my dad passed away last year its already 8mnts since then but i still feel tell the pain?

Question

i mean everyday i miss him i even dream of him talking to me like he did when his still alive please help

Answer 1

I lost my mother on 10-7-2003 during a routine traffic stop. She had pulled a guy over for expired tags told her dispatcher she was just going to give him a warning and 5 days to comply they ran the plate on the car it came back clean, She got out of the car and the man inside shot her 3 times. A passerby saw this called 911 my mom was taken to the hospital were she underwent surgery and later died of injuries. Its been 3 yrs for me, I still remember the phone call, I still cry, and I am still angry as HELL!! I grieve her everyday and all the things in my life such as my new son that I waited 13yrs for that she will never be apart of. I hear her voice at times, I smell her perfume and in my sleep she talks to me as if she was in the same room. I dont know when it will get better I think it depends on the person. I know in my life she was a very big part of it she was the most unselfish woman I ever met and I hope that I can be just a good mother-friend-wife-grandmother {in many many yrs} that she was to all of us.

Answer 2

You have received many wonderful answers and should consider yourself lucky that so many people have shared their stories with you.
I lost my Father to Suicide on December 26, 2000. It was very upsetting that it happened...much less the fact that he did not leave a note or any explanation. All we could do was speculate. We have all gone through the anger phase several times, but we also miss him terribly. I asked my mother for some of his clothing that she had not yet washed and I put them in a sealed garment bag and when I feel especially alone and vulnerable.....I make a small slit in the bag and sniff inside it and I feel very close to him and I find a quiet spot and talk to him. Sometimes I look at a photograph of him that was taken of him in the casket and I can talk to him for hours.
Why would you want to stop dreaming or grieving for him?
This was a very important person in your life...pray that you never forget him or that his loss is not as important today as it was then or that it will be even years from now.
I agree with the person above who said that if it is interfering with your daily life...that is not good, but as long as you can function......don't ever forget him. It isn't necessarily grief....it is a loss...but as long as you have the memories.....you have him.
Good Luck.

Answer 3

I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your father. I know exactly how you feel. My father passed away in 1985 {22 Years Ago}, and to this day, I cry for him and miss him so much. It sounds like you were very close to your dad, like I was to mine. My dad was my best friend, and I could talk to him about anything you could imagine, knowing he would not critisize and would always understand and help me. Dealing with the death of a parent, is so very hard to do, and the pain of losing him will always be there. In time, you learn to adjust to him not being there. Just try to hang in there, and remember how much you loved him, and he loved you, and try to remember all the good times that you had together. Just take it one day at a time, that's really all you can do. Hope this helps a little!

Answer 4

you will never ever forget your dad or the memories that he has shared with you. Your dad is still very much alive i mean his memeories because of you. Your dad loved you very much obviously and you did him as well. No matter how long its been your dad will be with you from now on you will never forget him. Its okay to still be grieving and in pain. He was someone who was around for a really long time and all of a sudden he's gone. have you ever heard of spirits talking to you. I dont know if you believe in that kind of stuff but i have heard that when loved ones pass they try to communicate by like ringing a phone or weird things just so you know there really there. Maybe thats what the dreams are he's talking to you to let you know he's still with you in spirit. Feel very lucky to have that. I know the pain is still very deep and you miss him so much but in time the pain will lighten. It will never go away and you missing him will never go away. Its very hard for someone you loved to just be gone in an instant. just know he's still with you in spirit and that he loves you very much and he's probably looking down on you right now and is so very proud of you.i'll keep you in my prayers sorry for the loss of your father.

Answer 5

My father passed away Oct 2002 and I still miss him. I dream about him a lot and I really miss him now that I have a son. I really wish he was here, but I know that he is in a better place watching over me. Try to fnd a support group, or if you are religious, talk to your pastor or a church leader and pray. It will never go away, you will always miss him because you love him, but you have to move on. Easier said than done, I know I've been there. It makes it easier if you talk about it to friends or family. Just keep your head up.

Answer 6

I am so sorry.
I lost grandparents, and I felt horrible after they died. It lasted for a long time. Loosing a father is not something I wish on anyone. A lot of times we dream of that person because we have unresolved issues. Maybe something you wish he knew or you said. Then when things happen good or bad we wish we could share this with them. It is hard. What did he die of?
No matter how long it is you will hurt for him and miss him especially in those moments that matter most. This is very normal.

Answer 7

The hurt will lessen with time but the void will never be filled.
he will always be there for you and will never go away.
it has been 13 years for me and I know they are there to help me make decisions and to guide me.
When I don't know what to do, I close my eyes and ask them to give me the answer.
I speak to them, and sense their presence.
it gives me comfort to know that they might not be here in flesh but all the wonderful love , lessons in life and support they gave me is still in my heart.
When I dream, I know I am getting a brief visit and can have a visual. I really look forward to these times, as you can really connect spiritually and emotionally...
Anyhow, I live each day knowing that their legacy lives on within me and I will pass it onto my children.
They have made such a mark in your life, that they remain a part of you.

Answer 8

You know he may be talking to you in your dreams. As time passes you will get better. Death is never easy to deal with. Especially when it is a parent. I know he is very happy where he is and now he never have to deal with all the crap we still deal with every day. He would not want you to be hurt and sad all the time. He know you love him and I know he want you to live your life the best you can and to be happy. Live every day the best you can. You still feel him because he is still with you. Can you see the wind? But it is there and you feel it right? I will pray for you.

Answer 9

Your feelings are normal and will abate with time. My mom visits me in my dreams, too, and she passed away 11 years ago. I enjoy those dreams.

If you able to function well (work, eat, sleep, take care of children, responsibilities) then give yourself time to go through the grieving process - each of us is different. However, if it is affecting your daily activities, i.e., crying all the time, staying in bed, isolating self, then please see a doctor and get on an anti-depressant.

Hang in there!

Answer 10

I lossed my father in 2005 and I still miss him and grieve his death.

All I can say is that it will take time to grieve and don't ever forget about him because he was a very important part of your life.

If you haven't cried then cry. But I find it helps me to talk about him to my children and friends and when I do that it doesn't seem like he is really gone.

Good luck.