2007-03-14 05:30:33 · 14 answers · asked by Joy A 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why would you want to try to make a man to propose to you?
Isn't the object for him to want to propose instead of being tricked or persuaded to do it? If that is the case, can you be sure that he really wanted to marry you in the first place. Sounds kind of foolish to me.
How long should you wait? Clearly he shouldn't wait with you, he needs to dump you right away. Go off and find a good woman instead.
2007-03-14 05:36:03 · answer #1 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't recommend trying to "get" someone to propose. If they don't feel compelled to do so of their own accord, then they aren't a good marriage partner for you.
How long you wait for a proposal is up to you, but the more urgency you put on it, the more likely you are to scare off some guys. If someone really digs you and wants to marry, a proposal will come naturally...if you've got to hint or cajole, then I wouldn't be keen on marrying that person even if they acquiesced.
If the two of you have been dating over a year, and the relationship appears pretty solid/steady, then it wouldn't be inappropriate to discuss where things may lead in the future.
2007-03-14 05:35:32 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say you get him to propose yet to convince him that you are the one for him. M guy talked about it for 2 years and backed out 2 times finally I said it's either move forward and you know what you want or we slow down. He eventually came through and we will be together for 4 years by the time of the wedding we will be engaged for 1 and a half years. He was scared and now he is excited!
Let it take it's course and it will happen.....I actually got it started I in a joaking way actually asked him first ,...he said" you would want to marry me?" and that broke the ice on his idea of where my committment was!
Good Luck!
2007-03-14 05:36:54 · answer #3 · answered by vcaring 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't bother him to propose! This is the worst thing you can do! Just be yourself, do things for him to show how sweet you are. Send him little notes in the mail, do nice little gestures like making his favorite cookie for him.
All of these things add up.
I'm sure after you've been dating 6 months to 1 year, the topic of an engagement should be brought up, either by you or him. If he's serious about you, he will be receptive. Just don't pressure him, or mention it every two seconds or when a Zales commercial comes on TV! Just wait it out!
2007-03-14 05:36:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I do not think you can "force" a genuine proposal...meaning if it is genuine it will come from his heart, not from pressure...His actions will tell you whether he will propose or not. How he treats you, talks to you, and cares for you will determine if he will propose or not. If he mentions that he loves you, sees a future with you, etc. it will be a matter of time. You could, if you see these signs, point out that you are very interested in him and that you are marriage oriented.
2007-03-14 05:35:08 · answer #5 · answered by Suzanne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have to 'make' him propose to you- then you shouldn't be in a relationship with him. give him some time.. Have you talked about the fact you want to get married? and soon? He may not want to ever get married- or he may think he needs to date someone for X years before he would even consider getting married.. make sure you both are on the same page- and then CHILL OUT! Hell propose when HE wants... what's the rush?
2007-03-14 05:34:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make someone propose to you. You should be up front with the guy that your goal is to get married. Either he'll say he's interested in marriage too, or run for the hills.
2007-03-14 05:35:38 · answer #7 · answered by Lee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should want a man that WANTS to marry you not someone that you just push to do it, as far as dating and how long before you know that he wont proposed it just depends on the person, most men are afraid of commitment, but just give it time the right one will come
2007-03-14 05:36:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ask him if he's ready for marriage, if he isn't then you ask him if he's ready to at least be engaged, if he isn't then you can ask him if he thinks he'll be ready within the next year or two, if he isn't then move on. Why waste years of your life waiting and hoping a man will marry you when you could be with a man you KNOW will marry you? You are so worth more than that. Good luck.
2007-03-14 05:37:28 · answer #9 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry Joy u can't get any one to do something that they r not ready for.
Some men take 11 years of being engaged and some take 4 month. That is a question that every woman would like to know.
If u ever find the answer let all of us know.
Thank and GOOD Luck.
2007-03-14 05:35:15 · answer #10 · answered by Natural 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋