can you pls help me out?

Question

i am 25 weeks 3days pregnant now and my stomach is not getting much bigger, i didn't even know i was pregnant till i felt something kicking my gutt, i ran to the doctors and they told me i was 22weeks and 5 days pregnant, ofcourse i missed my period but i thought i was too skinny and needs to gain weight, but now that all this has happened,me and the father of the baby are no more together,i told his mother and his mother started bogging me to go get an ultrasound and a DNA to do something to know if the baby is not deformed because 6 month fetus suppose to be bigger than this, i am so scared what can i do, i have sceduled for an ultrasound for next tuesday, and yesterday that i when to the doctor, i piped at my chat and the doctor circled high risk for the baby, i am about to have a nervous breakdown, help me pls.

piped at my chat means that " i looked at the doctor statement, the files made by the doctors and nurses that came to check you."

i am 20years old and about to be 21, i know that it is a bad choose of having unprotected sex but sometimes you have to satified your self centered partner, well you gat me, he his not the one carrying the baby, and he his not the one who won't enjoy this summer, that son of a gun.

Answer 1

I almost had the same situation minus the weight i got fatter, and my stomach was soft, as far as the father he's around but a bum. My stomach was very soft up until the end of my 7th month and when I got the ultra sound i was afraid that since i didn't know and was smoking for most of my pregnancy that the baby would be small but it turns out she's right on track with proper amount of weight gain. As far as high risk, more than likely it's because you did not recive prenatal care until 22 weeks.That's what happened to me and then it was because i needed to stay on my medication, but don't be afraid to ask your doctor why. Don't worry about his mom or even him tell them they can wait for a DNA test, the ones they do prior to the baby's birth are risky... look at this site, look at your tv there are many many girls not even in high school who are knocked up and having issues so you are not any worse at age 20 when you do have some emotional maturity and you can work and not depend on your family or his. worry about your heath, and the baby. If you need help and support, you can talk to me and I have a bunch of resources for whatever your needs may be. please contact me.

Answer 2

First, you need to calm down. Stressing like this hurts the baby. Second, you are going to want to get a DNA test AFTER the baby is born because an Amniocentesis is really risky at this point. You do want an ultrasound. Being small doesn't mean something is wrong. I know a girl who is six months along and doesn't even look it. Everything's fine. You still need to keep seeing a doctor. I hope all turns out well. Good luck!

Answer 3

You didn't say how old you are.
However, either way, you made a big mistake in having unprotected sex and now you must *MUST* stop thinking about yourself and focus on the baby (assuming you plan on carrying it to term).

Go back to your doctor and do the following:

> Get a COMPLETE list of vitamins and foods that will help get this fetus growing healthy and strong.

> Get COMPLETE information about the possible health risks to the fetus in women in your age bracket (and I'm assuming that you are probably a teen, which places the fetus in a very HIGH risk of health problems).

> STOP whatever unhealthy activities you are doing.
This means NO cigarettes, NO alcohol, NO drugs (unless the doctor prescribes them).
Avoid coffee and caffeine-based drinks...especially avoid soda pop and all those sugar-sweet drinks.
Avoid junk food, fast food, greasy food, spicy food.
Eat a HEALTHY diet of lean protein (beef, chicken, fish), fresh vegetables and limit the starch-based foods (potatoes, pasta).

> START exercising, drinking fruit juice and lots of water.

After you begin to give 100% healthy attention to the baby (you ARE eating, drinking and exercising for TWO people...remember that), then start looking at your future options.

You might consider the situation between the sperm-donor (your ex-boyfriend...a real winner there, eh?).
Can you file a paternity lawsuit to force him to pay part child support?
Do you want to place the baby up for adoption?
What are your educational abilities and can you find a good-paying job WITH health insurance to cover the future health expenses you'll have with the baby?

THINK.
Think about ALL these things.
Sort it out.
You made the choice to have unprotected sex.
If you want to play the role of a responsible adult, then its time to be responsible for the baby.

Answer 4

I was skinny when I got pregnant and even at 9 months I only looked to be about 5 months pregnant. It depends on the strength of your abdominal muscles as well as how your uterus is laying. My daughter was up in my ribs and back towards my spine. Even though I looked as though I was carrying a small (5 punds or less) baby, my doctor was amaxed that she weighed over 7 pounds.
You should get an ultrasound anyway, but please don't stress about the size of your body. Everyone is different and you will carry the baby the way your body carries the baby! :)
Good luck and congrats! :)

Answer 5

The first thing I would do is relax!! The doctors are going to do what they need to do to help you. They're probably going to put you on vitamins and a certain diet to make you gain the weight you need. You need to try and calm down because stress won't help you. Some girls just don't gain that much weight and since you are already skinny, you may not gain that much weight. Just wait for the doctors to advise you, take care of yourself and don't stress!

Answer 6

Your x-boyfriend's mother sounds like a jerk.Don't let her upset you.If your Dr marked you down as a high risk for the baby he'll make sure & take extra good care of you.If you think your to skinny just make sure you eat lot's of fresh fruit veg. ect. & if you don't think your showing enough in your pregnancy don't forget that every woman shows different.I didn't start showing much till i was 8 mths. You might just be carrying a small baby.You should really talk to your Dr about your concerns.Getting worried & upset isn't very good for you or your baby.Good Luck!

Answer 7

Dont panic no matt3r what th3 situation str3ss is harmful to th3 baby as w3ll. I gain3d alot of w3ight but i also at3 alot th3 baby could just b3 small. No matt3r what th3 r3sults ar3 b3 th3r3 for your baby and r3alize th3ir is h3lp and support if you n33d it pl3as3 k33p us inform3d about th3 baby dont f33l 3mb3rass3d

Answer 8

ur going to prolly have to wait for the u.s to get real answers, u can ask ur dr why ur high risk and talk to him about ur concerns, thats what hes there for, i knew a girl who didnt even look pregnant the whole pregnancy, she of course had a 4 lb full term baby but he went home with her and was normal and healthy, still is as far as i know.

Answer 9

Some baby's are small. It doesn't necessarliy mean anything's wrong.

What is "piped at my chat"?

Answer 10

wow i'm sorry... but just pray and hopefully everything will be alright. I will also hold this in my prayers... wish you the best.