Is it normal for me to think that my boyfriend doesnt like me when Im not with him? I dont know why but hes told me a few times he feels the same.How do I make him feel like I really like him? Along with getting it back.I dont know why its like this but Im so worried
2007-03-14 05:14:14 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It really depends on WHY you feel that way. If it is just you being insecure, then give him the benefit of the doubt. Even if there is nothing going on, being treated as if you are a cheater will cause things to fall apart.
2007-03-14 05:18:54 · answer #1 · answered by J D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to gain a little self-esteem. If you AND you're boyfriend are constantly looking for reassurance from each other it could get bad.
I had an ex like that - both of us were paranoid that we were going to leave each other and it turned into a controlling, obsessive relationship.
You can't control how your boyfriend is going to feel about you when you're not around. All you can do is leave him with good memories and something to look forward to. Stop worrying about it and start showing how you feel. Easier said than done but you'll turn yourself into a basket case and you will start to focus on the bad in your relationship instead of enjoying the good.
2007-03-14 12:19:49 · answer #2 · answered by Cari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sure your worried over nothing. Im sure he loves you know matter where you are. You cant feel so insecure about yourself this way. If things arent working out and you feel like he's not likeing you when he's not with you then its probably not worth it. You cant make someone feel something that they dont you just cant. If the feeling is no longer there then why waste your time trying to get it back when odds are they will never come back. I'm sure that if he says he still loves you then he obviously still does unless there are signs that he's cheating or something. in that case i would just end it.
2007-03-14 12:22:23 · answer #3 · answered by tcameron_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably has some issues that he needs to work out. You need to be yourself and don't act a certain way because that is the way you think that he wants you to be. You should be worried, but don't let it consume you because you can't control him or what is going to happen with the relationship. Maybe take a break and see if that helps anything. Absence makes the heart grow fonder.
2007-03-14 12:19:15 · answer #4 · answered by Sunshine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um, I would say you're paranoid, but if your boyfriend has told you as much, then he's just rude! It's okay if he doesn't think about you constantly when you're not around, but he should still like you. If you don't like each other, then why are you together? This relationship seems doomed unless you both get a wake-up call and realize how you really feel about each other.
2007-03-14 12:19:37 · answer #5 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try doing things for him while he's not around?
Maybe write a poem or buy him a gift to show him that you were thinking about him. Do something special for him & hopefully he will return the sentiment.
It sounds to me like you both are insecure with each other. Perhaps this relationship was not meant to be?!
2007-03-14 12:18:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love him and there is attraction,
tell him so
get him a nice card
make him a dinner he can never forget
bake him a cake
go to the park
meet his parents and be very nice
introduce him to your parents
Be genuine
be loyal
dont cheat
care from your heart
be loving
If you cannot be one of the above, then dont expect the same from him.
2007-03-14 12:19:16 · answer #7 · answered by MafiaGal 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have self-esteem, sometimes u need to focus on yourself. try thinking about being happy when he is not around and u will be that much happier when he is around.Dont seem insecure around him either, but still let him know u like him every once in a while.
2007-03-14 12:19:16 · answer #8 · answered by mushroomchucker 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's your boyfriend then shouldn't you think he likes you no matter what?
It seems to me that you want to be with him 24/7 which is good and bad. Good because that means you really like him which is always a good thing but bad because guys like me don't really like super clingy girls.
2007-03-14 12:18:36 · answer #9 · answered by veolapaul 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are just not sure of yourself, therefore not sure of him either. I bet you feel like he is too good for you at times. He isn't...trust yourself and trust him. Please don't make problems where there are none. Best of luck to you!!
2007-03-14 12:20:37 · answer #10 · answered by Bev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋