I am 20 and a virgin obviously. I am so nervous about the first time. I am very uncomfortable with my body. This is embarassing but I have long labia and I feel like the guy is just gonna be grossed out. This is a big reason why I have not had sex. Also I fear getting pregnant. Also how painful will it be?
2007-03-14 04:14:17 · 7 answers · asked by Amy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i definitely wouldn't be grossed out and make sure that the guy wears a condom! if you want to discuss, let me know!
2007-03-14 04:22:41 · answer #1 · answered by hot_john_dog1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your first time is different for everyone. Personally, I was with someone for a year (and friends first) and so I was comfortable with my partner. There was no pressure and he was tested for STD's beforehand. That sound soooo unromantic, but It was great that he did this because it meant he cared about my body. I was 20 when I lost mine. Make sure first off that you pick the right person. If you do this, then the nervousness of your body will be less... because if he's the right guy- he wont care because sex should be something sacred and special between two people in love. Granted, i've made mistakes in the past, but sex is always better between lovers. Always be protected. Condoms are a must. Tell your partner to take it slow and you should be fine. If you bleed that's normal, but for the most part, I dont think it's that painfull.
Good luck and be safe!
2007-03-14 11:21:01 · answer #2 · answered by InLoveandWar 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I lost my virginity at 17. I was nervous and excited. The guy I did it with didn't even know where the hole was. He had to get under the sheets and use a flashlight. Like he was a gynecology. LOL He won't be grossed out; honey he ain't going to worry about that. Fear about get pregnant; just use protection. That covers that. It's not painful. It might feel uncomfortable for about a minute when he is trying to get it in. After that you are set to go. It's an amazing feeling.Good Luck
2007-03-14 11:28:26 · answer #3 · answered by Proud Mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first time is different for everyone. It can be scary, but don't think too much about all your bodily flaws. I guarantee that the guy won't be paying much attention to them. If he's someone that cares about you, even just a little bit, then he will understand that it's your first time and go slow. The pain will be minimal and you may or may not bleed. You probably will not enjoy it that much, but getting it over with is a huge step. Getting pregnant can easily be overcome by using a condom or, if you plan on having sex on a regular basis after your first time, visit your gynecologist and get a prescription for birth control.
I think I would describe my first time as a kind of "out-of-body" experience. I remember it completely, but it was kind of surreal. It was a little bittersweet, as I imagine everyone's first time probably is. Just make sure you do it for the right reasons and not because you think you have to. Too many women out there get pressured into having sex and it usually leads to unpleasant things. Good luck.
2007-03-14 11:25:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anarchysparky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...I am kind of embarrassed about me giving you pieces of advice, taking into account that I am 18. You shouldn't be ashamed of your body at all. I guess that if u diced to take this step you must have found the appropriate men. If he loves you, any imperfection you body has will be any an insignificant detail. And about the pain.... well.... it depends... there are girls who feel that pain some others don't feel it at all or they feel a little pain. Use protection not to get pregnant: condom, contraceptive pills...you know...the usual.
2007-03-14 11:27:54 · answer #5 · answered by iunona_33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just...use protection and dont do it with anyone you dont think is worth it if you have waited this long, which now days is something very hard to find then wait until you find the right person... GOOD LUCK
2007-03-14 11:22:14 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you uncomfortable with your body? Please email me.
2007-03-14 11:21:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋