How can i talk to this guy?

Question

I like this guy but i dont know how to talk to him i mean he has a girl friend but they hardly ever talk and i dont want them to break up just because of me but he told me that he likes me so what should do......NO STUPID ANSWERS PLEASE!

Answer 1

Just talk to him. Casually talk like friends. Hint to him you like him too. Show the conscern you show that he has a current gf and you don't want them to break up but you're conscerned he isn't getting the love/attention/affection he desires and needs. Sit close to him. Flirt with him. Etc etc.

Answer 2

Hello Whitney,

First of all, I will say that i was in your shoes a few years back, just rolls reversed lol, but I am still regretting that I didn't take action then.

My answer to you would be, get tickets for two to dinner or a play or something that has just come into town, do not go to a casino or something that makes a man feel comfortable by himself, in doing so, you will find out the man's true motive in going out with you, meaning if he is serious or what. Just because he accepts tickets, does not make him a man, but the gesture on your part shows you still have feelings for him.
Good luck.

Answer 3

Establish a friendship with him first. Do not to anything to piss the girlfriend off. This will only cause problems. Just become friends and as the friendship grows, other things may come of it. Plus if they break up naturally, he's gonna turn to you, his friend. Thats the best way to go about this.

Answer 4

I know I'm not answering your question directly, but one thing to keep in mind is that if he's planning on cheating on his current girlfriend with you, and you wind up his girlfriend, there's a good chance he will do the same to you in the future. Besides that, just talk to him. Attention from a girl, especially one they like, is a huge ego boost to guys, so you shouldn't worry as far as that goes. Be careful and stay safe.
That's my two cents for ya.

Answer 5

I am in the exact same situation. I am doing the safe thing and just waiting. but you can't be with him and not have them break up at the same time, you can't have it both ways. Just talk to him as a friend. if something changes, then make your move (after waiting an appropriate time.)

Answer 6

I've been in a situation like this before and i just let myself forget that he had a girlfriend and did my own thing with him and he didnt break up with her cuz of me he broke up with her b/c he was unhappy in that relationship and feel that u should respect someones relationship but u should also do the best thing for you now we've been together for 6months while he was only with her for like 3 months

Answer 7

Don't go for the home run right away. Just talk casually with him. My girlfriend and I started out as classmates, and just talked casually. I never thought we'd get together, but it happened.

So just be yourself, and if it pans out then it pans out. Plus don't feel too guilty if they do break-up. Ever heard what's meant to be will be? Those kinds of relationships come and go until he hands her a ring.

Answer 8

I know its easier said than done, especially if you like the guy but I'd personally move on and find another hunk. At the end of the day Matey, you need to ask yourself would he fancy someone else if you both got together? Good luck. x

Answer 9

Leave him alone. He already told you he likes you, but he still needs to make the first move. He's still with his girlfriend which probably means he still has feelings for her and isn't ready to move on yet. If you really don't want to be responsible for their break up, don't approach him until he's single.

Answer 10

i guess it is never easy to talk to a guy whom you would like. imagine it from a guy's point of view if he likes a girl, would he also experience the same feelings as you? yes, he definitely would. why? its part of human nature to fear rejection. someone once said that the greatest thing to fear is fear itself.

do not worry. just be brave and speak to him as you would to a normal friend. just like when you cross your friend in the hallway, do the same thing as to him. act normally. do not pretend you are someone else.

it does not mean that him having a girlfriend now would result in you breaking up their relationship. a relationship needs a lot of things to go right before it will work. selfishly speaking, its your life to write, its your way to write it. if you would give him up for his happiness with the girl, then do it. otherwise, stand your ground lest others stampede over you. the main question is that would you be able to make him happy when he is with you? and of course, in that context, means that he likes you for who you are, and not who you pretend to be.

and since he doesn't talk to his girlfriend, for all you know, she could just be a normal friend to him. who knows? try your luck, and never stop trying. because if you give up, then you will just tell yourself to keep giving up next time.