What should you do if you havent seen your father, how should you answer it?

Question

Gone for 6 years

Answer 1

I take it your father has contacted you? Give him the benefit or the doubt, contact him back and suggest a meeting or if he lives in another country ask him to phone, email or write and explains things. It is a fact of life that for numerous reasons a parent doesn't see their son/daughter but it doesn't mean they don't think of them, often there's not an hour of a day in their life that they don't. It could have been your father thought he was giving you the best chance by keeping away. It is also possible he just didn't want to live up to his responsibilites but could now very much regret this. You don't mention your mum, hard as it is if they just became incompatable you have to put that out the equasion in this situation. If it was a case of perhaps cruelty you would have more thinking to do. Lots all depend too on your age, how vivid you remember your father, how he treated you etc. Your posting is very vague, little to go on so just hope this answer helps. In most instances everyone deserves a second chance.

Answer 2

I assume he contacted you and wants to see you and that is why you are asking how you should answer.

I don't think it is a coincidence that I am answering your question.

One of the men that I minister to at an assisted living facility recently had this very same situation. He had not seen any of his family, including his daughter, for more than 20 years. He had just vanished as far as they were concerned. They did not know what happened to him. Well now, 20 years later he started searching for his daughter on-line and found her about 6 months ago. At first she was angry with him and wanted nothing to do with him. Then she wanted to know why he had changed his name and disappeared. She was very bitter because she had been abused during his absent years and she blamed him for not being there to protect her. Finally they did meet and eventually, she called him "dad", which thrilled him. He was suffering from congestive heart failure and was wheelchair bound. A few months ago he was diagnosed with a brain tumor. I spoke with him briefly three weeks ago and he told me how happy he was that his daughter told him she loves him. Two weeks ago, this Sunday, he died.

You have an opportunity. Make the best of it while you can. Life provides no guarantees how long a window like this will stay open.

Answer 3

Hi, well I haven't really seen my father since I was 9 I'm now 33 and I live in the same town as him for 8 years and I still don't see him. I tried at first to go see him and that and I took his grandchildren over to see him as well but frankly I have better things to do than to be around someone who just doesn't care.

And with this question like, I'm not fully understanding, your asking how would you answer it, you should try and be more specific on really what your asking.

Chow.

Answer 4

Answer what? The phone, an email...?

Either way six years really isn't that long of a time. If you resent the distance it's going to make it harder to heal. So I would suggest just being open and honest with him. Tell him how his leaving affected your life, and how you think you need to work through it to get your relationship back with him. Hopefully he will appreciate your honesty and put in the effort to mend what's been broken.

Best of luck!

Answer 5

Sorry but answer what, do you mean that you haven't seen him for 6 years and now he wants contact? If that is the case give it a try, what do you have to loose?

Answer 6

You dont explain what you mean. Answer what?

Answer 7

If he owes child support, ask him where it's at.

Answer 8

i don't know about u ill punch him in the face for leaving

Answer 9

Answer what? Did someone ask you something? Does he want to see you? Please clarify under "Add Details".

Answer 10

answer what? do you have a letter?