my boyfriend is so insecure! he always wants be to tell him that i promise im not cheating on him, that i promise i love him, and so on. ill tell him something and he will ask "you promise?" and the i have to say "yes jimmy i promise" or he wont believe me. i would never cheat on him or lie to him about anything. also he doesnt like me talking to other guys, but most of my friends are guys and most of them are in a relationship as well. i love him more than anything in this world and i tell him that all the time and i show it as well. how can i get him to stop being so insecure about our relationship?
2007-03-14 07:09:19 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To be honest, he sounds insecure and it may be for several reasons, like he has been hurt before, or he is cheating on you, or thinking of it, or he has a guilty Conscious. I would tell him look if you can not learn to trust me than there is no relationship. I love you more than anything and end of story. Girl you don't have to put up with it, just simply tell him that if not then move on. Trust me it will never work if he continues. Good Luck and Keep your head up.
2007-03-14 07:16:10 · answer #1 · answered by Shorty06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problems with my boyfriend, no matter what I do i need to tell him every single day that I love him more then anything and that I would never cheat on him. It makes me feel like he just doesnt trust me... All i can tell you to do is to sit down and talk to him, ask him why he is so insucure, ask him why he dosnt trust in the relationship, and make sure you let him know that it hurts you that he doesnt trust you. I have had so many talks with my boyfriend and he is little by little starting to trust that I wotn cheat on him or leaev him, I still have to let him know he is my everything now and then but things are so much better he is even starting to let me go otu with my friends without him freaking out all teh time... it takes time but if you talk to him he should become less and less insecure
2007-03-14 14:18:35 · answer #2 · answered by lovepixiek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well obviously that isn't the only problem he has, he also doesn't trust you he might not tell you but that is exactly what makes a person feel insecure. You need to sit down and really speak to him and tell him that he needs to start trusting you and stop making you promise things and take your word. If you have been together a long time then he needs to start growing up. My advise just sit down and speak with him with full force you cant be sweet all the time and let him know what you feel.
2007-03-14 14:20:26 · answer #3 · answered by Arlene V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you need to get to the root of his insecurities. Sounds like he's been really hurt in the past. Perhaps a former girlfriend cheated on him, etc. I think if you talk openly about what it is that he fears and why...that will help your situation. Also, let him know that it is becoming annoying to have to "promise" whenever you are apart. Reaffirm your devotion by your actions...not just words. Help him to see that he has nothing to fear by trusting you.
If there is nothing in his past to warrant this behavior, then I would suggest that you move forward with caution. Don't change who you are and who you are friends with to please him. Control does not equal Love.
Good luck!
2007-03-14 14:38:52 · answer #4 · answered by crystalbutterfly1004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would just tell him how I feel. But if he is doing all of that, most likely HE is the one guilty of doing something. You promising him that you won't go cheat means he is so scared of being caught that he wants to know you won't do the same things he's out there doing.
2007-03-14 14:16:54 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. Hester 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have met a guy who wants to control you...watch out...it sounds like he's insecure, but really he just wants to make sure that YOU can't have a life when your not with him. He won't stop being insecure, guys don't change in an instant, so choose yourself. Don't be in a realtionship where a guy makes you feel like your loves not good enough!! Good luck!!
2007-03-14 14:21:42 · answer #6 · answered by corrine c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a boyfriend who was a lot like that. And i'm not saying your boyfriend is but mine was cheating on me.he you make me feel bad about something i never did when he was the guilty one. pay attention to him alittle more. look for the signs but don't let it drive you crazy either. tell him that if he dosen't start beliving you then he dosen't trust you and thats a big part of a realtionship.If he dosen't trust you he dosen't deserve you.
2007-03-14 14:22:09 · answer #7 · answered by Erica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs help you cant provide. In the mean time just keep promising him and he will be alright.
2007-03-14 14:15:23 · answer #8 · answered by ron l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to be a man and quit acting so needy. He needs to work on his trust issues and he needs to know that you will not be everything to him, not by choice, but because that is just the way it is!!!
2007-03-14 14:16:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r lucky to have him girl!!! most girls dont feel secure but now its not.
u have to involve him more in ur life, introduce him to ur friend specially the guys...tell them meet jimmy my love and dont say my boyfriend he will be more proud...let them invite him to go out with them (guys hanging out) and so on...its a matter of time and he will be 100% secure dont worry about it
2007-03-14 14:19:41 · answer #10 · answered by dimaabdin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋