born again christian and catholic wedding?

Question

my fiance is born agian christian but is not longer involved in the church. Im Catholic and attend church rarely..I was raised to belive that a marriage doesnt count unless you get married in church..,he doesnt want to convert and i will not either..so we are planning on getting married outdoors..so how can i include my religious backround in the ceremony

Answer 1

You need to get married inside the Church- both the building and the institution.

Marriage is a Sacrament and the proper place for the celebration of a Sacrament is with the walls of the Church.

No one needs to convert. Do you honestly think you are the only Catholic ever to want to marry a non Catholic?

I will tell you this- as a Catholic who married a non-Catholic...there is a reason it is better to marry within your own faith...it may not matter now, but once you start a family it WILL matter to you how your children are raised. You had better sit down with a priest who can help you sort through all the things you can't possibly consider throught thr rosy glasses of love!

Answer 2

Dating is supposed to be like an "interviewing" process. It's purpose is to see if the other person would make a good spouse or not. Since the NUMBER ONE, MOST IMPORTANT issue is your relationship with God, when you FIRST meet someone with whom you'd be unequally yoked, you should cross them off the list, and not send them on to the next level of interviews (second date).

"Planning the wedding stage" is a little late to be realizing this. Divorces happen so much in this country because people marry into an unequally yoked situation. Right now, both of you are OK with the other's "stated, but not acted upon" religious position. One day, one or both of you will be pressed into "acting upon" what your actual beliefs are. This might happen at any time, but will certainly happen when your first child is born - your family will be pressing for infant baptism, fearing for the salvation of the child. As a born again Christian myself, I believe there is a HARM done by infant baptism. It gives all involved the false hope that salvation was placed upon someone, and the decision to accept Christ is unnecessary.

Lastly, I think too much emphasis is placed on wedding ceremonies today, and not enough on marriage, so WHERE the ceremony is held is really not important. But your question of including your religious background into the ceremony poses yet another problem - do you intend to have anything involving praying to or giving any kind of acknowledgment to any "saints"? As a born again Christian, I would view this as praying to demons - as is how his family would see it, whether or not he would view it as such or state it this way.

I am sorry to be so down on your whole situation - I'm not trying to be mean, but I meet many people going through divorces in my work (Realtor) and almost all of it can be tracked to being unequally yoked, which is something to be thought about prior to marriage, not after the trouble.

Answer 3

If you think planning a multi-religious wedding is difficult...wait till you start trying to raise your children together!

If you go rarely...why do you suddenly need to "incorporate" your religion into your life? Marriage, like religion is a man made concept. Marriage counts only when you are fully committed to it in your heart. When, where and how do not really matter. Good luck and congratulations.

Answer 4

I dont think both of you are ready for marriage, both of you are egoistic, you dont want to convert, he does not want to convert. What the hell is happening, dont you love each other enough to give in to one's religion. Is religion such a great thing, and top of that you want to include only your religious background in the ceremony. How selfish

Answer 5

My only suggestion to you is to talk to both of your clergymen. I am willing to bet you can work something out. I cannot count how many Catholic/Protestant weddings I have been to, including my sister's.