My ex and I broke up 6 months ago. We have a small child together. At first I could not get over him. The 3 first months seem to hurt the most especially when he told me he was seeing someone for me to move on. I told him I was pregnant. He said he could not be with us he needed to explore. I told him he was no longer welcome to my house, that I didn’t want anything to do with him. I have 3 weeks that I deiced to move on and I don’t call or tex him. Now he is the one calling with the excuse of our son. He came over last night I was not at home he left me a TimeWorner message I sorry I miss u come by to see my boy. How can I get him to stop coming over????? Y is he doing this now????
2007-03-14 06:32:20 · 9 answers · asked by Natural 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes he does help with money, but he only comes around once a week for one hour or less. When he has his day off he never calls to pick him up to spend time with him. When he is sick he doesn’t bother with him. I’ m not seeing no one I’m just fed up with his ****.
2007-03-14 06:59:27 · update #1
I fully understand why you became so resentful at the beginning... Your pregnant.. child coming.. emotional... And this guy wants the easy way out by leaving to have fun. Then to tell you he is seeing someone else.. Yes that burns.
You know some people realize sooner then others that they have made a huge mistake. And know they love you but have become scared off because of the huge life style change about to happen.
Your child needs to have his father around.. no matter what has happened between you two.. It can not effect the children. You dont have to forgive him or even like the guy. But you have to put it aside for your sons sake.
Have you started seeing someone else?? That usually triggers it for him. Seeing another with you and raising his son.. It hurts them.
Women always need closure.. ALWAYS... you need to talk with him about why he left, and Why now the change in wanting to come back......And tell him HOW HE MADE YOU FEEL... and tell him flat out you cant be with him.. Get it off your chest
2007-03-14 06:47:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants to be in his sons life, he is a huge *** hole for leaving you when you were pregnat i wouldnt give him the time of day, but he wants to be in his sons life and you sons needs his dad, so you cant really stop him from coming over inless you fight for custidy. move on find a great guy, but dont forget to put your son first
2007-03-14 13:36:15 · answer #2 · answered by CRAZY 8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to allow him to be there for his son somehow. It's the right thing to do. Don't let what you guys are going through to effect your child.
2007-03-14 13:38:01 · answer #3 · answered by G-BOY 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He deserves to at least see his kid, and it would be wrong of you to deny him of that. But, before you let him come near either of you, you need to let him know that your relationship is over and that you have no interest in taking him back.
2007-03-14 13:39:59 · answer #4 · answered by hoboace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 words
restraining order,
but your son does need a father figure.
good luck
2007-03-14 13:37:31 · answer #5 · answered by Michael F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better let him see his son. Can you take care of him by yourself? Oh, wait, you still have my taxes to rely on.
2007-03-14 13:36:51 · answer #6 · answered by nyckib 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move houses so your nowhere to be found
2007-03-14 13:35:06 · answer #7 · answered by IC4NDY_ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is the father he should be seeing his boy. is he helping you financially? if not he should be, after all it is his boy, right?
2007-03-14 13:38:00 · answer #8 · answered by ladydaisy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
idk if it could count as harassment but try getting a restraining order placed on him and tell him to leave u alone
2007-03-14 13:37:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋