I will be 18 years old soon. It is bad enough to try and have to convince my parents it is okay for a woman to go to the Marines, but now I have to convince him. I have an appointment with a recruiter soon and I told him. He said he thought I was just full of admiration for the Corps and did not realize I intended to enlist. He thinks because he is 24 he knows more than I do! How do I explain to him this is okay? We really need to have a united front because my dad doesn't know anything about my full intention to enlist in the Marine Corps and that I have been dating my fiance since I was 15. He will be so angry that I have to make sure my fiance is "on the same page" with me.
2007-03-14 04:55:04 · 10 answers · asked by honeysistagirl 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Thank you all so much for your answers.
My neighbor down the street is a veteran and I have been working with disabled veterans for a time now as a volunteer (magazine person). Statistics ah yes, yes tom j, I could die, mr coyote my parents won't let the recruiter come to my house, I look forward to working with Brother Marines, but don't think you are supposed to date them, mr white my father got angry when I told him about Marine Corps he said women don't belong there, I am sorry, I hope the Corps will have a place for me and he is the only one I have dated, my mother knows about him just not my dad because he is too strict and thinks of me always as a small child, GAI I have known him since I was a kid, he can be immature... Thank you all and thank you to all those who answer later!
2007-03-14 06:00:36 · update #1
Oh yes. I will think about everything.
Thankyou too Pedros20. Flygirl & Farien thank you too and I want to join the Marine Corps because I want to help my country and not be a silly teenager anymore. Want to be courageous and responsible for my country in the USMC for the rest of my life hopefully.
2007-03-14 06:11:28 · update #2
Thank you all so very much. The computer says I need to give a best answer. I hate having to rank things, but I will have to do it I guess, but please don't think the rest of you didn't give good answers I read every one and appreciated every one. They are all so special to me. Thank please so much!
2007-03-15 09:23:58 · update #3
Why are you engaged at 18 in the first place? Bad move. Why is he, at 24 dating a teenager? Move on by yourself. I got married at 18 and it is still the worst decision I ever made. My husband was 10 years older than I was and I as I got older and wiser I realized he was a punk kid. Go enlist in the corps if you want to, that is an honorable thing to do. Dump the guy on the way to the recruiters office. You need to be able to grow up on your own without some 24 year old boy keeping you from your dreams. There are a million more guys out their you can get married to and probably closer to your age and your maturity. The military is stressful enough at times and you don't need a "fiance" back home to baby through things. OH!!! I just read the rest of your story......he was dating YOU when you were 15 and HE was 21!!!!! Get rid of this guy seriously. No adult who is worth anything dates a child. Run to the Corps and start a fresh new life, you will hurt a lot at first, but once you are free of this predator you will be a VERY happy camper ready to take on the world.
2007-03-14 05:46:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first question would be why are you engaged already at the age of 17? You havent even started to live your life yet, and already you are trying to determine your mate for the rest of your life? Do you think you'll be the same person at 27 as you are at 17? You wont be.
Sit down and think about your life and your choices. Ask yourself some hard questions. Why am I engaged before I'm even fully an adult with adult experiences? Why do I want to join the military? What do I hope to achieve by that? What do I want from my life?
Decisions like this require wisdom and maturity, and NEITHER of those qualities generally occur in someone who's 17 years old. They take time.
2007-03-14 05:50:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't recommend you join the Marine Corps (especially in this war), but I respect you for your bravery. As for your fiance, it's best to sit down with him and have a serious talk. Explain to him that this is something you really want to do, and show him the statistics of the number of people in the Marines versus the number of people that actually get injured/killed. Him being 24 means he has more experience and maturity, and it's natural for him to take a protective role (you can't really blame him for it). Again, I think it's best if you go to college or something rather than join the military, because I don't see the point in risking your life for a pointless war. Besides, by the time you enlist and go through all the training, we might have pulled out of Iraq already, but who knows (you might argue this point with your fiance).
In any case, I wish you the best of luck!
2007-03-14 05:08:54 · answer #3 · answered by pedros2008 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you should wait a couple of years to sort things out. Eighteen is pretty young to get married. Your have a lot of decisions to make about your career and having a partner is going to make things harder. Talk to some vets and start training to get yourself in shape if the Marines are where you are headed.
2007-03-14 12:47:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
"my dad doesn't know anything about my full intention to enlist in the Marine Corps and that I have been dating my fiance since I was 15."
Obviously you know nothing of honor and integrity.
The corp is not the palce for you.
2007-03-14 05:44:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My friends left leg was blown off by a bomber in Iraq. I wouldnt convince until you've seen the wounded. Brave girl, I'll admit .. but as militray brat myself, I must say that you are fighting an invisible war.. not fought by just guns anymore but surprise explosions... I would definately visit a vetran hospital before making such a life-threatning choice. Best of luck
2007-03-14 05:00:54 · answer #6 · answered by 2008 matters 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Tell him you'll get a tattoo on your leg with his name on it. Not only will it be seen as a commitment to your fiance, it will also make it easier to spot your leg once you are picking it out from the carnage that has ensued with Bush's war.
2007-03-14 05:14:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I would talk with some local veterans first. See what they say.
2007-03-14 05:03:36 · answer #8 · answered by KCBA 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Who cares what he thinks....after your in the corps...you will be
getting rid of your fiance and hooking up with Marines...
don't forget you heard it here first....trust me!
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Listen I aint trying to discourage you......but if you think you aint gonna dump your fiance for one of the 1,000 upon 1,000's of Marines you will be around....then you are crazy!
wake up ....Nothing but cheating going on in the Marine Corps life!...............ps:there is no Santa Claus!
2007-03-14 05:24:13 · answer #9 · answered by Alpha Wolf(Bringer of Rain) 5 · 2⤊ 3⤋
ask your recruiter to speak with those concerned for you.
2007-03-14 05:22:02 · answer #10 · answered by Coyote81 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋