I called my bf one night, the call got accepted, but no one answered, and there were girls giggling in the background, it was obvious he was on the street cuz i heard cars passing by. I called again and so he answered, he told me he was by a grocery store, but they didn't have what he wanted to buy so as he was leaving some girls came to talk to him. I quietly asked if he was cheatin, and he told me "uh....yeah?"
I hung up and my friends told me to call and find out what really went on. When i called he said he didn't hear a thing i was saying and just said "yeah" just like that. He keeps telling me that if he didn't want to be with me, he wouldn't still be with me, and that he'll leave before he cheats. I have a big prob. with jealousy, am i just overreacting?
2007-03-14 06:27:16 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we've been only dating for 7 years as good friends, but now that we're very serious, my jealousy level rose! He's verrrrrryyyyyy handsome, smart, and i real thug and i know i'm not the only one that thinks so!
2007-03-14 06:29:28 · update #1
Seems to me you should listen to the words he speaks.
If he said yea and meant it and you called him back that is telling him you care even though he cheated.
Apparently he still cares about you cause he said so.
I think your time with him should give him some leway as to just bolting when you don't know what really happened.
Drop it, forget it, and enjoy what you still can have with this adonis. If he is so georgous then you will have to buck up and realize there will always be women (some men) veying for his attention.
It doesnt necessarily mean he will give it. Also, if you are so thrilled to be with him, enjoy he has chosen you and run with it.
If his love starts to wane you will know. don't let jealousy ruin your relationship-it didn't work for othello
2007-03-14 06:46:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
in his defense i sometimes do the same thing i wont hear what was said and instead of asking the person to repeat theirself i just yeah or uh huh so i wouldnt take that to heart but if you have issues with trusting him then maybe the two of you should go back to be friends cuz you insecurity will end the relationship quick. trust him until he gives you a reason not to. good luck
2007-03-21 22:54:47 · answer #2 · answered by cluelessly_n_love 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think your over reacting. I think alot of girls would of starting acting the same way & started questioning him if the same thing happened to them. But just calm down & talk to him about how you feel & just see where the relationship goes. If he keeps acting weird & doing things that make you question his feeling for you & yalls relationship then its time to call it quits or have a serious talk! I hope this helps! Good Luck :)
2007-03-14 13:52:56 · answer #3 · answered by She is Beautiful! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys when asked if there are cheating say no. I don't know how long you felt this way or if there have been other situations where you felt something was going on. I would not make myself crazy over it I would start getting more involved with me time rather then spend your day worried if he is cheating.
2007-03-22 09:39:18 · answer #4 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i heard that line before.girl he is cheating on you....it is so obvious.he answered the phone but didnt say anything.probably cause he couldnt think of an excuse right away....youre not overreacting.its up to you if you still want to stay with him or not.if you do stay with him.dont take him seriously.but if i was you i would end the relationship sooner than later.
2007-03-22 10:07:12 · answer #5 · answered by Itsjustme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah i think you are overreacting...it happens sometimes that you just say yeah when you did not really heard the question...it often happens with me. Cool down and forget about it.
2007-03-15 01:51:28 · answer #6 · answered by Selena C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl. ive gone through the same shyt. he heard every word you said, confessed to it like a man cause he know he was gonna get caught sooner or later, and now he see how you reactin' and he dont know how to handle it. and no your not over reacting. and no matter how many times he says that bull shyt line "...ill leave b4 i cheat" dont belive it. thats something people say to shut you up for a quick second
2007-03-22 11:25:29 · answer #7 · answered by Beauty & Brains 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a big problem with the statement "I would leave you before I cheated". It implies that cheating has crossed this guys mind and is in the back of it. I would dump him and find someone who values you more....and who would have responsed to that question with "I would never cheat on you. You are the only one for me".
2007-03-14 13:31:28 · answer #8 · answered by Clarissa 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're overreacting calm down! Trust is obviously a big issue with your relationship.
2007-03-22 03:27:47 · answer #9 · answered by _____ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea...if you love him and want to be with him the you have to trust him...ask him about any concerns that you have and see what he says if he told u that he would leave before cheating on you then he is probably being honest...just talk to him and tell him how you feel and most importantly TRUST HIM!!and make sure he trusts u.
2007-03-14 13:34:30 · answer #10 · answered by pinkbabiesr07 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋