born again christian and catholic wedding?

Question

my fiance is born agian christian but is not longer involved in the church. Im Catholic and attend church rarely..I was raised to belive that a marriage doesnt count unless you get married in church..,he doesnt want to convert and i will not either..so we are planning on getting married outdoors..so how can i include my religious backround in the ceremony

Answer 1

My husband and I had our ceremony at a historic mansion. Since my father and siblings are all ministers, my mother was a little disappointed that we chose not to marry in the church. My personal belief is that all marriages are blessed by God when you incorporate your faith in your marriage ceremony. Even though our ceremony was not held in the church, our ceremony was conducted by an ordained minister (my brother) which included an opening prayer, vows and ring ceremonies that expressed our spiritual views, relevant Scripture readings, and a blessing of our union from our officiant. Most of my family and friends are active Christians and everyone loved our ceremony and had a great time (including my mother!). You can have a religious ceremony at any location as long you incorporate various aspects that profess your faith. Most protestant ministers are willing to conduct a religious ceremony at locations outside of churches. It may be more difficult to find a priest who is willing to do so, but I'm sure you might be able to find one if that is important to you. Just don't be discouraged, you can still have a wonderful wedding that incorporates both of your Christian beliefs.

Answer 2

Born Again Christian Wedding Ceremony

Answer 3

Dating is supposed to be like an "interviewing" process. It's purpose is to see if the other person would make a good spouse or not. Since the NUMBER ONE, MOST IMPORTANT issue is your relationship with God, when you FIRST meet someone with whom you'd be unequally yoked, you should cross them off the list, and not send them on to the next level of interviews (second date). "Planning the wedding stage" is a little late to be realizing this. Divorces happen so much in this country because people marry into an unequally yoked situation. Right now, both of you are OK with the other's "stated, but not acted upon" religious position. One day, one or both of you will be pressed into "acting upon" what your actual beliefs are. This might happen at any time, but will certainly happen when your first child is born - your family will be pressing for infant baptism, fearing for the salvation of the child. As a born again Christian myself, I believe there is a HARM done by infant baptism. It gives all involved the false hope that salvation was placed upon someone, and the decision to accept Christ is unnecessary. Lastly, I think too much emphasis is placed on wedding ceremonies today, and not enough on marriage, so WHERE the ceremony is held is really not important. But your question of including your religious background into the ceremony poses yet another problem - do you intend to have anything involving praying to or giving any kind of acknowledgment to any "saints"? As a born again Christian, I would view this as praying to demons - as is how his family would see it, whether or not he would view it as such or state it this way. I am sorry to be so down on your whole situation - I'm not trying to be mean, but I meet many people going through divorces in my work (Realtor) and almost all of it can be tracked to being unequally yoked, which is something to be thought about prior to marriage, not after the trouble.

Answer 4

Congratulations to your fiance!
God does not dwell in a sanctuary. He meets with us there when we attend a service. It isn't where He lives.
So having your wedding ceremony where you want only requires asking God to be there. You know, the, "where 2 or 3 are gathered in My name......."?

Find yourself a christian officiant (such as myself) to perform the ceremony.
Just did a similar ceremony Friday night; they became Christians & wanted to marry.
Heard from the bride today. Says when she watches the video she tears up & the hubby is going around with a smile on his face! (This was not the first marriage for either of them)

To find an officiant type into Yahoo your city, state & wedding officiant (no 's' on the end) You will have a few to choose from, usually on the 2nd page. The larger bridal sites seem to get top biling. If you do go to the bridal sites, please visit the site of someone you think you might like. Those bridal sites make vendors & officiants pay for your contact info so you may not hear back from someone you'd hoped.

You aren't anywhere in southwestern Ohio, are you?

Answer 5

Have civil ceremony. Why fake the funk? You don't even practice your religion and neither does he. You want to invite God into your lives for a few hours on a special day and chances are you will forget all about Him by the end of the evening. I don't understand why people feel the need to put on a show. It's your wedding so show your true self.

Answer 6

Depends on who is doing your ceremony. Just a jp? Then there really is no reason to. Maybe you should talk to your priest about this. It's something that is discussed in pre-marital counselling - the two of you have to have lots of talks in what you will do in regard to religion of yourselves, in your home, and should you have children. As a Catholic, I couldn't imagine not raising my children Catholic, so I made sure I married a Catholic.

Answer 7

I agree with the top answer. That is what I am doing. I'm getting married at the beach. I don't think that it won't count. As long as God is there, I think that He is OK with it. Examples are Adam and Eve's children didn't have a church to be married in.

Answer 8

You shoudl sit down and discuss with him what aspects of religion you would like in your wedding.

There should be a way to comprimise and find a solution that will work for you both.

Talking now to resolve this will be one of the easiet challenges in your marrige.

It also sets up the ability to talk when the hard stuff decided to confront you both later in life.

Answer 9

Go non denominational. You can always opt for a chapel that isn't a church persay, but that is used for weddings. Also, you can talk to the officiant about possibally incorperating both of your religious beliefs.

Answer 10

Have an officiant from a non-denominational church.

Good luck