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Ive never seen my father because my parents divorced before i was born and i havnt had anyone to look up to and these past few years ive been getting anxiety and depression and paranoia..could this be why

2007-03-14 06:44:42 · 13 answers · asked by IC4NDY_ 3 in Health Mental Health

13 answers

Its possible, but my children also grew up without a father around and they are fine. It could just be that you would have been inclined to this anyway. try not to pin it on your absent father and work on starting to improve things

2007-03-14 06:49:05 · answer #1 · answered by huggz 7 · 1 0

Yes, it can affect you. But if you blame your father, you will never grow and accept the responsibility to change the problems it causes.

First when you do not have a parent, you grow up with a "lack or emotional availability" from that parent. Children, being egocentric, tend to think something is "wrong" with them or the parent would be there to love the. Thus they grow up insecure and with a deficit in nurturing. They then tend to try to find people to "rescue" them ... engaging in unrealistic relationships that end badly. There is more, but this is not a textbook. You get the idea. So, see a therapist and get to work. There may be other problems you have to, but that is the place to start.

Best of luck.
J

2007-03-14 06:58:25 · answer #2 · answered by Jerry H 2 · 0 0

it can affect u, a lot...but u can overcome it. i didnt see my dad until about 8 years old b/c he was in the military. then when he retired and came home he didnt spend time or talk to us too much( i have 3 sisters and was the only boy)...all the way until i graduated high school.

i noticed during that time that male figures i met along the way,i either tended to take in as older brothers or father figures especilally since i didnt get that from home to fill the void.

its a cycle though...some people who were in similar situations as i was, when they had kids, acted the same way and werent there for their kids. while others realized what happened and didnt want that to happen in their relationship w/ their sons or daughters. (and in no way am i criticizing ur father)

once i realized what i was missing by not having a father figure when i was growing up...it made me work double hard to make sure that my kids (whenever i have some) will not go through what i went though.

i work as an ESL teacher and its pretty easy to tell which little boys who dont have a fither in their life...and they attach to me like a son would to his father.

2007-03-14 07:03:20 · answer #3 · answered by carlos l 5 · 0 0

Perhaps it's different with you since you're a male, but I never had any problems with growing up without a father. Sure, I have a history of depression, anxiety, and ADHD, but those things aren't the result of my not having a father figure.

2007-03-14 07:03:32 · answer #4 · answered by tangerine 7 · 0 0

I had a father figure... My biological father.

And I can't begin to tell you of all the negative effects he had on my life. Im actually just beginning to scrape up the pieces that remain and move on in my 40's.

I think it is up to the emotional and mental intelligence of the indivisual.

If you want to have something to be miserable about and some drama to be damaged as a result of, that is as good an excuse as any I suppose?

2007-03-14 07:06:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

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2016-09-30 22:14:25 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

yes it will and you can also act like a girl as you are around a woman too much and normal father son things you will not be intrested in as noone was there for you to do them with and the anxiety is cause you father is not there to say good son lets ge icecream your mother is so miserable damn boy you are good a B average while you mother wont do any of that so got it hope i helped

2007-03-14 06:50:36 · answer #7 · answered by cutemarv 3 · 0 1

I think it can, my parents separated when I was a child and it has affected the way I view life and many things. Many people who didn't have either one parent or had bad parents say what they might it does affect ones perspective.

2007-03-14 06:57:59 · answer #8 · answered by BarbaraJean 2 · 0 0

Hey growing up with one can affect you!! Anyway i think Yes it can but not everyone will feel this way. Just get some counciling and see if it is that. Best Wishes to you.

2007-03-14 06:54:08 · answer #9 · answered by CHAEI 6 · 0 0

i don't know about all that.. but young women without fathers tend to fall in love FAST to older men or men in general. just be careful

2007-03-14 06:49:02 · answer #10 · answered by moi 1 · 0 0

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