life. Its hard but try and remember all the things that you two did together and things like that. when parents go its very hard on us children. Make a book up of photos and things you like about your dad, i have done this and when i get my bad days i look at this and it does help in some way even though i cry looking at it. Im so sorry to hear about your loss.

Answer 5

My father died 5 days before my 14 birthday. I was out surfing for the first time. I can tell you it was VERY hard for the first few years but as time goes by it gets easier. You will always miss and love him and that's ok. It's been almost 11 years and it's still hard for me sometimes. But your life will move on you will learn to move on. This was not even a year ago, you've got plenty of time.

Answer 6

I am so sorry to hear that your dad died. It's terrible when someone you love dies, often you blame them for leaving you and that makes you feel awful. Try to think of all the good things that you did together. Special places you visited. Think of holidays and good times you shared. I know your dad would not want you to feel sad, so try to feel happy for his sake. It will take a long time to get over feeling the sadness, but please believe me it will get easier as the time goes on. Perhaps you could keep a diary and try to write one happy thing down each day.

Answer 7

My dad died october 3rd 2003. The hurt and anger is still there. I loved him dearly. The answer to your question is this:
What would your dad want you to do. If you remember the good times with your dad, and talk about him often and laugh at the silly things you did together, them he's very much alive. He's not here in body but, in spirit he will never die. It gets eaiser, but not forgotten. Just give it time and you'll get better.

Answer 8

I was 16 when my dad died. Time is the only thing that will make you feel a little less of what you feel now. And yes... that sucks. It helped my to surround myself with people who've shared similar experiences, and keep away from the people who only brought me down. Time alone is good too. Talk a long walk by yourself. It sounds corny, but nature is very relaxing and will help you clear your mind.

Answer 9

Try doing something different like joining a club. This would be an achievement and you could always pray to him at nighttime if it made you feel any better. Always know that he doesn't want you to life your life in pain and sadness. He would want you to move on with your life. So if not for yourself, or if you find it hard to feel happy as such try and tell yourself it's what he'd want. You talk to your mates or relatives too. Hope this helped.

Answer 10

Would your dad really like knowing that after he died his death would make you absolutely miserable? No!!! Your dad loved you very much and would hate to have you so sad just because of him. So do what he WOULD want you to do: get out, and get on with your life. Maybe talk to a counselor. Best of luck :)