he's 35.....I need to know.?

Question

If I am 23 and I like a guy who is 35....are his ways of thinking so different from mine or a guy my age?

Answer 1

Yep...his priorities are different.
there are going to be things that will agitate you - because you haven't survived them yet - and he won't even care about them because he's survived it and has the copeing skills.

This might make you even more crazy.

What upsets you; won't always upset him - and vice versa.

That doesn't mean it can't work - it simply means you both need to recognize these and roll with it.

Good luck and I wish you both much love.

Answer 2

i think thats always different, depending on the people involved. If there is a conection between two people then the age doesnt matter. A friend of mine dated someone who was 50 when she was 24. they were together for over a year and even had a child. The only reason they split up was because he didnt want children but now they are still really good friends. They got on so well, it was really cute. he was not liek 50 at all more like 35 and she was always more mature and seemed older than she was. I think in those kind of relationships the great thing is that u can get on really well and if it doesnt work out ur both mature enough to realise it and can still stay friends. i know exactly how u feel. im 16 and the guy i like is 24, i know the aga difference is smaller than urs but i still have the whole under 18 thing to worry about and worse of all his "baby sister" as he calls her is my age. lol. but i cant stop myself from falling for him. im sure that everything will work out. just think that there are many people out there with the same problem and they seem to be able to do it and so will u. good luck

Answer 3

He might be a little more cultured and mature...you just need to be sure you have gotten all that 23 y/o partying out of yiur system. A 35 y/o is way past that

Answer 4

it depends, if the guy is married, you should definitely stay away from him, don't even try to like him, it will get you into trouble latter on. But if he his single, then i will say love comes in different shapes and ages, it doesn't matter how he thinks, just be yourself, he might be a little mature than you and of-course his ways of thinking will be a little higher than your, but the most important thing is to be yourself. And have fun when with it.

Answer 5

Absolutely. You live in two different worlds of experience. Now, that's not to say if you are both unique and special you may be able to enjoy each other's company. But eventually, your differing maturity levels, experiences and tastes will cause a problem. Been there. Fun for a while, but goals, values, tastes, music, passtimes, are way too different to have anything that one of you won't outgrow.

Answer 6

There may be small differences but you should be able to work with them if you are a mature 23. Our hearts don't ask how old someone is before it falls in love. Good luck and God Bless.

Answer 7

Absolutely different.
Different interests , different generation, different maturity, different place in his life.
You are still in your early years of adulthood. You are finding yourself and looking around and setting up the pattern of your life.
You haven't had the experience he has had.
This will surface very quickly and will be a problem.
he will get frustrated with your attitude in life and probably not handle it well.
Too much of a gap at this age for you....

Answer 8

If you are compatible and enjoy being together that's all that matters. I am 29, and I'm living with a man who is 38. Age has no bearing on the relationship.

Answer 9

You would know better than us. The big thing will be that he is more ready to marry and have kids than you, possibly. Other than that any body of any age wants to have fun, travel, see movies, etc. AS long as you are happy and he treats you with respect, understanding, love and not as some sex slave then what's the problem.

Answer 10

urm ..i like a guy who's older than me as well ..im going to be 22 n he's 33 ..urm ..hes mature in thinking ...very different from guys ard my age ..but the goofy side is still there lol so holding on to a conversation with him , i feel more interesting n able to talk something really serious with , than with those of my age ... However , we both have more incommon regarding our interest than common interest ...which is nice , as it open my eyes to other area as well ... i think totally depends on how both of ure personality r like ...