I do care/love him but I am not happy
2007-03-14 05:59:03 · 36 answers · asked by crickey21 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just be honest with him, dont make up some silly excuse or do something dumb. Just tell him things aren't working out and you would rather end things now so no one gets hurt worse, as much as you care for him things just don't feel the same. This way it is less likely to turn into an arguement or a confrontation.
2007-03-14 06:05:21 · answer #1 · answered by Chris 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Loving somone is...caring. If you care then you love him in a different way. There are many ways of loving someone. Perhaps you just dont have anything in common wth him. Dont enjoy doing the same things. You have two choices. You can either fix it by telling him the things that make you unhappy and see if he cares about you enough to make some changes...or you can be totally honest, tell him you are not happy, want to break up but still want to be friends because you care.
2007-03-14 06:05:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he hasnt done anyhting bad like cheat on you, then you need to be gentle with him. Explain that you still care and that, but youre not happy and you think it would be fairer on both of you to split up. Dont expect him to be happy about it. Hell probably be really hurt and may even throw insults and accusations at you, but keep calm and try not to shout. Whatever you do, dont come out with the line about staying friends. That will be the last thing he wants after you telling him something like that. If you do still want to be friends, then give it a couple of months for him to calm down, then put out the feelers. Make sure he knows that you dont want to get back together though.
2007-03-14 06:31:35 · answer #3 · answered by fallenangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i had the same problem so here is what you say "i really care for you so much but i am just not happy anymore. and i dont feel the spark between us the way i used to so i think we should go back to friends and see how that works"
this is the only one that worked i have tried all the others with this one guy and he just wouldn't let go so try this one and keep it short and then leave and dont talk to him for a few days to give him time to pick himself up again
2007-03-14 06:04:16 · answer #4 · answered by carmelfude2003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the most tactful way possible, just tell it like it is. After the initial distress, he will appreciate your honesty and you'll both be able to move on. Remember the old adage of being cruel to be kind? This applies here - after all, you can't live a lie. A tricky situation, but not insurmountable. Good luck.
2007-03-14 09:57:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are not happy being his girlfriend then you need to call him on the phone tell him and change your cell phone number and your house phone number that way he can't reach you on the phone then you need to be prepared to have him come over don't invite him over but if he comes over then you need to have the doors locked and perhaps a list under a mat or something where he will find it easily and the list will say something like why you don't want to be his girlfriend maybe if he changes his ways then you might be happy with him or if he does change his ways you may not want him back i don't know his personality
2007-03-14 06:10:12 · answer #6 · answered by girlsrulejenna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be as straight forward as possible. Guys don't like to take no for an answer, or be rejected. (believe me, I know from experience) So if you leave any possible doubt in his mind about what you really want, he'll just assume that you still want to be with him.
You need to just kindly explain to him that you don't want to be with him anymore. Don't try to hint at it, make sure he gets it completely. It's gonna be hard on both of you, but if you don't do it right it's going to keep hurting down the road.
2007-03-14 06:04:45 · answer #7 · answered by FakeFrowns 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dear we are in a dynamic world so make sure of every decion you make,and the risk that you are taking to let go the love that you are having,coz u surprised me with the yes i love and care but not being happy.honey think twice but if u are not happy with him then i agry with you its time to say goodbye and just let it be as easy as the day you said the i love you too if you still remeber that...wish u all the best
2007-03-14 06:13:22 · answer #8 · answered by sweetpie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i done the same thing a few months ago,, i was so worried and couldn't find the words.. but i knew i needed to do it because i didn't want to be with him.. i sat him down and said i needed to tell him something.. then i just went on to say that i didn't think the relationship was working anymore and that i really felt like i would like to be on my own for a while,, say sorry, say you don't want to hurt him, be honest. its hard to start it but once you have it will all be ok and then once you have finished you will just have this feeling of relief. you just need to be strong and do it.
2007-03-14 06:07:39 · answer #9 · answered by jem 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and do not waiver, dont use terms like " i need to be alone for a while" or "we can be friends" it will hurt but it is the right thing to do. Do not call to see how he is and be a lady if you plan on dating right away stay away from places you both go or that he is a regular at.
2007-03-14 06:06:03 · answer #10 · answered by trick1us 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋