I have a five year old son... who up until recently has been very well behaved... however the last few months he's driving me crazy.... everything i say he sys the opposite, he has an aswer for everything and doesnt seem to understand when he's being cheeky. In comparison with alot of his school friends he's an angel but I'm a full time working single mum and I'm worried that if I dont stop this behaviour now it will get out of my control. I know its normal behaviour for a 5 year old but all the SuperNanny style techniques takes hours of time that I just dont have... lets face it sometimes theres no time for 'naughty step' when we have to be in school in ten minutes and I have to get to work.
Does anyone have any advice or just some comforting words for a super busy single mum coping with a five year old!
2007-03-14 05:13:39 · 9 answers · asked by casl 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I really am not trying to be facetious but you will have to make time to discipline him now. If you wait it will just get harder. It doesn't have to be a time out when you're heading out the door. Carry a "naughty notebook" and make a black X so he has a visual. Three Xs and his TV time or his allowance gets docked. Three stars and he gets a treat. During quiet moments, engage him in real, adult-level conversation so you can show him how much you like talking to him in a civilized manner.
2007-03-14 05:37:04 · answer #1 · answered by Lyn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is so hard when you can't be the one to discipline him througout the day while your working! I think that kids who must go to babysitters or daycare (which is most kids!) seem to have more discipline problems. I think it will take a lot of patience and a quite a bit of time, but consistantly punishing him each time he is disrespectful is best. To start, the first time he smarts off, camly look him in the eye, and in a stern voice explain to him what he cannot say, and what tone of voice he cannot use with you. Maybe even give him an example of something he could say instead that would be acceptable. That is his warning. Each and every time after that, put him in time out. They say one minute for every year of life is a good amount of timeout time. So for 5 minutes have him sit on a kitchen chair or somewhere. Remember, kids learn by example, too, so talk to him calmly and respectfully. I understand what you mean about having no time! Maybe, for example, if you are in the store then, make him sit in the grocery cart for the 5 minutes without talking, or if you are driving in the car, just turn off the radio, and no talking for 5 minutes. It sounds like you know what to do-you just don't know when you have the time to do it! Be creative in ways to work discipline into your busy schedule.
2007-03-14 05:43:03 · answer #2 · answered by WhiteDove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing. It's a phase. Spanking will not correct it; it will most likely make it worse. Sometimes you're right - you're rushing out the door to school/work, and don't have time for the time-out, or the long talk. I feel ya. However, I got to the point where it REALLY ticked me off. So when she mouthed off, I would tell her something like "that was rude (disrespectful, nasty, mean, uncalled for, whatever) and you need to go to your room and chill out." Not even five minutes later she'd be apologizing and wanting to come out. She learned that mouthing off got her sent off by herself, where she didn't want to be. It's better now, but not perfect. I agree that sometimes they don't realize the tone they're using. So a lot of times she'll say something in a snotty or rude way, and I'll just ask her "you wanna try that one again?" It reminds her to watch her tone, and she repeats her thought again in a nicer tone.
I hope that helps you.
2007-03-14 12:24:23 · answer #3 · answered by ~Biz~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, 5 year olds are incorrigible. However if you sit him down, and help him see how important he is to YOU, then he may understand. That him not being soooo cheeky is not helping you.
Help him to see that since it's just the 2 of you, you are going to rely on him to be a man and help you out every once in awhile.
2007-03-14 05:26:32 · answer #4 · answered by cj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same spot you are in now.It is hard if you talk to him about it she/he might see,I found that it only took a few times of me treating them the way I was being treated then they stop after there frustration level has been meet then you can tell them what it felt like,but they always push the envolope.The one thing I do have for you is be consistant you will be tried and frustrated but don't give in to there demands,Be stronge and you are the mother you make the rules,It will get easier.
2007-03-14 05:39:34 · answer #5 · answered by vacation mom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It feels like rather of working against her habit, you're extra clever off redirecting it into some thing invaluable like a pastime or events. a toddler like that has psychological capability to burn. spectacular her whilst she is being downright disrespectful using fact she desires to earnings early on what's proper for time and place.
2016-10-18 09:03:08 · answer #6 · answered by millie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try warning him, but if that doesn't spank him. keep doing it uni till he gets the message
2007-03-14 07:43:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is cheeky?
2007-03-14 08:21:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
spank his cheeky cheeks.
2007-03-14 05:23:21 · answer #9 · answered by whiteman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋