The men that I have been with in the past, before I met him. Judging a person by their past is wrong, isn't it. And should have no bearing on your relationship now.
2007-03-14 06:59:05 · 21 answers · asked by shy_grn_eyed_blnd 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well yea they shoulden't judge you b/c of your past......and if they do leave them........ or slap them with your pimp hand.
2007-03-14 07:03:32 · answer #1 · answered by mercswerve 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If this person hold Ur past against u this is not the right guy for u. Y should he bring up Ur past? Do u do the some?
If he really cares about u he will learn to deal with it in a different way if he can then that is a big sign for u to let him go.
Yes it will hurt, but it will be worth it.
U need some one that will be there to help u when u fall not to push u down.
Have faith u will find someone worth it.
2007-03-14 07:06:35 · answer #2 · answered by Natural 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that doesn't make any sense. for example if I say I axe murdered a family in their sleep you probably won't say well judging people on their past is wrong. No you will run for the hills . And I hate to tell you but your past is you. If you look back and don't like what you see than make a new past, start living how you would like to be seen and soon today will become your past. but you will always have to live with the reprocusions of what you did. That's life.
2007-03-14 07:04:09 · answer #3 · answered by jrtootsiepop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone comes with baggage and it's not fair to keep bringing it up. Especially if it has nothing to do with him. He seems to be the jealous and immature type. I would tell him to either respect me and leave my past in the past, or you'll be making a future without him in it. Next time, don't divulge so much info about your past unless it's relevant to your current relationship (like an STD). If you are healthy, leave the past in the past.
If you think about it, your past is what makes you who you are and if he loves you, he shouldn't judge you by it or try to make you feel guilty. If you hadn't gone through whatever you went through and experienced what you did, you wouldn't be the person he loves today.
2007-03-14 07:04:14 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are truly in love with someone you don't keep bringing up the past it just doesn't allow the relationship to move forward. It sounds to me like this guy isn't the nicest of guys and maybe you shouldn't waste any more time on some one who tries hurting you with things you tell him in confidence only to throw it back in your face. If you can't talk to your significant other then who can you talk to? That's a big part of any relationship. Good Luck.
2007-03-14 07:22:43 · answer #5 · answered by kt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think that it's right. My b.f. holds my past against me too and gets really frustrated when things remind him of my ex. See my ex was 22 and I was only 16 and he thinks he took advantage of me...so he pretty much wants to kill him. I think you're right and it shouldn't have any bearing on your relationship. I mean what's in the past should stay in the past. As long as you're with him now that should be all that really matters to him. You two should try talking it out, so that it might be easier for him to overcome it. GOOD LUCK!
2007-03-14 07:04:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bringing up past relationships, whether you or him, is a receipe for disaster.. he should not hold your past against you.
You need to sit down with him and explain that the past is in the past.. nothing can be done about it now. You don't want to bring up the past anymore and make a future with him. If he still doesn't get it perhaps you should find someone who will
2007-03-14 07:05:08 · answer #7 · answered by Angel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your completely right. The man your with now should be happy that you are with him and not the other guy. Maybe that was just a Big mistake that you had to find out the hard way and your new man should understand that. Personally I say that your current man should be thankful that your with him and not still with the other guy.
2007-03-14 07:04:45 · answer #8 · answered by NavyBaby09 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're boyfriend has NO RIGHT to hold your past against you. What ever happened before you two got together is water under the bridge and he's going to continue to hold it against you, I would tell him to go pound sand. Its totally unfair and those who live in glass houses, shouldn't throw rocks!!!
2007-03-14 07:05:55 · answer #9 · answered by ♥♥Mrs SSG B♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes that's true but the best indicator of the future is the past so if you did something like cheat in the past it will be hard for him to over come that so give him time but other than that he needs to stop it
2007-03-14 07:07:43 · answer #10 · answered by carmelfude2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!!!!!!!! That is definetly not right!!!!!! He shouldn't hold your past against you! That's just plain wrong! You should tell him that he shouldn't do that, and if he breaks up with you, then he's not worth crying over.
2007-03-14 07:05:15 · answer #11 · answered by quizzing_princess25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋