Are there parents out there who still put their children first?

Question

In this day and age of me, me, me, I wonder how many parents consider what's best for their children before making decisions.

Answer 1

My children are my whole universe. They need me to protect them and teach them and love them. Before I make a decision about anything I always think about how it will affect the kids first. For example, when we were looking for a place my husband was talking about where to put his animals (bad him) but all I would talk about was "oh, Katie would just LOVE this room!" or "This room is big enough for the boys, what do you think?"

I don't even buy anything for $5 at Wal-Mart if I can think of something my kids need. But, that was they way I was raised to be with children and it only makes sense to me. I know I need to be happy too but without my kids being happy first I could never be happy.

Answer 2

I don't think it's right to put your children first any more than it's right for parents to put themselves first.

The family unit as a whole is what's important. As a whole, the family should love each other and work together to do what's best for each and every person.

If parents make sacrifices for their children, but children don't learn to also make sacrifices, then the children do not learn the deep meaning of love nor experience instead they learn a whole in which everything revolves around them.

If it's a job, move, financial decision, whatever, I firmly believe that the entire family should discuss it and come up with a solution that is best for everyone.

Answer 3

My son is my entire world and he always comes first. I moved back home with parents after I had him because even though I was moving away from friends and had to take a different position at my job, he will be able to go to better schools and will be much closer to family, also he won't have a mommy who is trying to work two jobs just to take care of him. There isn't one decision that I make in my life that I don't consider his needs first and do what is best for him. I would sacrifice anything and everything for my child

Answer 4

My children always come first. I have 3 sons and two stepsons and I am a stay at home mother to take care of all of them. My husband has his own business and is home a lot in the winter to help me. We do not go out anymore and even when we have the opportunity, we prefer to stay home because we hate leaving the kids with anyone (especially our youngest who is 2). We see our friends leave their kids all the time with people so they can go out drinking, but to us it is not worth it anymore. Our children are on a wonderful schedule that allows us to have time alone when they are in bed at 9 PM. We have a couple beers at home when we want or we invite my brother and sister-n-law over with their kids when we want to hang out (because they are just like us). I don't think the partying life is all that much fun anyway. But I sure wish I had someone who would watch the boys and love them like we do so we can karoake once in a while! We have a nice karoake machine at home so we solved that problem, too, but I would love to go out and do that again! But everything we do is based around our kids and I find that we are only close to other families with the same values.

Answer 5

Everything we do we consider our boys, no matter how big or small, they get everything they need before we think of ourselves. Thats the way parents should be and its sad to think of how many parents are just the opposite, but what can you do. Our boys are very well taken care of and have everything they need. I would give them every last penny i had to make sure they had what they needed. They are our lives and will always be

Mom of 4 boys and 25 weeks with boy 5!!

Answer 6

My husband and I always put our daughter first. That does not mean that we dont take care of ourselves or each other. But if there is a clash of interests, our daughter always come first.

I think its true for most parents. Sometimes parents have to make hard decision which looks like that they dont care for their kids, but it difficult to know what they are going thru unless we are in their shoes.

Answer 7

We definitely do. My husband even said that he wouldn't take a transfer now that our oldest is in school. But ultimately, in our house the marriage comes first. Our children would be devastated if we were to divorce and sooner or later they will grow up and move away. Then I hope to be able to spoil grandchildren some day.

Answer 8

Hubby and I do. Our kids are our world. Their needs come first ALWAYS. There have been numerous times that the money we had to pay or the time we had to spend could have been spent elsewhere but for our children NOTHING is too good and nothing can wait until later if the kids need it. They are NOT spoiled. Just loved.

Answer 9

My kids have ALWAYS come first. I can't tell you the last time I did anything for myself without first taking into consideration if the kids needed something. I was raised that way and, although, they are both married now, I still think about helping them, if it's needed, before I do something frivilous for myself. I have never considered them spoiled, just LOVED TO DEATH.

Answer 10

I put my son before everything. I made the decsion not to go back to college to be with him in his first year or whatever. I didnt go back to work for that same reason. I got married for him, not fully becuase that would just be stupid, i do love his father very much but you know what i mean. So yes, i put my child first.