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well, i finally get it. everyone is telling me its not going to work out, and probably kidding myself about sticking with my boyfriend... how do i break up with him? i dont want to hurt him, and i dont want to hurt myself. whats the less painful way? i care alot about him and just want whats best for him. and right now im starting to realize maybe he would be better off finding someone else to love... any suggestions?

2007-03-14 05:23:12 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

i tired breaking it..
this is what i tried saying..

i think i should focus on school..

maybe long distance wont work out..

doesnt it seem weird that im younger than you?

my friends say i should date some one local..

maybe you werent meant for me..


i said all this a month ago..

we been together for almost 2 years..

i always back down because of " love"

2007-03-14 05:29:25 · update #1

i am happy and so is he, but friends and family and pretty much everyone things i should just cut it off. its two agaisnt a **** load off people. and im gonna go for the latter one :(

2007-03-14 05:32:42 · update #2

10 answers

Just do it. You will both feel hurt no matter what. He will be hurt because you are ending the relationship and you will feel hurt because you ended it. Do what is in your heart. If you are not happy in the relationship, move on. It won't be fair to either of you if you continue in a lie.

Tell him you want to end the relationship because you are not happy. Keep it general. Let him know you care for him but the relationship is not working out.

There is no painless way to break up. Don't change your mind and chicken out. Your emotional and mental peace are at stake here. You are not happy. It's time to separate.

Good luck.

p.s. If he is violent, make sure there is someone else in the house or nearby and out of earshot who can respond or call 911 if you need help.

2007-03-14 05:30:37 · answer #1 · answered by Tellin' U Da Truth! 7 · 0 0

Be honest, and realize you're going to hurt him. That's noble of you to not want to, but you will, and if you don't hurt him by breaking up with him, you never should've been with him in the first place. The best way to handle telling someone something difficult like this though is to just say it, quickly and without beating around the bush. Tell him that you feel he would be better off with someone else, and you feel you would be too, so you think it would be best for both of you if you are free to see other people. Best of luck to you.

2007-03-14 12:27:44 · answer #2 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0 0

Stop listening to your friends and start listening to your own heart!
If you want to stay with him, stay with him and beat the odds BUT.....if you really want out seriously, the only way to do it is just to tell him exactly what you told us. Tell him he is a wonderful guy. Attractive, good hearted but right now you just feel like you want to be on your own and experience new things and you would like for him to do that as well.

2007-03-14 12:28:29 · answer #3 · answered by daisyduke070 2 · 0 0

if the guy really likes you their is no way you can breakup with him that wouldn't hurt him, but you have to tell him what you just said that he is better off with someone else better than you, cause my boyfriend just broke up with me 2 months ago, and i am still trying to figure out what i did wrong, he told me the-same thing, that i was better off with some one else that will take good care of me, i knew he cheated on me, but i still forgive him and moved on, it is crazy when you started falling for someone and they break your heart, it hurt...

2007-03-14 12:33:00 · answer #4 · answered by Dee 2 · 0 0

There's no way this can be done without causing some harm... you need to talk about it and agree about it, if you take the decison yourself then he's going to blame you forever for not taking him into account for your decision. So, talk to him, maybe he's felt something's not working .... be nice, never hurt anyone.

2007-03-14 12:29:24 · answer #5 · answered by User 4 · 0 0

Gurl..I have the same problem...you love the guy so much but then again ur not happy being with him....how can that be right?...yeah...gurl if you really do love him then there wouldnt be any doubts or question about ur relationship....its really up to you...u dont need anyones help on this....do u really love him?...ask your self that....GOOD LUCK!!!

2007-03-14 12:28:46 · answer #6 · answered by sHy_gUrL 1 · 0 0

tell him the honest truth but there is no avoiding the getting hrut, one or both of you will get hurt for sure but don't worry if your not into him anymore its not your fault just be honest with him

2007-03-14 12:27:03 · answer #7 · answered by Melly. 3 · 0 0

i am in the same situation, except i already broke up with him. he's awesome but just not for me. i told him that and i think it just inevitable that they're going to be hurt... but if you figure something out, please let me know!!!!!!!!!!!11

2007-03-14 12:27:41 · answer #8 · answered by tinkerbell 3 · 0 0

Tell him exactly what you just told us. Good luck.

2007-03-14 12:26:11 · answer #9 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0 0

there is no easy way

2007-03-14 12:26:52 · answer #10 · answered by Immortal 4 · 0 0

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