i've been with my girlfriend since last november, sort of.i thought our relationship was going well. we both said we're in love with each other. i know that sounds quick but she reallly does tick all the boxes. we've had a few problems. mainly when we drink, we seem to argue, although this has got better recently. i came on here today to look at her profile and found out that she's been asking loads of questions about our relationship that, i feel, she should have discussed with me first.
i found out she's questioning illnesses, our planned future together and, which shocked me, i found one that asked how to make someone fall in love with you so you can play them.
i'm devastated to say the least. i was sure she loves me but now i just don't know what to do. i'm at uni and will leave in a month. i was supposed to be moving in with her then but now i don't know what to do. do i just stay with her and hope it turns out ok or do i go back to my home city
2007-03-14 04:28:04 · 10 answers · asked by the wise old man 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You really need to just discuss this with her. Honeslty, I don't think it is that big a deal.
Go with how she acts with YOU, not practically anonymous questions she asks on the yahoo answers board.
2007-03-14 04:32:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is Richards girlfriend, (the above poster) I come on here to ask questions sometimes silly ones that dont make much sense because im bored and want to get more points. I posted a question before i met Richard about playing someone, this was when i was with my ex! it was a question for a reaction not that i would ever do that. Richard knows that i come on here and say things that i dont want him to read as i belive in privacy and i know that i post questions that have no relevance im either interested in the subject or im bored. yet he could not help himself, he says he wanted to know what i ask to help our relationship, which totally contradicts him saying i should discuss my problems with him as he should just ask me not go snooping. I do love him so much, and i want us to be happy, but i cant be with someone who invades my privacy like this.
2007-03-14 07:33:49 · answer #2 · answered by wonder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a RED flag and needs to be looked at very carefully. My advice would be to reconsider the entire relationship - especially because of the word "played" Be level headed though and Good Luck.
2007-03-14 04:34:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes. Well... dont jump to conclusions. Sometimes people just need someone elses opinion. As far as the Playing a person question goes... you need to talk to her. Find out what is going on. Just like you think she should have come to you first, you need to go to her. Good luck
2007-03-14 04:33:22 · answer #4 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her!!!! Communication is KEY in any relationship. You need to confront her and find out what her deal is. You are making a huge decision moving in with her and you deserve some straight answers!!
Start of by saying "I was on answers.com and saw some questions by you that freaked me out.... " I mean, you need to talk to her and get it out. Being truthfull with yourself and her is the only way to be.
Good luck!
2007-03-14 04:33:28 · answer #5 · answered by InLoveandWar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Discuss it with her and depending on her answer you may have to bolt on this chick. I would level off the drinking for a while till you resolve this matter. It clouds the judgement for sure.
2007-03-14 04:34:16 · answer #6 · answered by Devdude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak to her about her doubts. Ask her to be brutally honest with you because anything less would be a terrible disservice to both of you.
2007-03-14 04:35:34 · answer #7 · answered by bombastic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confront her, but also go with your gut feeling...you have to look out for yourself and get it on the table...let her know how finding those questions made you feel and she how she reacts to it...
Good Luck
2007-03-14 04:37:57 · answer #8 · answered by Island Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just confront her....
...be calm clear and concise...
2007-03-14 04:31:16 · answer #9 · answered by g_rant07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how sad, just leave her, she doesn't love you
2007-03-14 04:36:25 · answer #10 · answered by Symbolic User 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋