I am trying to find out if this bloke fancies my girlfriend (well ex girlfriend but we live in the same house still). She has known him for a while and I think she tells him private stuff about our relationship. I did the naughty thing and read her diary and it had stuff in there about this bloke asking her questions like if she is definately moving out and if it's over between us. She also put that he wanted to know if she was ready for a new relationship and she could do loads better than me! She talks about him a lot and I think she really likes him. She put that they flirt a lot too. We have had an argument about it and she told me she did like him. Don't get me wrong she isn't a sl-t or anything and she does deserve better than me. But I can't get this out my head, does he fancy her or not???
2007-03-14 06:49:34 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
fancy?!
OK BUDDY FROM WHAT PLANET ARE YOU?
2007-03-14 06:53:13 · answer #1 · answered by A. RMZ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he does, buddy. And it sounds like she fancies him as well. I'm sorry. Maybe it's not too late for you to save the relationship...I'm not sure what happened, but you seem to really care for this girl. Try to re-romance her and whatever you are doing that classifies you as someone she can do better than, STOP doing that. You have one advantage over the other bloke - you still live with her. If that doesn't work, you should move on because you are only going to torment yourself. Good luck.
2007-03-14 06:57:36 · answer #2 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may really like her, or he might just be a good friend. And keep in mind that if you found her diary without looking too hard, then what she wrote in there might actually have been for your eyes and not neccessarily her private thoughts. Sadly, lots of girls play games like that.
And does it really matter if she hooks up with him or not? I mean, really?!?!? If you still care for her, but know she deserves better, than you two had better find separate places to live. Being in the pocket of your ex is sooo uncool & you need to give her the freedom to do what she wants/needs if you can't or won't provide a secure, loving environment for her.
2007-03-14 06:55:39 · answer #3 · answered by worldtraveller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he fancies her, and she probobly likes all the attention she gets from the bloke and you. She could think you are jealous if you keep fighting over him, but you don't want her to think that you don't care. This is a sensitive subject, so be carful that you don't loose her over emotions. Maybe she just likes to flirt with him because it makes her feel sexy again. Talk to her and let her know how you feel about her and him associating with each other. Good luck
2007-03-14 06:58:29 · answer #4 · answered by Johnny Afman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right, she does deserve better than you - you don't trust her, and you invade her privacy. You can't have love without trust, so you relationship is hollow.
It doesn't matter if this bloke fancies her or not - the problem is between you and your girl. If you don't starting trusting her and treating her better, she is going to leave you (whether for his bloke or another, or just to be happy on her own).
2007-03-14 06:55:26 · answer #5 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to bring you bad news BUT HELL SLAP IT INTO YOU FOR BREACHING her privacy , if you are so imature then maybe she has a plan after all , if on the other hand this was just a blip in your normal way of doing things then act on what you read , change and make a new play for her heart...............also remember diaries are on the most fantasy and should stay there , lots of hearts have been broken by breaching this trust and then telling the person about it.
2007-03-14 06:55:22 · answer #6 · answered by Paul Sabre 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok dude. Just let her go. You are too good for her if she is writing about stuff between them in her diary. Please dont read girls diarys. it is a major violation of there privacy. That could also hurt you majorly. She does not deserve better than you. Quit crying and complaining about it. MOVE ON!!! She possibly likes this guy alot. Sorry to be so inconsiderate but i am tired of complaining guys.
2007-03-14 06:56:19 · answer #7 · answered by kreatch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was probably a major factor in your relationship with her ending.The fact you live together hasnt helped either i think.He definately fancies hern and it wouldnt surprise me if he influenced her quite a bit to finish your relationship so he could 'muscle' in.Hope this other bloke isn't a friend of yours.Some friend!
2007-03-14 06:57:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might it is hard to say I just went through the same thing w/ my break up and the guy that I started talking to was a player. But if you really do think that she deserves better than you, you have to let her go or tell her how you feel.
2007-03-14 06:56:59 · answer #9 · answered by Green_eyes 69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that he fancies her and that she fancies him. Nothing wrong with that as you are both finished but I don't think it is helping you still living together. Maybe one of you could move out as I think that would help. Are you sure you don't want to get back with her? I f you don't then you must move on and live and let live or get back together or come to terms with things. Anyway good luck.
2007-03-14 07:16:49 · answer #10 · answered by foxy4t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very obvious that he likes her and she likes him back. Her diary tells you so, as well as does the discussion/argument you had with her.
The girl is already your ex, why would you still hang on to something that did not work out.
Move out of the house, (if it's hers, or ask her to move out, if it's yours), and move on with your life and find someone who fancies you.
2007-03-14 06:54:52 · answer #11 · answered by peachy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋