Please please PLEASE answer I'm SO UPSET!!! PLEASE!!?

Question

I'm not asking you to read all of this it's WAY TO LONG i only want you to read ONE!!! I DON'T CARE WHICH ONE YOU PICK

So I’m a senior in high school going through a lot of stress right now. I feel like I’m really seeing my friends true colors shine and they aren’t shining to brightly to say the least. I have written 3 different situations that I am in right now!. ALL OF THEM VERY UPSETING! You can call me a drama queen if you want you can be rude about this whole thing or you can be polite about it I don’t really care I’m not asking you to read all four of them NOT BY ANY MEANS YOU DO NOT HAVE TO READ ALL 4!! That would take much to long but I beg of you to at least read ONE PLEASE and give me some sort-of advice on it! PLEASE! I really am upset. This has been upsetting me for awhile I come home crying almost every night now. I don’t know what to do anymore!!

AGAIN THIS IS VERY LONG BUT I'M ONLY ASKING YOU TO READ ONE OF MY 3 SITUATIONS!

Person #1

Person # 1 and I have been friends since the 4th grade. We went to elementary, middle and high school together. I went to her birthday party in 6th grade and got into a fight with one of her friends. I invite this person to EVERYTHING of mine…My birthday parties, movies everything! She always shows up too. Recently she told me to my face that she was having 2 house parties! But she then told me that she was not inviting me. When I asked her why she did not invite me her responses were the following
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"told u the god d*mn reason... maybe i thought u'd be uncomfortable... i still remember during 4th grade at Julie's birthday part you were down in her basement CRYING because you fet like everyone hated ... well u know who came down there to see if you were okay... oh yea! that was ME!!!!!!!!! i tried to ******* help you... MAYBE i thought u'd be uncomfortable with the people at the party and i didn't want u to get upsest and start crying again... if u actually think of it... i was trying to help you! so i'm sorry if u think i hate you but i don't... you just take things the wrong way and your going to tell ME to grow up! wow.... let's just read u'r post again and see who should grow up and try and learn what people are trying to do to help you. and HELL people go behind my back all the time... that's life... it WILL happen so sorry.”

She then went on to say

“lright u want the truth???? the truth is that i felt you were out of place and i didn't know if you would fit in with the people at my party... hell u dont' even KNOW any of my xc friends except for kat but that's one out of like 10. and my other friends i dont' know if u'r friends and that group of friends that i have we have the same exact people at our parties it's not like it's anything new all of their parties i'm mostly invited to and my party they are invited to so i'm sorry if i thought it would be weird. oh and that's the other thing i DIDN'T tell you that i was having a party because i didn't want to hurt u'r feelings but i should have known it would come out sooner or later... and how many times do i have to say sorry beacuse i will say that i am sorry i told you i was sorry like a hundred times so i don't know what you want me to say.”

QUESTIONS INVOLVING PERSON # 1

1.Would you forgive her and be friends with her?
2.Do you feel what she was saying was just an excuse because she did not want to tell me the “real” reason why she was not inviting me to her parties.
3.What would you do in my situation?

Person # 2

Person # 2 and I have been friends for awhile now. Her and I and a ton of other people were all supposed to go to prom together! She told everybody to buy there tickets on Wednesday which is today. Yesterday she came up to me her other best friend Katie and my boyfriend and told us all that she had already bought tickets with all of the other people who were supposed to go with us, got a limo, and a table and that they were now full so we would have to find other people to go with to the prom! Katie was in tears! Because Person # 2 is really Katie’s like best friends. All of my other friends are either going with a group of people already and had asked me but I told them I couldn’t because I was going with person # 2 and now there tables are full OR are not going at all.

Questions involving person # 2.

Would you still consider this person a friend?
What would you do in my situation?

Person # 3

Person # 3 used to be my BEST FRIEND! I told her everything. Recently I was running for a position as president of a club. My best friend who was president at the time told me she didn’t think the position was right for me and that she would like to allow freshman to become presidents and VP’s because they are the one’s taking over the club next year. I was fine with that I said ok I see where your coming from. She then went behind my back and allowed 2 of her other friends to be the president of the club and vice president and the two people were SENIORS (in my grade) and had NEVER been involved with the club EVER! I’ve been involved with the club for 6 years! It’s a club about people against smoking and trying to get teens to quit

Questions about person # 3

1. Would you consider person # 3 a friend?
2. Would you forgive that person?
3. What should I do?

I AM NOT ASKING PEOPLE TO READ ALL OF IT!

Answer 1

Regarding person #2: I do believe that she was wrong in what she did. She should have never told ya'll do do something with her if she wasn't going to stick to her plan. She did her best friend wrong and now all of you are suffering fo rit. I was in teh same type situation with a very close friend of mine. I had known this girl since the 4th grade and we all decided to get alimo together. So I went and collected the down payment from everyone and even fronted $25 to anothe rperson to pay their own down payment. The next day after I signed teh contract she told me that her prom date wants to ride with someone else. I was screwed out of my $50 and it was nonrefundable. You should just do what you can with your true frineds now. DON'T let this ruin your prom.

Answer 2

Hey, i read every one that you wrote because you sounded like you really needed to get this out. The problem with us as humans, is that we ask for advice and then don't take it because it's harder to change then to continue doing what we've been doing. Sweetie, a true friend would never hurt you. They stand by you no matter what, even if you piss them off. They are always there for you. The girl who didn't invite you to her party-OUCH! What a *****. That's what she is, a *****. She's moved on and found new friends, and for some reason thinks she's too good for you now. You're better than that; your young, move on. The prom thing? My senior prom was REALLY bad. I drove my 95 ford station wagon to the dance and on top of that didn't even have a date. You and this Katie girl, even if it may suck, show this girl that you don't need them to have fun. Go to the prom anyway. Act like it doesn't bother you. High school is your world right now, but nothing last forever. Your life will change, some days will be great others you'll wish you'd never be born, but my momma has a saying; when the going get tough, the tough get going. Have faith in yourself, and forget all those hateful, ignorant bitches.

Answer 3

Oh the joys of high school. Ok first of all friend number 1 needs to be kicked to the curb. First of all ...who cares what happen in 4th grade now. She should have brought that up years ago. She sounds like a snob to me. Get rid of her!
Friend # 2...sounds like she didn't think of how many people could sit at a table or ride in a limo. Here is what I would do on this one. You can still be friends with her as long as she sounded worried when she told you she overbooked. You and your boyfriend go with Katie and sit at a table with her and whoever she goes with. You all still can hang out at the prom. You have others going to the prom also. You are not at the tables long anyway. Make sure you involve Katie...sounds like she was very upset. Also if you know anybody who is going to prom but needs someone to sit with you might include them.
Friend # 3 ......This sounds like you should have just ran if you wanted to be president. How did she make the decision to put the other girls in that position? Didn't the club vote? Just chalk this one up to experience especially for college. You want to run for something run. People will double cross in politics...be ready for it. If you want to be her friend fine. Just don't trust her when it comes to commitees and politics. Also this is your senior year. Enjoy what you can.

Answer 4

I am so sorry you are having such a rough time right now. You have a right to be upset with all three people. I think you should forgive Person #1 because it seems like she didn't know it was going to hurt your feelings as much as it did and she seems like she is really sorry. Persons #2 and #3 do not deserve your friendship. I would forgive them because not forgiving makes you bitter but I would not be friends with them anymore. As far as Situation #2 I would go to prom and have a great time. Don't let her win by ruining what should be one of the happiest nights of your life. Good Luck to you!

Answer 5

Sorry this is way too much you need to maybe try talking to your mom or sister or a true best friend. Noone can read all this and solve it in a few seconds. Try to talk to someone other than the internet.

Answer 6

Those friends don't sound like your kind of friends you should probably try to make some new friends that cuss so much to you. And person 3 is wierd to be in a mindset like that.

Answer 7

I would act like they arernt there anymore. Dont talk to them, make new and better friends, and do your own thing, act like it doesnt bother you. That will drive them Crazy!! I understand where you are comming from. But believe me when I say everyone will go their own ways after school anyways. They have your number and know where you live I'm supposing.... Let them come to you. Good luck to you.

Answer 8

i think your friend has changed into a bad person and is the perdon you used to know and i think she just did not want to invite you and she is jusr making excuses lame ones i think you should find new friends and forget thid friend stop crying because your friend is mean and one day she will feel worst than you

Answer 9

ok person #1 probably i dunno
they might just be protecting u so u dont get into another fight or something
or becasue u dont know her friends and that u might get lonley ...i really dont know. i wouldnt be friends with her though.

Answer 10

person one reply , sounds like she is just being straight up to me , she has prob had enough of your insecuritys and had to let it all out . advise ( if you want any ) stop thinking to much ,.hold your head up and smile :) just like that