My fiancé and I don’t know what to do. He moved to Southern Alberta, from Ontario. I moved from northern Alberta. We’ve decided that a simple wedding with close friends and family would be best best. But there’s the problem: Where do we have the wedding? We’ve broken it down into some choices…
Do we have it in the city we currently live in? Have both sides drive or fly and find accommodations? Not that our families are poor, but many are young families trying to get a life started.
Do we have it in ONE of our home towns? Though this would be nice, how do we ask the families from Ontario to fly even farther? (ticket prices get crazy once you try to fly north of central Alberta) But then, it would be expensive for those who LIVE up north to fly to Ont.
Do we elope? run away to Hawaii? Take pictures and have a party with a slide show in each town? But if we don’t have a wedding, how else will our families ever meet? I’m sooo confused. Please help!
2007-03-14 05:17:47 · 26 answers · asked by Magnolia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I would either have it in the town that you live in now; or find a nice location somewhere in the middle to keep prices down for everyone. Maybe there's a B&B somewhere that you could have your wedding at & rent it out for the weekend. It'll give you and some of the other people a place to stay & maybe they can help share the cost with you. Also, some hotels if you're holding an event there, will give you a discount on rooms for rent. Good luck!
2007-03-14 08:18:11 · answer #1 · answered by kiki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would do one of 2 things. Either have it in the city you both currently live in, or do a destination wedding (which would probably be my first choice). That way neither side is having to be the only side travelling to the wedding. Yes, you might get some family members that won't be able to attend due to finances, and that's all right. You might have better attendance with a destination wedding, simply because people can then feel better about using vacation time, etc. Give them enough notice so they can save their money.
You could also have small parties/open house type reception thing in your respective home towns after the wedding. Just something simple at each parents home, cake and punch would do. Let people come in and wish you and your new hubby well, and visit with you. Have a video/scrapbook of the wedding ceremony and reception going so people can watch it.
Best of luck with whatever you decide--but I'd do HAWAII BABY!!! :-)
2007-03-14 05:32:27 · answer #2 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say get married in the place you live now- you are starting a new life together do it in a place you are going to live that life even if you dont stay there. and that way also, neither of your families can say "you like the other side better" or "why cant you have it here?"
the marriage is about you and your fiance. not about who is coming.
i know that a lot of couples who come from different places have the wedding and reception in one place, then a second smaller reception in the other for those that couldnt make it. it doesnt have to be huge or expensive- it can be a brunch at a relatives house. bottom line is that you give people a chance to share in your joy- thats why you invite people to a wedding.
best of luck!
2007-03-14 05:29:50 · answer #3 · answered by orange blossom honey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get married at a Sandals resort in jamaica or somewhere. Or pick a place, usually where the Bride's family lives, but where you live now would be fine. Does one side of the family have less people who would be able to fly out? Is one family much smaller thatn the other? I think you could get married where you live now and just realize not everyone will be there. Or you could get married by eloping and have a reception party at each place afterwards.
2007-03-14 05:25:39 · answer #4 · answered by sasa 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's a big question. Traditionally the wedding is in the bride's hometown. My best friend made this difficult decsion based who she really wanted to be there- her grandmother-and so she is getting married in the city where her grandmother lives. I wanted a horseback wedding, so the location was based on where that could be done. Decide what is important to you and go from there.
2007-03-14 05:24:56 · answer #5 · answered by Petra 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have it in a neutral location, around halfway between the two points. That way, travel isn't so expensive for either family, and neither side of the family should be spending less money than the other one. Congratulations and good luck!!
2007-03-14 05:24:05 · answer #6 · answered by Leigh_Prefect 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have it in the town you now live in. Regardless of if you chose his home town or yours. Someones family is going to have to fly in and find their own accommodations. A lot of hotels if booked in advance give discounted rates on mulitple rooms
2007-03-14 05:22:56 · answer #7 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have it where you live - and discuss it with the families.
If they are less than happy - see if they will help you have receptions in your hometowns.
(My brother married a girl from overseas. They had two "Weddings" and three receptions!!!)
2007-03-14 05:52:49 · answer #8 · answered by tigglys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally, it would be in the bride's hometown, but I realize the predicament you are in. If you are in southern AB it would be easier to have it there. Don't worry, family always finds a way!
2007-03-14 11:20:11 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The wedding is normally in the Church the bride to be grew up in. Your home town would be more appropriate.
2007-03-14 05:21:35 · answer #10 · answered by Samantha 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋