i'm feeling out of place and ugly at the same time...
2007-03-14 05:35:58 · 19 answers · asked by hipandalive 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just because you do not have a boyfriend right now does not mean you are ugly. Really when you have no boyfriend you have less problems because even though relationships have good points yet there are allot of bad points too. Give yourself time to mature in be comfortable by yourself then your prince charming will come... It seems like when you stop searching for something and wanting it so bad than all of a sudden it comes..... So, wait and be content and you'll have your day but realize one thing. Beauty is not shown by your boyfriend. You can be beautiful and alone... Just be content...
2007-03-14 05:45:55 · answer #1 · answered by nikkiblue 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Am I to understand by your question that you are pressured to have a 'boyfriend' as well? If so, there has never been a worse reason to have a relationship! Your decision to have said relationship should be that you are mentally, emotionally and physically ready for all which a relationship entails. If your 'friends' are really Friends they should factor you into activities to ensure you do not feel left out as well as lay off the heavy stuff when you are around to relieve whatever pressure you may be feeling. This in no way absolves you of you personal responsibility. If you lack self control to the point where you want to do something based on external pressure you probably are not ready for a boyfriend anyway. Ask yourself this " If I give in to follow my friends solely to fit in, at what point do I become an individual?" Having said all of that could it be that you perhaps are actually ready?
2007-03-14 12:55:20 · answer #2 · answered by magdalin M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been single for a few years now and watched a lot of friends date, marry, etc. I love my single status. I like the ability to go and do what I want when I want. If you are lonely try making friends with other individuals who are single as well. If you have any friends of the opposite sex ask them to come along so you don't feel so left out. For the feeling ugly part maybe take yourself out for a treat (i.e. shopping for clothes, hair cut, whatever makes you feel good). Good luck and hang in there! Some times someone comes along when you least expect it.
2007-03-14 12:44:30 · answer #3 · answered by mammamontana 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a decent guy. Go to someplace that you think might hold a mutual interest (like a Harley dealer, or Borders) and you're bound to run into a guy who shares similar interests. Don't try clubs or bars; everybody is usually drunk and either want to fight the whole world, or they're crying in their Daquris over "the one that got away." Personally, I've met my most decent relationships in college... everybody likes an intellegent conversation. Just find someone with a backbone and a sense of morality. It isn't easy, but the end results are weel worth it. Good luck.
2007-03-14 12:46:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be happy for them.
You want to be the best you can be? Then enjoy being single, knowing yourself singly, being independent in action and thought, being "comfortable in your own skin", have goals that benefit your future.
Why are you so "needy" for a guy to feel like you are a person? That is the wrong approach. You will attract suitable, stable, mature, giving, independent, ambitious guys when you display the same attributes. If you are projecting someone who is needy, ugly, not confident, not rooted, clueless - well then, you'll attract guys of similar persuation OR you will attract guys who love to CONTROL their women. You don't want that, do you?
So, just back off of the "I need a guy to fit in" scenario and start just learning to find out who you are, build up on who you want to be years from now, and be content with who you are NOW.
SOOOOOOO..............................................
Time's a-waistin' - get crackin' on becoming the best YOU that YOU can be . . . . . NOW, you go, girl!!!
031407 11:45
2007-03-14 12:45:43 · answer #5 · answered by YRofTexas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy being single while it lasts. Hang out with other single people, and flirt, flirt, flirt. You have the advantage, girl. I felt the same way when I was single, until I hung out with single people. I've been in a relationship for seven years now, and I'm engaged...let me tell you, I miss being single. You have a freedom that you will never understand until you are attached.
2007-03-14 12:41:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't think that way. Am a guy, so believe me, sometimes the best flowers r not picked up first as the bees want to first fly around and watch the best flower as it blooms and land when it is just the right time. So don't show it out. Keep cool. Good luck.
2007-03-14 12:40:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel that way...I remember being the only girl in my group of friends that didn't have a boyfriend but now that I think about it all my friends had boyfriends that were a.s.s holes and treated them like crap. You're better off waiting to find someone who is head over heels for you and treats you with respect.
2007-03-14 12:40:56 · answer #8 · answered by ram_this911 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Theres nothing wrong with that! I was the odd one out too in high school, but than I found the one and married him lol than divorced him but your man will come along Just wait and take your time being single is more fun anyways!
2007-03-14 12:39:57 · answer #9 · answered by smile114 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be you. All my friends were in relationships or dating multiple guys and I was always the single one and felt horrible. I thought that I was going to be single for the rest of my life and had just thrown in the towel and given up on men. Then the man of my dreams walked into my life. It will happen and it will happen when you are least expecting it to.
Just enjoy yourself and be glad that you are surrounded by friends.
2007-03-14 12:39:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋