or health conditions ? Could you love someone unconditionally ? Or ..... would you not date someone because of race .... black ... white ... hispanic ? WOuld you not date a redhead ..... someone overweight ....... WOuld you date someone with an STD ..... or other diseases ? Basically, are there just some things you would not tolerate or be compatible with .... ?????????
2007-03-14 07:00:42 · 6 answers · asked by burlingtony 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have been married for 4 years this Thursday, and when it is right you just know it. I only have one deal breaker and that is smoking. My husband was a smoker and after I knew( which was on our first date) that he was the one I told him I wouldn't be able to date a smoker and he quite. As for other things beauty fades as you get older and what you have left hopefully is love and friendship. I feel that you need to be attracted to someone physically but they don't have to be model gorgeous. I think that if you truly love someone it is easier to accept their flaws no one is perfect. I do believe you can love someone unconditionally but with in limits. I know that doesn't make sense, but if you love someone like that then they won't do things to hurt you, so it makes unconditionally easy.
2007-03-14 07:17:32 · answer #1 · answered by kt 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have certain criteria that I think i gravitate towards. My husband and all of my serous relationships in the recent past all have similar facial features... tall, dark eyes, dark hair, long eyelashes, and thick eyebrows and a really nice neck with a beautifully promient Adam's Apple. Under the surface though, they couldn't be more different!
I have always specified that I have no cooties, and I expect my man to not have cooties either...speaking in the terms of STD's. Now, if he were to contract some other type of illness during our time together, that is a different topic and I absolutely would stand by his side 100%. But if someone that I liked and was dating were to mention that they had the clap, or herpes, or HIV, or Syphillis, that would be a HUGE turn-off and I would leave money for the check and bid them Adieu!
Sorry, that's just how I am. Thankfully, my hubby didn't have cooties!! LOL
2007-03-14 14:13:43 · answer #2 · answered by ♥♥Mrs SSG B♥♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not really.
Subconsciously I am attracted to a particular kind of person, which means I automatically ween some of those things out without even thinking about it. But if I really liked someone and they told me they were terminal ill, or they had an STD or they can't have children... whatever. I think I would just have to get over it. There is always a way to work around things. Even if the person you love is dying, it's better to spend that time with them, then not at all.
2007-03-14 14:06:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've never been attracted to anyone not in my race - but I would not rule it out. I don't think I'd get involved with a guy that had a serious physical handicap - it's one thing if they have an accident after we are involved and end up with a handicap but it's difficult to start out that way. Never been attracted to a carrot top redhead or a guy that was bald - everything else is good. Any guy with HIV/AIDS I would not date.
2007-03-14 14:12:33 · answer #4 · answered by lunasage 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't date an over weight person just because i am not attracted to them. race has never been an issue in my relationships. i wouldn't date anyone with an STD.
2007-03-14 14:09:06 · answer #5 · answered by girl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Love can be only unconditional, or it is not love/
2007-03-14 14:08:43 · answer #6 · answered by OC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋