My 2 year old Son?

Question

My son's favorite phase is "SHUT UP" no matter you say to him this is his reply. I am not a parent that will spank their kids but I am running out of ways to control this. When I tell him No No he just giggles at me. I don't know if knows it's "Wrong" to say.

Any advice.

I DO NOT use the phase Shut Up to my kids so therefor he is not picking it up from me. I would have to guess if he is picking it up it would be from my 5 yr old. But this is something she hardly says either

Answer 1

The giggle says HE DOES KNOW IT"S WRONG. Time to use time out, or put a bit of pepper on his tongue when he says it. Words like shut up, stupid, dummy, hate, loser...are not allowed in my home, they are part of the list of "bad" words. I don't even use them. If the pepper doesn't work, a few swats on a fully covered bottom might need to be done. Not hard, just enough to show him you aren't playing. I'm mom to 3.

Answer 2

Don't use the words "shut up" yourself (if you are doing so right now) and in a calm but firm voice, say "that's not very nice" when he says that. Do not act amused (I am sure you don't) and don't laugh when he says "shut up." Your son and all kids need to learn the difference between right & wrong now and not when the police officers come to your front door when he's 13 years old. Putting him in the "naughty corner" for 1 minute or 2 is a good technique too because he will know for sure that he has done something wrong. Spanking should be reserved for more serious offenses (e.g. beating another child, etc.) and there are varying opinions about spanking. IMHO, spanking has it's place and we also have to make the distinction between a swat on the behind and abusing a kid (e.g. beating him black and blue or on the head-- which is wrong). If you do have to do some spanking because he's still disrespectful, then I wouldn't criticize you for it.

Ppl should also remember that shaking a child is very dangerous and can even kill a child, even if the adult didn't mean to do so.

Answer 3

I also have a 2 year old boy so I know how stubborn they can be. My son has recently started unhooking part of his carseat. I finally told him that if he did that while we were going down the road, the policeman would pull us over & we would get in trouble. When he & his sister are fighting, I get down at his level and tell him (very seriously) that he is acting ugly and he goes into his room for 2 minutes (1 min for every year). Hope this helps!

Answer 4

It's very very common for kids that age to do things like that for attention. However something no one's mentioned here yet is your tone of voice, which is extremely important. If your "no, no" is being said in a soft "mommy doesn't like that" tone of voice, he's not going to stop. He probably thinks you're playing with him. He's giggling, so he thinks it's funny. You have to be firmer in your tone of voice so he KNOWS you are not playing when you tell him not to say that. If that doesn't work after, say, two tries, then send him to his room or give him a "time out".

Good luck :-)

Answer 5

I'm with the woman who has the psychology degree and 5 children - ignore it. I know this is hard, especially if there are people observing you, but he probably giggles and repeats it because he gets a reaction from you. At 2, it's difficult to reason with kids. I can reason with my 5 year old and explain "bad words" but I couldn't do this with him at 2.

Good luck, mom... I also disagree with spanking. Try the ignore mode and see how that works. :)

Answer 6

Well, you do need a discipline device. You must use it consistantly. If he says "Shut up", give him a warning. If he says it again, he goes into time out, one minute for their age (2 years = 2 minutes). When he's done with time-out, talk about why he went in there. If he persists, he gets another time-out. Eventually he will figure out that he can say "Shut up" and sit on the steps (or wherever) all day or he can be nice and play and have fun. His choice.

Answer 7

at that age they are like little minna birds REPEAT EVERY THING
at that age take a little baby food jar, and tell him every day that he does not say Shut up he gets a jelly bean in the jar...... one for the morning and 1 for the after noon when the jar is full... take him to say The dollar tree, dollar general or what ever adn let him pick a toy... all their little toys at dollar general are 1 dollar....
Now your trick is keeping people away from him that speak like that if you hear some one sy it politely say OUCH I relaly hate when my child hears that can you please not say that around my son.. daughter... and the more you react to the word the more he will use it .......arnt they awesome at that age????

Answer 8

Bit scared by some of the answers!
Once a child is over 2 they can understand the concept of naughty step/stool - first say SHUT UP is not acceptable language in this house and warn if he repeats he'll go on the naughty step. if continues place him on it for 2mins (1min for each year) if he runs away, pick him up without speaking and put him back, repeat until he's stayed on the step for 2mins. it is tiring to begin with but works if you persevere. the idea is they get bored on the step and just the threat of it should help improve their behaviour

Answer 9

I wouldn't condone a smack upside the head. But, if he's two you can give him a pop on the butt that will get his attention. You can do it where the plastic of a diaper will make a loud scary noise without hurting his bottom too terribly. The noise and the jolt will make him cry but, he'll understand that something is wrong and he needs to think about it.

Answer 10

My almost two year old granddaughter had heard me tell our dog to "shut up" and started (much to my chagrin) saying it. Now we just say, "No, we say please be quiet". It sounds like it may have become a game to your son so the ole bait and switch may work but it will take time. He heard "shut up" somewhere so you have to make sure he now hears something else to replace it.

My granddaughter still slips and says it but when I tell her we say "please be quiet" she now repeats that as well and most of the time that is what she says.

Now if we could only get her to tell the dog to "sit" instead of something that sounds an awful lot like "s***"!!!