he dumped me after a two year relationship an now he is hanging about with his best friend who is a girl he knows i get jealous of her but he said he doesnt like her in that way, he said we are friends but he keeps saying he needs a break and i dont understand because he says he is totally over me i asked him if he wanted to hang at the weekend and he said he was busy so i said what about the weekend after an he said i dont know should i just not contact him will he get in contact with me please help i need some advice i keep contacting him what should i do
2007-03-14 04:21:00 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, you need to let him go.
Plan some girl time with your friends, get done up and have fun! You need to forget about this jerk. Start talking to other guys and hanging out with new people. Now is a great time to rediscover yourself. Get out there and do some things you have always wanted to do but havn't done yet. :)
2007-03-14 04:40:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him the space he is asking for. He says he is over you, so listen to him. It will show if he really isn't. Maybe he just missed hanging out with his friends. Don't contact him. Look your absolute personal best and always have a smile on your face, DO NOT let it show if you are hurting. He may want to get away from you even more. And guys like it when girls go crazy for them and is craving their attention. So give him so room, and then try again and ask him to do something with you. Just because he is spending time with his close female friend doesn't necessarily mean he is with someone else.
2007-03-14 04:29:59 · answer #2 · answered by Ashley Sweets 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a really difficult thing to go through... a big break up. He sounds like he really needs his space, and he sounds like he is not interested in talking to you right now. You have have HAVE to stop contacting him. Nothing you say or do right now is going to affect him, because he is stuck on "his space."
A lot of guys do this... maybe later on he'll come around, but right now, you need to give YOURSELF a break and just let it go. I know it's hard not to contact him, but you'll really end up looking like a desperate nutjob, even though you're just looking for answers.
Stop calling and try your best to keep him off of your mind. You can do a lot better... it may seem right now that he's the one for you and that you don't want anyone else, but there are people out there who wouldn't put you through what this guy is putting you through. Keep that in mind... It sucks that this guy is being a jerk, but just remember: That's one less person to consider as a possible "mate" later on. You can do so much better. Don't dwell on someone who isn't giving you the respect you deserve.
2007-03-14 04:28:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...hunn i'm gonna tell you the truth i think he is such a jerk to do this to you and he is probably trying to avoid you for all i know so how you feel you probably still love him but i think you should just ignore the jerk and find someone better there are a thousand guys that would want you so dont be waiting for this one trust me he will come around and when he does u will be with your new kind loving man
good luck<3 =D
2007-03-14 04:43:29 · answer #4 · answered by CleoDarling 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say but time to walk away. You are beginning to sound like you are "stalking" Not Good! I know you hurt but I think he's made up his mind and that you have to respect. He can't make it any clearer to you he wants to move on . You are most likely a lovely gal and believe me oodles of guys would be glad to date you. Start living your life now. Mr . Right will show up and be well worth the wait. Dry your tears, put on a smile, head high it's time to get back into the game of "dating" have a blast!
2007-03-14 04:32:01 · answer #5 · answered by lucyshines49 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just get over him hun. He's being a jerk by not being honest with you. If he is hanging out with the "girl" friend of his all the imte, chances are great that he is involved with her, and doesnt want you or anyone else to know. Good luck. Theres alot more fish in the sea.
2007-03-14 04:25:34 · answer #6 · answered by gloriar59 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say give him some space. He obviously needs some time to work out his feelings, but I wouldn't really worry about the friend. Jealousy is a horrible thing to be tangled with .. and a waste of time. Trust yourself and trust that he will come around if it's meant to be.
Good Luck!
2007-03-14 04:24:35 · answer #7 · answered by InLoveandWar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone else. He's obviously trying to avoid you and even tho' he claims he's not w/ the other girl, I'm sure she had something to do w/ your breakup. As jealous of you are of her, she probably felt the same way about you. Let go of this guy and move on. Why would you waste your time on someone that is trying to spend his time elsewhere?
2007-03-14 04:28:35 · answer #8 · answered by sweet libra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys broke up. That means you are no longer together, and he has absolutely no obligation to talk to you, see you, call you, etc. Let him go. He was obviously trying to break up with you nicely by saying he'd like to be friends, but you don't seem to be getting the clue. As to whether or not he'll date his friend, it is none of your business. Of course he'll tell you he won't, because he is trying to spare your feelings.
Accept that you are no longer together and move on.
2007-03-14 04:28:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one is attracted to desperation. Stop being a doormat. Just play hard to get - start dating other guys and leave him alone. If he's interested he will come back to you.
2007-03-14 04:25:10 · answer #10 · answered by Ariba148 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋