how to deal with this???

Question

the guy im in love with, whos only in his teens, had been planning to go to the over-18s clubs with me and my other guymate even though we're younger than that. he phoned me on saturday night and we chatted, but not about that. this was after 11pm. i get a text from my other guymate on the monday saying they both went to the overs on that saturday and met up at half eleven, which is funny because he phoned me from his house at 11.20. basically the both got drunk and ended up breaking their virginity with girls 6 or 7 years older than them. im heartbroken. i dont know how to deal with this, but im not sure if its a joke or not. i think they might be kiddin on. my guymate apparently got the girl he was with pregnant... she wouldnt know within four days, would she?? im very confused and really heartbroken. any advice watsoever is valued. x

Answer 1

Honey these guys both sound like a pair of losers. I know it's easy for me to say as an old lady (well in my late 20s which is old compared to you lucky young thing!) but any guy that makes you feel like you are feeling right now before you've even been on a proper date is simply not worth the time of day.

I really wish I could have known all that I know now at your age but I didn't! One thing I will seriously recommend though is a book called 'Why Men Love B1tches'. It's very funny and seriously will give you a real insight into how you avoid this scenario and how you can end up calling the shots with men. Read it, cherish it, believe it, and I am certain you'll avoid one whole load of heartache in the long term.

I kid you not this book has made life sooo much easier for myself and a lot of my friends. I sure wish I had it in my teens and early 20s.

You can look inside the first few pages on Amazon here http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/1580627560?ie=UTF8&tag=topofthehoffs-21&linkCode=as2&camp=1634&creative=6738&creativeASIN=1580627560 but can buy it in high street bookshops too if you don't want to buy online.

Answer 2

Listen hunnie even if theyre jokin no man is ever gonna be worth your tears.
Ive been with boys that have made me cry and im sure they'll be many in the future that do the same but you have to come out of the other side of it smiling and saying it was all worth it because its made me a stronger person.
Don't feel heartbroken feel happy that youve realised your better than that.
No man is worth your tears but the one who is wont make you cry!! you remember that!!
Boys lie sometimes (well often) to make themselves feel better about themselves its silly and just hurts evryone else. Keep smilin good luck with everything xxx

Answer 3

Sorry dear, but they are a couple of very immature losers and you should ditch them. Does it matter if it's true or not?

Either they're having a wind up or they're horrible guys anyway. If it's a wind up (very likely), then it's either because they like you, or they're having problems with the idea of you liking one of them (more likely) - severly immature.

...and as for the pregnancy - far too soon to know. Why don't you wind them up back and tell him he's going to have to pay for that kid for the rest of his life and never have a life of his own, all for just a dirty cheap one night stand. You could wind it up further to say that you think it's disgusting that they should choose to spend their evening like that and that they've probably caught something and got worts in places you really don't want them etc.

Answer 4

No she couldn't know she's pregnant within 4 days unless she was up the duff with another bloke before screwing your guy mate.I think they're just bragging about something that only happened in their fantasies which is pretty immature but typical of teenage boys.

Answer 5

It seems to me that your teen friend asked you out first not because he particularly wanted you, but just someone he might be lucky enough to get into bed with, otherwise he won't have done what he did. What reason have you got to be heartbroken over such a guy?

Answer 6

it's mre than likely boll ocks but if he's trying to make you jealous like that then he's not worth bothering with. None of you would have a hope of getting in anywhere where I live, all the clubs have got scanners that you have to pass your passport or driving licence through and they ID everyone, even if they're in their 30s.

Answer 7

psssh no deal i choose for my £10,000 hi do you think of there actual is a banker on deal or no deal? or is noel merely speaking on the telephone to himself? or something stupid like that

Answer 8

They are winding you up.Your best bet is to ignore them& its way too early for him to be bragging about getting a girl pregnant ,does he know how you feel about him.

Answer 9

Tell the both of them you have met someone else who is more to your liking, and Good-bye!

Answer 10

she can't possibly know if she is pregnant! and if she is, the baby is certainly not your mates child. dump him and find someone better, someone who thinks you are worth more than a drunken fumble with some sl@g.