HOW CAN YOU LOVE SOMEONE BUT NOT BE IN LOVE WITH THEM
2007-03-14 07:13:14 · 7 answers · asked by MRS.BLONDIE 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
True enough, someone can love you, but not be "in love with you". The first is a more general love, the second is a romantic love. It may very well be that he loved you romantically initially, however, for whatever reason, that feeling has died. Sad, but true. It does happen and often it comes from moving apart in a relationship, losing the fun, and even losing the sexual part of it. Sure, he could still have sex with you-he's a man. But, to men, it is a more physical act than it is emotional.
Look, you have been with him 4 years. Just be really glad that you did not spend another 4 years with him when you found this out. Move onward and upward.
Men are unpredictable often times. Plus, often when they end a relationship, they don't necessarily recover, they instead, replace. It can be with another woman, thier jobs, a new car or toy, etc. However, after about 6 months when the new woman or toy loses its initial luster, don't be surprised if he comes back knocking on you door. While you, in the meantime, have hopefully chosen to recover. You've cried your tears, listened to your sad songs, shopped too much, etc. You've also joined a gym, over-exercised from sadness, gotten a new hairdo, have tanned at the beach while reading Harlequin Romances, and you look phenomenal!!
So, when that knock on your door comes, all you have to do is look your gorgeous self and say "Do I know you????"-Slam the door, buh-bye!
2007-03-14 07:29:11 · answer #1 · answered by Singthing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, it means he thinks of you the same way he would think of his friends or close family members. He feels something for you but its not romantic love.
Sometime s when people say that, it means that the 'spark' has gone out of your relationship and counselling, talking more, romantic gestures etc can help recover that feeling.
However if you talk to him some more and it means he wants to end the relationship, let him go. No matter how much you have invested in this relationship let him go. I know its gonna hurt but if he's not in love with you just be grateful that at least he was honest without being cruel and LET HIM GO. Don't make the mistake of thinking you can change anything about his feelings if he deciides he wants to go. If he's not in love with you take the time you need to hurt and get over him, then move on with your life.
2007-03-14 07:36:17 · answer #2 · answered by ayanagin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like you love your brother or cousin - but you're not in love with them.....that is the simplest way to think about it. He has lost the lust and attraction, basically he does not want to be with you in a romantice relationship type way but still would be the guy on the other end of the phone if you needed him to be.
He wants to move on, you should too
2007-03-14 07:25:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably sick of the sexual part of the relationship and wants to move on to something new. You shouldnt have wasted 4 years with him. Most men know within 18 months whether they want to settle down. If they dont think so then they are being dishonest with you.
2007-03-14 07:20:04 · answer #4 · answered by Devdude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cares about you but he doesn't want to spend the rest of his life with you. Like, I love my friends but I'm not in love with my friends. I love my family but I'm not in love with my family...etc.
2007-03-14 07:17:48 · answer #5 · answered by april.may 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's easy - they are two totally different feelings. You can't be "in love" and not love - but you can love and not be in love.
2007-03-14 07:19:57 · answer #6 · answered by lunasage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wat he's tryin to say is he loves the person u r but he's not in love wiz ya ..sorry to say that honey but he's killin time wiz ya
2007-03-14 07:41:34 · answer #7 · answered by antish_r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋