I know every man is different but this guy has traveled the world, he's romantic, and he's mature. I don't want to ruin things by displaying the maturity level expected from someone in my age group after he's told me so many times that "Women mature faster than men". I know I complain sometimes and things don't always make sense to me. But, I need answers about displaying the utmost maturity... I want to maintain a high level of maturity. How is maturity measured?
2007-03-14 04:00:18 · 14 answers · asked by Benny 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's not THAT big of an age difference.
Judging from the clarity of your writing, I'd say you're mature enough to be with him. Just be yourself - don't try to be something else. If he likes you, he'll like you for who you are.
2007-03-14 04:03:50 · answer #1 · answered by §Sally§ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like my situation as well... he is 29 and i am 23. Well the best I could say is to just be yourself. He loves you for the real you and remember you don't want to try too hard by maintaining that high level of maturity all the time as that may come across as a facade over time. Be comfortable in your own skin as I am sure for him to even bat an eyelid to women our age would mean that he thinks you are matured for your age. Furthermore, we all would gracefully mature as we age so don't rush to grow up that fast.
I also complain sometimes and have my childish moments but its when we are both so comfortable with each other that we unwind even he as well! Its nice when he lets the child within him to surface once in awhile...
2007-03-14 04:10:01 · answer #2 · answered by sweetiepie_cal_5 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask about maturity you don't have it. Maturity is self confidence the ability to be in a relationship and think you are worthy of it. Please don't get involved with someone that makes you think you're not already enough. Trust me at 29 he has not seen the whole world and still has many things to learn. Being traveled is not the same as being intelligent! Being older is not the same as being mature. You don't need to be in a relationship with anyone unless you think you already have something of value to offer. Not the least of which is the chance to get to know YOU. How to display maturity? Grow up!
2007-03-14 04:06:42 · answer #3 · answered by QueenBean 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
a girl is always two years ahead mature than her age. so if you're 23 right now,your maturity level is at the age 25. just like that. that's why it's always advisable to get an older boyfriend,fiance or husband so you could be at par in terms of maturity.
you'll be ok with him.
2007-03-14 04:10:55 · answer #4 · answered by warrior is a child 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
relax. You are making a bigger deal of this than you ought to. If he is attracted to you right now, then you don't need to worry about doing ANYTHING. Just be you. You are probably much more mature than you give yourself credit for. Just because he has travelled a lot, does NOT mean he is mature!!!! Travelling takes place on the outside of us. Maturity takes place on the inside of us.
2007-03-14 04:08:19 · answer #5 · answered by lcamel2000 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just not act like a Barbie girl bore than is enough for a mature guy to accept. Be yourself , if he is mature as you say he will give you time to grow nice as well and have patience with you. Good luck and don't let him go !
2007-03-14 04:05:58 · answer #6 · answered by Pearl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself. It varies. I graduated college at 21 so at 23 I was very mature and independent. Some people are still in college at 23 and their maturity level was very different from mine at 23. You just have to look at where you are in your life and where he is in his. That really has a lot to do with compatibility.
2007-03-14 04:02:50 · answer #7 · answered by Mo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself. Learn from your mistakes. Think of the consequenses of every act you do or a word you say before doing or saying it. Don't judge other people before putting yourself in their shoes considering their surrounding circumstances. Reading is always useful; a book is another person's mind you ad to your own mind. This is almost all about maturity. Good luck, I hope you'll do fine together.
2007-03-14 04:05:21 · answer #8 · answered by RareBird 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
eye of the beholder, I think mostly. Being open, allowing yourself to express your feelings and fears, asking when things don't make sense, showing interest in new and unfamiliar worlds he has travelled in, willingness to learn...these are all things that will help your relationship work. Pretending to be "mature" won't ever work. He will see you for who you are no matter what, so be open to learning new things and expecting change.
2007-03-14 04:05:06 · answer #9 · answered by Wrestler 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are who you are.
You can't pretend to be mature.
If you have to be something you are not around this person, then you shouldn't be there.
if he likes you be yourself. You do not compromise who you are just to be with someone. You are younger, he knows that, quit trying to fit into a pigeon hole here.
if it doesn't work out so be it, then it wasn't meant to be..
have fun , you can't have the same level of maturity as him, he is older, he has traveled and is very independent.
Be you, either he loves you for it Or not.
2007-03-14 04:05:23 · answer #10 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋