Should I try to be in a relationship with him again?

Question

I had a guy friend since Sept and it changed to a relationship mid Jan. Everything was fine until I got calls from his ex-gf telling me that they were still together. His best friend & him told me that she is just obsessed and can't get over him, but the calls were quite annoying for me. Later on I found out that she had to abort a baby from the guy i dated. This means she became pregnant in Dec. I know that they were used protection and the guy i was dating does not want to be in a relationship anymore with her but still tries to help her at times since she she is young, has no parental support and is psych. unstable. I have asked for time apart to see if he will separate himself fully from her life if he actually wants to be apart of mine. He is making steps to prove he deserves me back like changing ways she can reach him and telling me the truth about her and the circumstances he knows he can't abandon her abruptly. I really like him, should i give him a chance in the future?

Answer 1

well he is making changes which is good but the fact that only now he is telling you the truth is a red flag he should have told you about her and there situation at the beginning so that means he would rather hurt you and keep you then tell you the truth and maybe lose you. not good at all

so i would try it again but keep your head and dont fall into it start as friends again and then go dating take it slow and please be careful if anything goes wrong jump out of the relationship and dont look back

i dated a guy that lied to me so he could keep me and it turned out that he lied about other things BIG things and it hurt me so bad and he knew it was killing me but he still lied cus he was thinking about himself and not about my happiness so be careful

Answer 2

well im going thru the same things except my ex is a compulsive liar and he was having a possibe affair with is ex and she had told me everything.. me nd him have been thru a lot and let me tell u that if u have a gut feeling that he is still having something with her then TRUST ME u are not wrong but like u said... if he is trying and making efforts to tay with you and be honest AND LOYAL to you then you should give him a chance because he is making the efforts! he seems worthy of your time.. but just do what you think is best and dont get pressured by your friends to make your decision.. GooD LucK!

Answer 3

Nope--sonds like a person with tons of emotional baggage--I would be very careful here--yes--you could deal with it if you were desperate for any relationship--but you will always be wondering if he has told you everything and if it is the full truth etc..Better to try with someone who is totally honest from th get-go--Why not have a higher standard for yourself?...Get out of teh drma --there are plenty of available men who do not have al those issue (also--a red flag--whenever ANY man starts calling his ex-psycho--guess what?..in one or two years--he's going to start telling his new girlfriend that YOU are psycho--and you may be--because you will be so upset at how he suddenly ditched you for someone new) See the red flags adn gt out--there are plenty of guys out there...

Answer 4

i would def wait a bit and see if he tries to prove himself to you that he wants you and no one but you. .even then it could be risky . .i believe in 2nd chances but the one thing i would not be able to forgive my bf for is if he cheated on me. . it takes a lot to decide on what to do but if you think everything will change and be different go ahead. . you dont want to be in the future asking "what if"

Answer 5

yah just go for it and if it soesn't work just break up again