My sister got a new boyfriend at work, I met him yesterday , and I dont aprove him to be my sister's boyfriend, my mom and dad feels the same way, he looks like a crack headand I think he does some more drugs, he dresses like a punk, and he droped out of school, when I saw him, he looked he has red eyes from doing drungs, and I care about my sister, but I dont want her to get mixed up with those kind of guys, I liked her last boyfriend, cause he treated her like a goddess, bought her things , when she wanted, he was clean cut, was in school, got a 4.0 and had a job that made alot of money, but she treated him badly, please help, I dont want my sister to date a guy who does drungs , and doesn't go to school, any advice
2007-03-14 05:11:20 · 25 answers · asked by kitty 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I know she can do so much better,
2007-03-14 05:13:09 · update #1
I'm 19 and I used to go out with guys like that, before I met my great bf , I have now
2007-03-14 05:14:12 · update #2
Try to sit her down and have a long talk.
If she chooses to ignore you, she should learn from her mistake.
2007-03-14 05:15:25 · answer #1 · answered by ukdan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely talk to your sister. Ask her why she likes this guy. Ask her what she knows about him and his life. You talk to him, get to know him, find out if he is that bad. If he is such a bad guy tell your sister, point out the big problems and then the little ones. But most of all LOVE your sister and BE PREPARED to be there for her, because your sister is going to need you if she won't break up with a bad boyfriend.
2007-03-22 11:43:17 · answer #2 · answered by Michael H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to her about it yet? That would be one of the best thingz 2 do right now. Have you explained to her that he may be doing really bad drugs and may not be the best choice as a boyfriend? You need to talk to her, but be kind and casual so that it seems like you care and you are not to firm and you understand where she is coming from. Have u even tried talking 2 him? Maybe you could explain that he could be of a little more support to your sister. that would be really good.
2007-03-14 12:30:13 · answer #3 · answered by Answer Person 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who cares if you approve?! I don't and I'm sure she doesn't. Furthermore you shouldn't judge a person just on how they look. You do not now how her previous boyfriend treated her in private or even spoke to her in private. As for the dropping out thing. My husband dropped out of school in the 10th grade because he was always in trouble and he owns his very own SUCCESSFUL commercial-residential construction and decorating company. Now everyone will be as successful as my husband but goes back to the old saying "don't judge a book by its cover". My nephew against my wishes and constant riding of his a** dropped out in 11th grade and is now a chef at a very exclusive restaurant in Dallas making as much money if not more then I was making as a clinical psychologist!
2007-03-14 12:45:24 · answer #4 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should probably not say to much to her about how you feel, it will just make her stay with him that much more.
If he is into drugs and now looks it. he has done them for a while and maybe has a police record. YOu can call them and ask, tell them you are worried for you sister and they can check it out for you. \
You should not however judge people by there appearence alone, so check him out, etc. hire a P.I. to follow him. if you can. Call his boss and ask about him, you do not need to give you name or anything, ask about his work ethics and is he on time, does his work well.
2007-03-14 12:30:29 · answer #5 · answered by picture 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jus talk to her about how you feel and that you will be there for her because love is blinded. If she did not treat her last boyfriend good even though he treated her like a godess, then she does not appreciate when she has something good, she is not being serious when it comes to choosing guys.
2007-03-14 12:17:22 · answer #6 · answered by tai&amc 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her how you feel. Tell her you care about her and that she can do better. Don't accuse the bf of things you don't know for sure if he is using drugs but tell her you think he may be involved with something. If she doesn't listen, tell her to atleast be careful. Good luck!
2007-03-14 12:20:59 · answer #7 · answered by lovin' life... 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just let the relationship run it's course, maybe your sister is just going through a bad boy stage, she'll snap out of it. Hang in there.
2007-03-18 20:40:14 · answer #8 · answered by Jenna P 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand that you want the best for her and that she can do better but she has to make her own choices and learn from her mistakes. I would tell her how you feel, just so that she would know that you are concerned. Good luck!!
2007-03-14 12:26:15 · answer #9 · answered by mrs.new_major_07 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can try to tell your sister what's going on. But in the end, it's up to her to decide who she wants to spend the rest of her life with, and there's nothing much you and your parents can do, really.
2007-03-14 12:56:41 · answer #10 · answered by Hanna 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not going to like this but sometimes the only thing we can do for someone is be there when they realize they made a mistake.
2007-03-14 12:38:42 · answer #11 · answered by Coyote81 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋