hey, when i was young my parents tell me all the time how i use to say i love you to them all the time. but now that im older i dont say it at all. for some reason i dont remember saying i love you to my parents. i know i love them. but i never say it. it just feels weird. the one relative i truely loved was my grandma. she raised me. i was always with her. and most of my memories were of her. i can say i love you to my boyfriend every minute, and i know the love is there and is real i can feel it everytime. but when it comes to my parents, i freeze up. why? is there something wrong with me? i know in my heart i love them. is that enough? or should i just start saying it every chance i have? it feels like if i say i love them, im lying to myself and sometimes i feel they think i say it just to have something.. is it normal to love you parents but never say to them the acutally words? im so clueless
2007-03-14 05:49:21 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't think its a real problem - you just don't liek being sentimental. Why don't you try sending them a sentimental card on Mother's Day or Father's Day and make sure you write on it that you love them! That way you'll get the message across and you won't be overcome by the sentiment.
Or if you really want to tell them, try it in a jokey way. "I love you so much cos you're such a good cook Mom!" would make any mother glow with pride.
2007-03-14 06:09:38 · answer #1 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's normal. You said you spent the majority of your time with grandma and she raised you. Maybe you hold some hostility towards your parents because they didn't raise you? Only you know, but you don't have to tell your parents or anyone for that matter that you love them all the time. My parents are not emotional people, they don't say "I love you" or "I'm proud of you." They just go along doing things and showing their love by offering to fix the leak in the sink or babysit for a couple hours. That's ok, too. Some people aren't emotional. Sounds like you and your boyfriend are, and that's great, maybe if you have kids, they will never have this issue you do. But, don't worry, it is normal to still love your parents and not say it.
2007-03-14 06:04:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually it's the parent's job to create that communication with their children. They're the ones who start being caring, affectionate, and their ways reflect on their children. Maybe they don't say it to you at all and now you have a hard time b/c it's what you've always known? Some aren't good with words, maybe they're not and it makes it harder for you. It seems like they didn't make sure for you to know you were loved and said it all the time to you, so it was their doing that is making you feel the way you are now.
2007-03-14 06:25:26 · answer #3 · answered by nymom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well i hasd the same problem in a way but maybe your just afraid cause your not sure if they love you back. But trust me your parents love you . You should tell them every chance you get cause you never know if there will be a next time to say it. But only say it when you know your ready and you really nd honestly mean it. And they will know that it's for real.
2007-03-14 05:57:42 · answer #4 · answered by iluvsuperman84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes when we grow up its hard to express our feelings. You feel closer to your Grandma because she was always there for you. No you aren't lying to yourself you do love your parents but you must have some resentment there for them. Try finding one thing about each parent that you like and compliment them on it...ie...eyes, hair,...etc then it will get more comfortable once you began to reistablish your relationship with them. Be honest and tell them your feelings, its better to say I am trying to say I love you then to not say anything at all. Of course you love your parents but you need to work through this wall you have built.! Good luck I hope it works out
2007-03-14 05:55:48 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Sparkling♥Jules♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a weird thing bc for most of us, we'll say it all the time as a kid, then go thru the rebellious stage and stop... then it's hard to start again! I had a music instructor who always told us to tell our parents we love them. He would actually ask when the last time was that we said it and really reinforced how we need to tell them how appreciative we are of our mom & dad.
I just started saying I love you to my mom again... I'm almost 26. It was weird at first, but you just have to retrain yourself to do it.
2007-03-14 05:58:09 · answer #6 · answered by Trouble's Mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you. Most young adults find it awkward to verbally express their love for their parents --- it could be that they (subconsciously) are avoiding love expression just so it wouldn't be construed as a cry for help/a sign of weakness/or anything that has to do with those years of being totally dependent on their parents.
In due time, it would again be easy for you to say "I love you" to them. It's difficult to pinpoint exactly at what age...but trust me, it would just come out so naturally. I just hope it wouldn't be too late.
God bless.
2007-03-14 06:18:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are waiting for your parents to tell them that they love YOU first.
2007-03-14 05:53:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i never say i love you to my parents either. but they know i love them. but then again they dont really either but i know they love me. sometimes it might feel like they dont love me but i know they do.
2007-03-14 05:54:10 · answer #9 · answered by ~lipgloss barbie doll~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! I feel the same exact way. Thank goodness I'm not the only out there that feels like this! Thanks for posting your question!
2007-03-14 06:55:19 · answer #10 · answered by princess526_2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋