When your bf has changed with you, is it always a sign of trouble??

Question

My boyfriend has been changing towards me lately. Sometimes he doesnt kiss me when he first sees me anymore, sometimes he wont hold my hand, etc. He says that it is just that our relationship has "gone" to that level where we dont need to be kissing or cuddling all the time.
He made me feel like he is being pulled a thousand ways. Should i start to worry about it or should i give him space?? Any advice would be great. Especially the guys. Since you have a mind of your own.

Answer 1

Changes like that could indicate several things.

Some guys are not as affectionate after some time not because they do not care anymore but they just feel it's too much to do it all the time.

For some guys these changes can indicate that they are losing interest in the relationship. It can also indicate that the guy may be cheating. I've known a lot of girls who complained about their boyfriends being unusually "cold" with them, and not too long after they found that they were with another girl behind their back.

The problem with things like this is that it's never a clear indication. In other words, one action doesn't always have the same explanation. If he's getting cold with you for seemingly no reason it could be any number of things. It doesn't only mean he doesn't love you, it doesn't mean that he is cheating. It may just mean he has some personal issues going on right now that are holding him back.

I would suggest communicating with him. Let him know that it's something you enjoy & need to have in your relationship. Also be observant of his activities when you're not with him. See if he's getting closer to any other people. If things do not get better in time I would suggest moving on. What's the purpose of being in an affectionate relationship when the person doesn't show affection towards you? Especially when i am sure that there are others out there who would give you the love & affection you deserve.

Best of luck to you!

Answer 2

He's right. When you first meet it's hot and heavy, can't get enough of talking, touching kissing...etc. Then as the relationship transforms the need to be reassured (by touching, talking all the time etc) becomes less because he's gotten comfortable with you and the relationship. But that does not mean that touch and affection should be completely haulted. So when he does touch you, hold hands or whatever reward him with a "out of the know where kiss" and smile that sweet smile he likes and tell him how much you enjoy his touch. Guys like to be told they matter to you. If you do it enough.. and he cares about you then he'll always want to see that he pleases you. The holding hands or touching will become a natural thing for him to do. Don't just dump him for something that can be solved and is not a real problem anyway.

Answer 3

Ignore the girl who said to leave him. That's way too harsh. Guys can change their feelings on a relationship without it meaning they're losing interest. A lot of times we do things early in a relationship that we know make you happy, and as time goes on and we get settled in, these things begin to slow down. That's probably the explanation for this problem. If he starts calling you extremely infrequently and blowing you off, THEN its a problem. But the fact that he "doesn't always kiss you" when you get together doesn't mean a thing other than the fact that he feels confident that the relationship is becoming more settled.

It could be a bad thing, but doing something drastic would be a huge mistake.

Answer 4

i'm a guy who has been on the receiving end of this treatment, my ex and i had been together for 7 years (i know, the 7 year itch!) since we were 16, towards the end she began to distance herself from me in spite of agreeing to marry me!

anyway, one night she said that she was leaving, at first she gave no reason, later she said that it was because we had grown apart. in the seven years we were together she went to university, became a high flying career girl, whereas i stayed the same, same crappy job and same school friends.

my advice, maybe make some changes in your own life, start doing things for yourself, pursue your interests or find a new one. i think that basically ambition is a very powerful aphrodisiac, try to realise your own ambitions.
good luck

Answer 5

he has gone to that level where he doesnt want to put in any effort to get into your pants, I would start thinking this relationship is gone,,

when he tells you about the level thing again, tell him you feel this relationship has gone to the level where you might as well be single again and have someone love up on you

Answer 6

You want my advice? Give him space, and give yourself too. As a guy I'm suspecting there's another female in his life. May be I'm wrong but watch out anyway. Consider giving him this space, and act differently yourself, and see how it goes.

Answer 7

It sounds like you should give him space if he doesnt follow you than loose him. Especially if he gets irritated easily with little things you do. Find a better one!!

Answer 8

Cheating is natural for most males and most chicks get bored with guys that don't cheat - so you have to cut him some slack

Answer 9

DUMP BEFORE HE DUMPS YOU. WHEN YOU ARE INTO SOMEONE YOU SHOULD WANT TO CUDDLE THEM AND KISS THEM. SURE THINGS SLOW DOWN IN THE RELATIONSHIP....BUT THAT USUALLY SEX. WHO DOESN'T WANT TO HOLD HANDS WITH THE PERSON THEY LOVE.? LIKE I SAID HE DUMP HIM......BECAUSE I AM SO SURE HE IS PLANING ON DUMPING YOU. I AM SO SORRY :( MAYBE NOW YOU WILL FIND SOMEONE WHO WILL LOVE YOU LIKE YOU SHOULD BE LOVED.

Answer 10

I would say its a sign of trouble