Monthly, my dad sends money to his native country because he wants to help out his family (who still lives there)..He gives money to my step brothers and sisters..which I can totally understands since they are his children from his previous wife..
My mom has a problem with this tremendously..she said he shouldn't send money to them because he needs to take care of my family first..I, however, disagree with her..I think it is his responsibility to do this also..Afterall, they are his children..I mean, if I were in his shoe, I would do the same thing also.
My entire family hates him because of this reason..and I am so sick of their bad attitude toward my dad. When I take my dad's side, they despise me also..They always say to me," you are just like your dad." I'm like..okay, he is my father, and I don't see anything wrong with sending money to his family to help them.
My dad and I are pretty much against my entire family..
What do you think of my dad? Is he a good person?
2007-03-14 06:43:04 · 9 answers · asked by ocean09 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am glad that you have such a father and that you have seen his value instead of having a selfish attitude yourself.
I am sorry that the rest of his family does not appreciate him , I pity him, to be such a man and to not be rewarded with kindness.
Be your fathers daughter there is nothing wrong with taking care of business, he is a good man and a rare one at that.
let him know that you respect him and find honor in what he does, he may need encouragement if the whole family is trying to get him to stop.
2007-03-14 07:22:26 · answer #1 · answered by Blessed Rain 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds more like you mother and the rest of your family are selfish.
Your mother knew he had been married before and had other obligations that he would have to meet, so it is unfair of her now to be complaining as she knew full well what she was getting herself into.
Your Dad has a moral responsibility to take care of all of his children until they reach adulthood and your father is doing the right thing in providing for all of his children and you are doing the right thing sticking up for him.
2007-03-14 06:54:29 · answer #2 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's so sad your family is against you two. You know your dad is a good man so keep your head up. Your family is mad because of the other woman not the kids that are getting money.
2007-03-14 06:48:37 · answer #3 · answered by tpurtygrl 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your dad is not being selfish......the others want what he is giving away for themselves and because they are not getting it.....He is selfish......The one that is being selfish is the one that Wants. Children are your children and you should take care of them the best way you know how.
Sending money back home to mom and dad - that maybe different, but we are to extend our hand to the poor.....in this country we are rich so he is honoring his mom and dad.....and that is a blessing......
2007-03-14 06:50:49 · answer #4 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Both you and your Dad are good people. Lots of dads abandon their "first" families, especially when they are in different countries. Stand by your dad, hes doing the right thing.
2007-03-14 06:55:13 · answer #5 · answered by sugar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad's primary reponsibilty is with his present family.
However, he definitely has a responsiblity to his otherchildren (men who try to wiggle out of this are known as "dead beat dads" and can/should have legal proceedings applied) and it sounds likehe is doing what is right.
You don't mention what state you're from, but in Michigan,
rest assured that your step-bros and sis' would be some
of dads' cash.
2007-03-14 07:10:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad is doing teh right thing. You are as much his child as the other children and there should be no showing favorites. Family is family.
2007-03-14 06:48:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes dad is a respectable man. those are his kids also. who he needs to support.I think your mom might have a jealously and or greed problem. I think its sad that he is doing the right thing and he is getting s-it for it from his own wife and kids. but keep supporting your dad he is a good man
2007-03-14 06:51:37 · answer #8 · answered by whynot 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You dad is an awesome person. I am raising two kids alone. It would help alot sometime even if their father would send $20.00. Good for you and your dad.
2007-03-14 06:46:43 · answer #9 · answered by Amanda 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋