Would you let your 14 year old daught spend the night at a boy's house after a party if everyone invited to the party was invited to spend the night? Other girls would be there too as well as parents. The invitation even included a permission slip reading NO PERMISSION SLIP NO PARTY//no alcohol or drugs...if found they would be kicked out
2007-03-14 07:09:20 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
if there is an adult there at all times I would let it happen. I personally would stop by though that night to make sure everything is good. I know parents when I grew up would let alcohol and pot go on and lie for their kid's friends. If you know the parents and trust them I would definately allow it. It's exciting for that age, but supervision is A MUST!! GOOD LUCK
2007-03-14 07:13:48 · answer #1 · answered by Mommyof3 BGB 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
No, I would allow her to stay pretty late though. I would just make sure that she knew to have her things together by midnight or something and be ready for mom to pick her up.
It sends the wrong message to all of the teens involved.
Even if these parents at the party had the best of intentions, they still can't keep THAT close of an eye on that many kids ALL NIGHT.
Just explain to your daughter that it's not a trust issue with her as much as it is just a moral issue and you have to stand for what you belive in. Tell her to have a great time and help her pick out something to wear and maybe a snack to bring as well. That might make her feel better about not getting to stay the whole night.
She has no buisness staying all night with any boys houses until she's an adult and mentally ready for that kind of situation.
Good luck Mom. Trust me, even if she says she hates you for it, she doesn't and she'll be gratefull in the end.
2007-03-14 07:17:27 · answer #2 · answered by bluegrass 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it would depend on the child in question and the parents. If I didn't socialize with the parents and know them VERY well, I'd have a problem with it. Even tho we hear how bad kids are these days, I think they have the ability to be good. It sounds like these parents are going to monitor this party. I think I'd also want to know as much as possible about the other kids invited. One bad apple.....
Good luck :)
2007-03-14 07:27:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can really answer that for you. How well do you know and trust your daughter? The boy? His parents? There are so many factors. If you trust all of the above then there should be no problem. But I'd definately schedule a meeting to discuss the party and your expectations with his parents.
2007-03-14 07:15:04 · answer #4 · answered by almostcrazee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see why not. If other parents and girls are there, I don't see a problem with it. It's not like they are going to be doing things they aren't supposed to. Although I'd like to meet the parents and wonder why they are having a boy/girl party where the girls are invited to stay the night... odd but it's just a party.
2007-03-14 07:17:42 · answer #5 · answered by Shannon 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My oldest child (girl) will be 14 in 8 days. So, I know how you feel. First of all, do you trust the environment (housing, parents, neighborhood) where this sleep over will be held? Do you approve of the parent to child ratio? Will the children be co-sleeping or separated? Is the proximity of where the adults and children will be sleeping to your satisfaction? Just a few questions I would want answers to, if I were in your position.
2007-03-14 07:27:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i probably would since the parents have gone to so much trouble of having permission slips & everything. I would still talk to the parents as well. I would also ask about the sleeping arrangements.
2007-03-14 08:23:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Without a doubt.
Nothing good will come out of boys and girls spending the night together even with supervision even without alcohol. It doesn't matter. It's unnecessary. They can be at the party, but they can go home to sleep.
I know you don't want to hear this, but remember boys look at girls as a sport at this age, but girls are looking at the boys with emotions. The girls who put themselves in available situations are the ones who will have their hearts broken, with unwanted pregnancies or at the least veneral diseases. Just sit back and see what kinds of things are going to happen to the "fast and easy girls". The maybe the talk of the school at your age, but they will be the losers when you're all women. Guys want to date easy girls, but when it comes to real commitments, they want the classy girl who wasn't giving it away to them and their friends. Ask your dad, or uncles, they were boys once.
2007-03-14 07:15:36 · answer #8 · answered by TJTB 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The first time I had sex with my boyfriend, now husband, was at a party that my best friend's parents were shaperoning. That was 16 years ago, but I think kids are less innocent these days. I wouldn't let my daughters go, or my son for that matter. I know how I was and I wasn't the wildest girl when I was a teen. Hope that helps you make a decision.
2007-03-14 07:14:46 · answer #9 · answered by cooltoque 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
When i was 14 i used to spend the night at a boys house, we never did anything and there was always other boys and girls there. I dont see a problem if there will be parents
2007-03-14 07:17:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds better than the parties I went to when I was 14. We did alot of horrid stuff. Check with the boys parents to see if it is legit, on the sly. Don't let her know you asked them, she'll be embarassed. Also ask some of her friends parents on the side too, when they're at school is a good time. Just don't embarass her please, she'd "ah just die" like teens do .
2007-03-14 07:18:46 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋