This engaged guy I know is leaning towards having some kinda fling before he gets married. Things seem to be contingent upon that magical cut-off of the wedding date.
Here's the thing: I thought this was cliche, something for tv and movies. Are people really doing this? And, is the belief really that one is getting it out of their system before marriage and that the urge to be with another person is going to disappear in the 30 seconds after the vows are exchanged?
I'm thinking, maybe Im wrong, but if someone cheats in the few months before the wedding, maybe they should not be getting married at that time? Or is this some "stress reaction" that's seen as excusable??
2007-03-14 06:44:31 · 19 answers · asked by kinduvabrat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I wouldnt excuse it. If my husband had done something like this it would have been over.
2007-03-14 06:47:17 · answer #1 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is cheating. It would not be excusable to me. I don't get the "one last fling" idea. What's the point of having one? Don't people normally get married because they want to share the rest of their lives together? So why the need for this fling? It doesn't seem to make much sense.
If I found out that my fiance did this, I would call off the wedding.
2007-03-14 07:38:18 · answer #2 · answered by Just Me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do all of these assume the final fling before the bling was the guy s doing? I ve read different articles about this out of curiosity and this one is the only one where the guy doing it is so unanimously condemned and the girl isn t mentioned. The others, the guys get mentioned but apparently it is almost exclusively a girl thing. I don t say that because they talk about how their girl cheats but because the girls tell of their final fling and whether they regretted it.
2016-10-29 16:37:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"One Last Fling" is called cheating no excuses! Any guy that needs or wants a "One Last Fling" isnt ready for marriage & shouldnt get married. I have never & will never have a "One Last Fling" or cheated on any body & I wont start now! :)
2007-03-14 06:59:02 · answer #4 · answered by She is Beautiful! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is that stressed, he can have sex with his fiance before the wedding. There's really no excuse for having one last fling, what's he going to get out of it that he can't get from his potential life partner?
This type of "thrill seeking" seems typical of men who like to excuse their own slimy behavior. This is the type of man who will cheat on a woman 8 months pregnant, and make her big belly the excuse for his actions.
I agree with the lady who told you that he probably shouldn't be getting married at this point in his life. I mean if he can't stand being stuck in one vagina before the wedding, how's he going to act afterwards?
If this man is your friend be honest with him...
2007-03-14 06:57:29 · answer #5 · answered by Gorgeous George 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
TV is used for drama, real life doesn't need any drama. I would agree with you but cheating is cheating.... doesn't matter when or where it takes place. If someone needs a fling before marriage, you are right they are too immature to get married in the first place!!
2007-03-14 06:48:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He can call it stress reaction if he wants to but I call it cheating whether he's married or not. He's made a committment to this woman and should be faithful and loyal to it. Sounds to me like they're going to end up in divorce court before it's over for sure.
2007-03-14 09:00:47 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have "gotten it out of my system" before I met my husband. I personally feel that committment starts when you say you're committed - which should happen sometime BEFORE the two people decide to get married. I would not be falling for the "getting it out of the system" ruse. If this kind of thing is still in someone's "system", they are not ready to be getting married quite yet. If someone tried to pull this with me, I'd send them packing.
2007-03-14 07:08:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
That's called "cheating" and cheaters will always cheat again. That "one last fling" bs is an excuse, and this is pathing a very unstable route to start a marriage on.
Have your flings before you decide to settle down with someone else...its called dating!
2007-03-14 06:53:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you're right...I don't think the 'one last fling' is in anyway excusable. If they need to get one last fling in, my thought is they really shouldn't be marrying the person they are about to marry.
2007-03-14 06:52:47 · answer #10 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The litmus test for this is: Did he tell his fiance he was going to do this?
People are not really doing this. At least not honest people who are serious about their marriages. He is kidding himself to think that wanting to have sex with other women will ever be out of his system. That's just something that you have to deny yourself as a responsible mature adult.
2007-03-14 07:46:33 · answer #11 · answered by Martin Pedersen 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋