So i used to be really jealous type and now that i have changed my bf tries to test me so he went to this party wit his friends b4 i would trip but now i let it go so he went the next day he told me this girl ask for his number but he said he had a girlfriend and i got happy he told me cuz he didnt have to tell me in the first place that he was going to a party. But my friend said when guys say that is because they filt guilty that they actually got the number. I dont want to accuse him of nothing but what do you think?
2007-03-14 04:28:09 · 12 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe he accepted the number but just trashed it i wouldnt question him on it cause ur right he didnt have to tell u anything
2007-03-14 04:35:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What was the purpose of the party? Was it to celebrate someones birthday, a wedding, or another special occasion? Or was it just a place where people got together to have a "good time"?
If it is the latter than it is OK to be jealous and if your bf is not looking for other relationships then he should not go to those types of parties without you.
You guys are dating right now so it will be a bit difficult to set boundaries to the things he wants to do without you. While dating, find someone who loves you and has the same values as you. If he had the same values then he would not be going to parties. You are someone of value and you deserve honesty and fairness in a relationship.
If your bf is being honest with you then it is good that he told you about the phone number. Yes, he might feel guilty that he got the number but that's OK. If a person is really trying to be faithful it would be awkward to get a phone number from someone else. If that happened to me I would tell my wife and I would also stay away from situations that made me feel vulnerable. I would not go to parties just to test out my faithfulness.
2007-03-14 04:31:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. In the most polite way...you have bigger issues than whether your bf got a number!
How can it be healthy for you or your relationship to have so much jealousy or insecurities. Has your bf cheated on you in the past to make you feel this way?
I all, you need to weay it all up and either move forward more stronger or end it and move on.
Love should not be that difficult. All relationships have problems but these type need resolving ASAP.
Good luck!
2007-03-14 04:40:50 · answer #3 · answered by MrC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any guy who "tests" you is not worth your time. Why did he feel the need to tell you about the other girl? Because he WANTS you to flip out. I'd kick him to the curb and find a guy who doesn't seek drama.
2007-03-14 04:36:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The games people play.
Maybe your boyfriend is testing you to see when you are going to react like you used to. He may be uncomfortable with the change in you, but hang in there he will stop testing you eventually bacause it will be become boring.
2007-03-14 04:37:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
for one, it's just a number, and for two, he said no anyways. He did the right thing. There is nothing to accuse him of
2007-03-14 04:32:19 · answer #6 · answered by srjmhottie17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no...i don't think he did anything. i think because you have learned to relax a bit your bf probably felt comfortable telling you. i wouldn't worry. your friend sounds like she is trying to stir up trouble. relax. he is still coming home to you at night right?
2007-03-14 04:33:22 · answer #7 · answered by KIM L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he loves you and is proving his loyalty to you.Like you said he didn't have to let you know any thing,but he did.
2007-03-14 04:37:01 · answer #8 · answered by Goodfellar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just being honest. Give him credit. Tell him "Thanks for being truthful to me, dear. I appreciate it." He'll be motivated & encouraged to continue being truthful to you.
If he wants to hide, he won't even tell you anything. Of course, be alert should there be anything fishy.
2007-03-14 04:34:55 · answer #9 · answered by Queenie Tay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the thing with trust is you dont look for lies you believe that your partner only wants to be with you --- it makes for a much simpiler life --- i trust my lady with my life --- if she no longer wants to be with me she will tell me
2007-03-14 04:38:42 · answer #10 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋