Im am really in trouble at school at the moment concerning this girl i have really like for absolute ages, i gathered the impression that she knew i did but didnt do anythink...im not particualry confident which only seems to happen when im around her and i mean really really not confident at all i can't do anythink or say stuff in class etc and i find it hard to talk to her at school really hard, and a friend of mine went and said how i feel about her which really screwed things up so i tryed asking her out but was knocked back....ive tryed using MSN to talk to her (when i seem to be 10x more confident) but i am not getting anywhere I really need some help with what to do to "win her over" please give me some suggestions or help few people have said to move on but i find it hard when it seems to me i can't even try for her.
2007-03-14 05:33:31 · 15 answers · asked by Danny T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It seems you know the problem at hand. Before you can come up with a plan of how to win her over, you first need to work on your strategy toward getting comfortable enough around her to speak to her. Once you break that ice, everything else will come naturally. And if she is feeling the same way, it'll be even more worth your while.
Figure out the things she is into. If you truly like her for who she is, then you probably know a lot more about her than she thinks. Start showing you are into her. But the key is to use subtle hints of interest when you talk to her. No over-bearing doting. She's just another person. not a celebrity.
One thing I notice particularly in high school is that people are so afraid of what other people might think of them, and how they might react if you speak to them. She's not going to attack you if you are kind to her. (if she does, then you know she's not worth it) She will more than likely appreciate it, and a positive outcome will arise from your confidence.
ps- in regards to a response below, please...for your self-respect do NOT ask her where she got her outfit unless you want her to think you're playing for the same team!
2007-03-14 05:37:38 · answer #1 · answered by Lost In Vast 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have tried for her and she's not responding. Good for you that you let her know how you feel through friends and email. If you never tried, you would always wonder if she liked you. You already have your answer. Lovingly let her go. She was just practice for when you find someone that is truly interested in you.
Stop the emotional clinging. It will just eat you away. Know that we are meant to meet and learn from many people in life. Go seek those others. When you let her go emotionally, it opens the opportunity for other girls to come into your life. As long as you emotionally cling, this opportunity is blocked.
Build that confidence. Each time you try to approach someone and they turn you down, you'll find out that you don't fall apart and that your life continues to go on. Please don't expect that everytime you're interested or develop a crush that it will be reciprocated. It won't be. Don't let that stop you from trying and loving again. If you radiate love, it will come back to you.
Good luck!
2007-03-14 12:55:43 · answer #2 · answered by friendlyadvice 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, they are wise to tell u to move on and find a new one. Listen, if a girl doesnt like u for who u are, dont even think about her, she s not worth it. I guess she's your first crush, and that's why its most difficult for you to accept reality. But listen, when you are rejected by someone, dont feel down, because there will be others who will accept you for who u r, and their opinion is what really matters. If this girl is dissing you, dont go after her like drooling over her, why? because you are just lowering urself, u must show confidence in urself. Respect urself and others will eventually respect u. The least expected minute, u ll find some1 who will be drooling over u. There are other fish in the sea, so go out there and find a bigger, yummier, and cutter fish.
:P
and another thing, when someone doesnt really wanna be with u, dont try to hard to make her like u, if she doesn't like u for who u r, she's not worth you changing the way u r. if u still feel u need to talk to someone about this, u could email me, i ll try to help u. well good luck man, and find some1 who really likes u for who u r, don't give a **** waht a spoiled brat thinhks about u
:D
2007-03-14 12:48:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax. She's probably not the brilliant beautiful wonderful person you have idolised her to be in your mind. If you accept that she is just a normal fallible person much like yourself then you can start to see her as an equal.
Find something you have in a common and chat to her about that. If you are both interested in the subject then it will be natural.
If you have nothing in common then leave it - it would never have worked anyway. And girls being girls, I imagine she will start showing an interest the minute you demonstrate no interest in her!
2007-03-14 12:38:59 · answer #4 · answered by AlexChappel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girls like it when u talk to them and dont get your friend to do it for you. talk to her dont be scared and try to impress her but not to much then she will think your a show off and try just haging out with her. and when youll feel it right ask her your self the worst thing she can say is no. and if she does there other girls out there i mean your only in high school
2007-03-14 12:43:22 · answer #5 · answered by zvl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smile a lot. Compliment her style. Even use words like (yes, these words) cute, pretty, hot, or beautiful. Ask her where she got that outfit she wore today. Tell her she smells good. Anything but, "How about the weather?". Come on, tell me you're getting something from reading this.
2007-03-14 12:39:25 · answer #6 · answered by sunshine xo girliee 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well i think that to "win" her you should be just plain friends with her first before you make the first move. just talk to her and everything and become a guy friend to her. eventually you can ask her out and her feelings may have changed about you.
2007-03-14 12:37:32 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get over the shyness if you really like her you'll do it. I'm sure you'll win her over without doing anything over the top or nasty like showing your Dick to her. if you do that your only going to push her away for ever and get expelled from school
2007-03-14 12:42:20 · answer #8 · answered by **simply me** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes girls will become attracked and jealous of you when they see you with another girl. So try to get another girl just to make the girl you like jealous and see what happens.
2007-03-14 12:38:47 · answer #9 · answered by Mamie-Lou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SWEEP HER OFF HER FEET I'M SURE YOU'LL THINK OF SOMETHING WALK HER TO HER CLASS HOLD HER BOOKS TAKE HER TO SCHOOL PICK HER UP DRESS NICE LEAVE NOTES IN HER LOCKER BE THERE FOR HER LEAVE A ROSE ON HER LOCKER W/A NOTE SWEET THINGS MAKE HER FEEL LIKE SHE THE ONE YOU CAN DO THAT I'M SURE RIGHT GO FOR IT BE THE NICEST GUY IN THE WORLD EVERYTHING FOR HER
2007-03-14 12:39:43 · answer #10 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋