I just moved eight hours away from my mom with my boyfriend. I am currently working and make to much money to get any assitance with daycare. However daycare can run from 400-750/ month where i live. My mom wants me to leave my child at her house and just visit. Before I moved I heard her saying how the only reason she looks forward to waking up and going on is because of my baby. My dad jus had surgery and now they both are disabled. He's the type that likes to do stuff. The only thing that they both looked forward to was playing with my son. It would be a bit of a financial help for right now if i let him stay, but i don't wanna feel like i'm giving him away. i also don't wanna lose any of the love that i have for him. He is my heart and soul. Everyday he was gone i thought of him. What should i do. He is also very happy when he's with them. Am i being selfish for keeping him with me?
2007-03-14 06:22:55 · 10 answers · asked by special 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
he is 1yr & 8 months
2007-03-14 06:47:43 · update #1
Alot of elderly people look forward to getting up in the morning and having someone there to do things for, it really keeps them going you should let him stay with them they are disabled and the only thing they look forward to is their grandson so you should leave him there and visit on the weekends, its nice your parents want to keep them you are helping each other out this way..So Leave him there he will be fine..
2007-03-14 06:30:11 · answer #1 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How can you even ask about being selfish? He is your son. I would move the moon and stars just to make a life for my child. No matter what he is your son and he is your responsibility.
Your parents will always be grandparents and the love they have for your child will never fade regarless of the situation.
Daycare is expensive but that is what you have to deal with when you have children.
My daughter wanted to go live with my mom when she was younger, but I refused because she was my child. My parents still spoil her and she still lives with me.
2007-03-14 06:33:04 · answer #2 · answered by Valentina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are disabled. This is YOUR CHILD. I would work out a plan to let your Mother have him ever other weekend, but nothing more. This would give her something to look forward to, and allow you a piece of mind as well.
2007-03-14 06:39:06 · answer #3 · answered by TreeOfKnowledge 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i work off shore oil rigs and im a single parent. so my son stays with grandma when im gone. trust me this is not ideal at all. i dont think me and my mother have ever been at each others throats this bad. if it wasnt the fact that i needed her to work. and for my son. at this point i dont think i would ever speak to her again. if i found a better solution and im looking for one now even if it costs me more money i dont care. i just cant stand her having this much control anymore. dont get into this with her while u still can. trust me this has bad news written all over it.
2007-03-14 06:29:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you'r not being one bit selfish.. I understand you'r parents love you'r child and I understand you do to. but they raised you. you should raise your own son.. I know they are both willing to help.. and I understand you love your son and it's a big finicial problem for you.. Maybe you and you'r son could always go and visit your parents every other weekend or so.. although gas prices could also be a finicial probelm. But how old is your son also?
2007-03-14 06:30:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you retarded? Your Mom is being selfish. Becoming a parent takes sacrifice, but the sacrifice of the child.....but of the parent.....You my dear Need to Learn how to love.....Scrimping and scraping is part of being Parents.....there is Now easy way out of being a parent.....Grow up and You take care of your Child......Mom and Dads job is over.....The raised theirs......
2007-03-14 07:06:46 · answer #6 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Purna I sure hope you dont work for any animal rights group nor own a pet. I read your other answer in another question. Very very insensitive of you. Dont have a pet!
2007-03-14 08:38:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont ever leave your children! Thats why kids get messed up! I dont care if I were homeless, forced to live in a brothel, my kids will be with me and I'd be the best mom I could be and I'd explain to them that even if we're homeless, we have eachother and always, always, always will.
2007-03-14 06:28:37 · answer #8 · answered by okiedokey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i might enable them to have a snack interior the lounge, yet no longer an certainly meal, and that they might could desire to be seated, the little infants because of the fact they could choke and the older childrens because of the fact i dont opt for them strolling around with food, they could desire to take a seat while they consume.
2016-10-02 02:50:21 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if ur son's happy and ur parents r also happy taking care of him, then u shud naturally feel happy too.
u have good parents who r willing to take care of their grandson and letting u live ur life. u shud instead feel lucky!
dont keep thinking abt u, if so, then u r selfish.
2007-03-14 06:31:37 · answer #10 · answered by purna 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋