Ok, been out with my boyfriend for 6 month, through out the 6 month i have posted about 5 questions on here as the relationship was in a bad state, to cut the story short he ended it 3 weeks ago and not to mention it ended in a bad way, im having my off days, and im not too bad, i dont know if its cos it has not hit me yet or im just not as fussed as i thought i would be. an old boyfriend, well just someone i met a few year bk has asked me out tonight, the problem is, his going through the exact same situation, his been cheated on and dumped, i do wanna go for a drink with him, but im still hurting, and his just broke up with his ex too, is this a good idea?
2007-03-14 07:01:49 · 17 answers · asked by ice_castles 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i still love my ex boyfriend, and i dare say he still loves his ex girlfriend, i guess were both on the rebound, im just tellin myself life goes on and i should get ready and get out! but is it a good idea two rebounds lol
2007-03-14 07:04:11 · update #1
I would go, just to get out and do something different. I probably wouldn't be looking for anything new, but certainly I would go. I don't see how it could hurt anything. It's another way of getting on with your life and that's what you're trying to do, right? You may not be looking for a relationship, but you should be looking to have some fun. So do just that!
2007-03-14 07:25:05 · answer #1 · answered by the anomaly23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's never a good idea to start a new relationship when you haven't finished emotionally with an old one. And in your case, it sounds like that old one was really bad for you right from the get go.
You need to figure out first why you'd waste so much of your life on a bad relationship instead of getting out right away. Take a little time for yourself to think things through, set some priorities for yourself and let the old boyfriend do the same.
When you're both on an even keel emotionally would be the time to think about starting up with someone else. Wouldn't hurt to stay in touch as friends but at this point, both of you are likely to just rip apart your exes looking for validation and no one needs that. Give yourself time to heal.
2007-03-14 14:09:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need time for yourself...so I would suggest staying single for a while until you feel better about the breakup...This other friend of yours that was cheated on should also stay single...going into another relationship might make you feel worst and empty...It seems like you had an unhealthy relationship from the beginning with that guy, so do you really want to go back with him? Do you think it will work out this time?? Trust me you can find yourself someone much better who will appreciate you and love you!! So be patient and do you and before you know it you'll see the light again...Good Luck!!
2007-03-14 14:09:03 · answer #3 · answered by Alejandra2008 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally, I'd say you'll both end up in the "rebounder" but maybe this could be a good opportunity for you guys to share notes and talk some stuff out, as you're both going through the same thing!
Good Luck, sister!
Aloha!!
2007-03-14 14:08:59 · answer #4 · answered by gabriel_demus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it wouldn't be a bad idea if you don't get involved in any relationship, emotionally, or physically. It sounds like the two of you could lean on each other and help each other move on. If anything you could stay friends without benefits and give yourselves time to heal, then maybe see where you could take the relationship.
2007-03-14 14:08:39 · answer #5 · answered by kt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least you both know where you stand. Better than hiding something. Life does go on, and it's not for anyone but you to decide when it should go on. It took me about 3 months to finally be at a place where I could go out with someone more than once, but I made it, and so will you.
2007-03-14 14:09:38 · answer #6 · answered by onekoolkat_31 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Surely if he is your ex from a while back, and he is also going through a bad patch he is no good for you. You need to start a fresh find someone new, break away from these fellas, you are doing yourself no favours with either of them.
2007-03-14 14:13:43 · answer #7 · answered by dover56dover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say go out, there is nothing wrong with talking to somebody that is going thru the exact same thing. Trust me is the best thing you can do. But one thing for sure, dont hook up with him just because you are single, is not worth it. I say just go out as friends and nothing more. Dont rush anything is life, is the best advice i can give you, rushing things will just make everything not work.
2007-03-14 14:11:48 · answer #8 · answered by only me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, this is gonna be long. My man left me for another woman on the first of January. When he didn't show up to get our daughter on his day for visitation, I called this new womans house and her husband answered. Her husband and I started talking, and evetually we started dating. I feel in love with him too quickly, and he was too scared to move on, so when he started becoming attached to me he ran. The relationship ended badly, and I was still healing from one heart break while going through another!
2007-03-14 14:09:27 · answer #9 · answered by Ashley L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not a good idea to rebound u gotta have true love and don't a person to help u get over an ex
2007-03-14 14:07:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋